Anal?

To all those woman out there that enjoy anal how did you get started first experiences? How did ur man approach the question if he did? I have read lots into anal sex and that woman can have mind blowing crazy orgasms. Sex for me is more about pleasung her than my self, and well our sex life has gotten a bit boring over the past few months. And i want to work on something to get her to reach the biggest orgasm she has ever had in her life. Please to those who are not into anal or think its gross dont post. Any positive insight would be excellent

 

Mutual curiosity between two people in an extended casual relationship.

Never regretted the decision although I have always been very selective towards who get to play there.

 

Hi, im not a woman but I think I can give a good answer on this.

So to begin with the initial experiment for anal was more for me than her but she was game and willing to give it ago. I had heard a lot of mixed opinions about the whole thing so I wanted to just go slow make sure she does not have a bad first experience, I think if a woman has a bad first time anal experience it would be very hard to convince them to try it again any time soon so make sure to do it on her terms.

So the way I started with my partner was to first make sure she is nice and relaxed, set the mood, some foreplay etc etc. And we started off with just one or two fingers up her ass while making her cum from her clit. This proved to be an awesome experience for her and she loved it. From there on out it was pretty easy to ask her to try it. While getting her used to it we had some awesome times, some not awesome times, and one messy time. Now however I can give her ass a good seeing to and she loves it xD

Here are a few things that I have learnt that might help you.

1. Make sure she is in the mood for it and don't force her if she does not want to, if she does not want to she will not relax properly and it could be painful for her.

2. Make sure she is clean outside and in, even if you don't mind her being a bit dirty (personally I do mind, but I know some people who don't care) she will probably care a lot about that.

3. Try to time it with eating and whatever, for instance if she hasn't took a shit that day, and has been eating everything will be moving around, urgh could be some real bad times there bro.

4. Lube is both yours and her best friend here, seriously LUUUUUUUUUBE, remember the anal walls and thin and delicate they can tear easy and cause her a lot of pain, women do not produce any natural lubricate from their ass, so lube up, I mean seriously you cant use to much if you really want her to enjoy it, it needs to be a smooth an experience as possible so lube, and if you think its starting to dry up AT ALL even a little bit, more lube man.

5. If you are worried about germs or anything messy or anything, use a condom.

6. Especially when starting out, take it slooooow, I mean real slow. Move at her speed, if she says stop then STOP. If she says slow, then slow down. Also play with her a lot while going in, it seems to help a lot. Rub her clit, nipples, kiss her nibble her, whatever she likes, all this helps the whole experience, don't go into this experience thinking you can just start pounding away like a porn start it will end badly.

7. Build up over time. As I said we started with just 1 or 2 fingers. Moved onto 3, then used my dick. We also use anal toys, we have this bead one that has 4 sizes on it in a line that one is awesome, push the first one in, play with her a bit, then the next one which is a bit bigger when she is comfortable etc etc really do not rush.

8. Position, I have asked various girls which is best for them and its always different. For my partner on her side or like reverse cow girl position works best for her. But some like doggy style, or missionary, or cowgirl, experiment find what works for you guys best.

9. Have fun. Most important of all. If she likes it awesome go for it as much as you like. If not then try not to push her to hard, just enjoy what you had and tell her how much fun you had as long as your not an asshole about it, she will more than likely be willing to try again until you get it right, just remember to both have fun.


Oh and as for how I approached the question, well I just pretty much asked out right if she wanted to try. She was a bit unsure, I showed her few things on the internet, not porn or anything just a few forums showing how kind of common it is to at least experiment and she got a bit curious and let me try.

 

Thank you for thw replys. I think for her it is more that she thinks its gross. She is a cna and "wips butts for a living". But i think if i can get her past that and show her its not gross and she may really enjoy it, it will be much easier. I have mentioned anal a few times but just as a quick thought we have never really talked about it. So for me to bring it up and talk to her about it is the hard part. I will be gentel as for me i get off more listening to her enjoying what we are doing. If she doesnt enjoy it neather do i. So my biggest concern is how to get her to open up and try it.....

 

To all those woman out there that enjoy anal how did you get started first experiences?
Bad...bad...very bad. He didn't know what the hell he was doing. He played it off like it was an accident but i don't think so he had talked about it before and we had done some anal foreplay but i wasn't ready to take the plunge and he had every intention of plunging my asshole. Needless to say he finished himself up in the bathroom and it was a long time before he got back close to my ass but eventually he did. We did eventually do anal and it wasn't bad at all once we got through the sphincter but getting through there hurt like hell. We used a lot of lube but he didn't let me control the pace and neither one of us knew enough about it to know that's how it had to be. i did a lot of clit play and grunting while he barged his way through but like i said once through there and i loosened up a little oh hell i was begging for it. i enjoyed it enough that the next time i got a chance to get it again i didn't hesitate just played the hell out of that clit and grunted through it. I have a high tolerance for pain so i'm sure that helped. Now later down the road when me and my husband got back together we started anal same thing it hurt like hell till he went through then it was on...hot hot wild sex no kidding. So i got curious and started searching the internet, not something you go talk to the doctor or your mom about you know, so i turned to the internet. It worked out really well for me because i learned that i had to be the one to get him through the sphincter, every time still to this day 17 years later, i ALWAYS get through the wall. Then it's all his and he does what ever he wants with it. I never have any regrets i always beg for more. We usually go through several intense and erotic rounds before we are both satisfied. Once is never enough for either of us.

How did ur man approach the question if he did?
The first one we talked about it some then he played stupid and drilled me in the ass as explained above. I would still like to strap one on and give it to him just one time. He wasn't very well endowed...thank goodness. My husband however is and i don't think he ever knew there was anal with the lover. If he did then the lover told him i never did. He had asked for it before the split but i never gave in so i'm afraid if he knew that i gave in to someone else he would be pretty furious so i just let that sleeping dog lay. if her were to ever ask i wouldn't lie to him but i'm not spilling my guts on it unless i have to. My husband asked me for it first when we got back together about 15 years ago. I gave in pretty quickly because i knew how much i was going to enjoy it once we got through the initial penetration. It was mind blowing though with him it was different but this is one reason i know he loves me because he is really in tune with my pleasure. He wouldn't take me the first time i had to ride him missionary and get him through the wall myself. it was different because the other lover broke that back every time himself. Now about 15 years later i beg him to let me ride him with my ass or i beg him to bend me over and take me for the ride of my life. it's absolutely AMAZING. He told me he thinks i like it more than him and you know what he is right i know i do.

FYI: ibedave gave you some really good tips you should listen to all of them. from a woman's prospective though give her time but if shes showing any interest at all even an i don't know instead of a straight up hell no don't give up but don't lose patience and be pushy either. if she ever lets you go there what ever you do DO NOT break through the door on your own let her do it. lots of lube and guide her but let her set the pace. i still to this day am the one who goes through the sphincter. i have never lost elasticity in my asshole i have never had an anal leakage, seriously we don't do like the porn stars and stretch it to a gaping hole spit it in and fist it use common sense, the same rule applies to anal as vaginal dump it before AND after. We have had some really bad messes really bad but if you go to roadhouse have a big steak dinner and dessert then 4 or 5 hours later try to plunge the asshole guess what the steak will likely come out. the receiver, male or female, needs to eat lightly and try to take a dump before, just like vaginal take a piss before. After, just like you take a piss after vaginal take a dump after anal. Not only do you get the cum out if he dumps in your ass you also get the air out that causes the excruciatingly painful gas the next day. I learned all this from experience what i didn't get off the internet. The gas, oh it hurt so bad i was writhing in the bed all day with pain. I literally got on all fours in the middle of the bed and tried to pull my asshole open to see if i could get the air it, it was so awful. He wanted to take me to the hospital now wouldn't that have been one hell of a sex sent me to the er story, hell no. Just use common sense and think things through and you won't be incontinent you won't have cum seeping out your asshole and you just might have the most mind blowing sex of your life. I sure did, still do quite often.

 

Iamhis028 thank you for sharing! I really appreciate it. Thats why i wanted to hear from a womens perspective. Any guy can say we did it and she liked it lol. I hope that she will let us experience it at some point. Because id love to give her that mind blowing orgasm that u talk about. I just need to figure out the right way to approch it without upsetting her. Any more input would be great! Thanks again

 

Iamhis028 thank you for sharing! I really appreciate it. Thats why i wanted to hear from a womens perspective. Any guy can say we did it and she liked it lol. I hope that she will let us experience it at some point. Because id love to give her that mind blowing orgasm that u talk about. I just need to figure out the right way to approch it without upsetting her. Any more input would be great! Thanks again