Hi, I have been asked to bottom by my partner….I never have and have never wanted to. But I want to be a good partner, and be open minded. Tips on how to make it work? Any expectations? Thank you in advance!
Bottoming is extremely pleasurable......douche first to be clean, plenty of lube and get your partner to take slow as ... probably better first if he does some finger play, one ..two fingers, tease your prostate. Or practice first with small/medium dildos to loosen up. Your sphincter will open up and you need to get used to simply relaxing your hole. So long as you are clean you can even push a little as uf you having a shit and his cock will slip in easier. It's maybe easier if he takes you on your side first, spooning, your hole will be more relaxed. That was how my first guy fucked me. Good luck...enjoy....once you got used you'll love to be his sub. Simon
I think this is going to be an interesting thread. I love anal pleasure, but am so nervous about taking the big step.
I was nervous the first time but once your in to it the nervous goes away ..........Then it all pleasure!
I just have to share my first time… we were in the shower. I fully thought the guy knew about anal and how it all worked. I had played quite a bit with dildos and plugs and could easily take them with lube and slow insertion. There we were, all soaped up and hard and ready to go. I told him I wanted to feel it in me. He quickly threw on a condom ( I had the lube bottle there already ) and slathered the condom and my butt hole with lube. I leaned forward a bit, SUPER excited at what I was about to feel. He grabbed my hips. The anticipation was unbelievable. I felt the head against my anus …here we go. This is going to be amazing. Holding my hips, he SLAMS it into me in a millisecond and actually made me feel faint. NOT from pleasure but from instant pain. I leaned against the shower wall for several minutes as the pain subsided and my clear vision came back. Needless to say, that was not a pleasurable experience at all. I guess he had seen too many porn movies and just thought he could slam it balls deep in one thrust. Unforgettable first experience. ( after and hour or so, all was back to normal back there and I finally got it ) Moral to the story, the giver MUST go slow until the receiver is relaxed and stretched. THEN you can hit it harder.
I worked my first wife into anal by massaging her anus during intercourse and slowing entering a finger, she loved it. As time went on I was working two fingers and going deeper and her orgasms were over the top. The one evening she said she wanted me to fuck her ass. I lubed her and my cock up, massaged her anus and was working my thumb in and out as her moans of pleasure were turning me on. I positioned myself behind her (spooning), she lifted her leg up to expose her bung hole as I placed the head of my cock against her anus and gently made entry. She gasped when my head entered as I just went in and out with the head of my cock as she was enjoying it and had an orgasm...Over time I was able to slowly work my entire cock deep into her ass providing complete pleasure for her. My present wife pretty much worked my ass the very same way while sucking my cock she used her fingers, then a vibrator, then a larger dildo. Then one evening she convinced our male lover to fuck me in the ass while sucking my cock. I've had nothing but pleasurable experiences with both giving and receiving as long as it's taken slowly with plenty of lube. Good Luck and ENJOY!
My girlfriend from 2016-2019, who knew that I was bisexual, expressed her desire to peg me. To this day I have only topped men, though I fantasize all the time about bottoming. But it was actually more about that she was fantasizing about fucking a man, rather than about addressing my desire to bottom with a man. Since my gay desires started back in 1992, my fantasies of getting fucked by a guy led me to fuck a lot of different vibrators and especially dildos with my ass over the years, during my many masturbatory sessions, always pretending it was a real guy and cock fucking me. So I did not have too much trouble with her inserting her strap-on into me each time. I know how to relax my hole during insertion, and she adjusted her penetration based upon any pain I was experiencing. It's all about going nice and slow, stopping to let my outer and inner sphincters relax with the current stage of insertion, before continuing to push in a little bit more. She ended up really loving the power that she felt in the top role. However, I never told her this, but every time she fucked me with her "cock", all I could ever think about was how I wanted it to be a real guy and his real cock pounding my ass. After she and I broke up in December 2019, I was so excited about being all gay again, and exclusively so, since I had no desire to seek another woman, casually or romantically. Unfortunately the pandemic had and has curtailed most of those wishes almost entirely, as so far I have only been with a guy, twice, in September 2020. But he was mostly a bottom, so I didn't have the chance to finally have my true anal cherry popped--by a real man and a real cock. But just in case, I did give myself a tap water enema with a bulb an hour before heading over to his place the first time--but not a full and deep one: just in the rectum and not into the colon. From the photos he shared, it didn't look like his cock would reach my colon. Since any insertion by either of us would involve a condom, I felt the douching would be good to be as clean as possible. I realize a condom is not necessary in your personal situation with your partner, for others reading this thread I want to point out that the reason I bring this condom point up is that there have been a lot of studies showing that douching with water (plain or with soap, salt, and/or anti-bacterial products) or Fleet enemas before barebacking greatly increases the chance of HIV infection or other STIs, because it damages the epithelium (the outer skin layer of or mucus membranes lining the inner walls of the rectum and colon). Mind you, this was before PrEP was on the market, because now all the best advice coming from within the male gay and bisexual communities says that if you're going to be doing any barebacking, you should be on PrEP. But of course this only protects you from HIV. Note that the studies over the last 20 years all say that iso-osmolar based enemas are the way to go, but I don't believe any commercially available product outside of the laboratory has been created yet, shockingly. Bottom line with the enemas and barebacking, I would say, is be on PrEP and forget any enema; make sure your diet has lots of fibre; have a good bowel movement sometime during the day before sex; and be okay if any fecal matter appears while fucking: it's natural. Mind you, in all the time that my girlfriend fucked my ass, no fecal matter ever appeared.
Hey, thanks for that, a very interesting post for a bottom who douches quite a lot. I've been on PrEP two and a half years and quite active so different douche methods while travelling are topical for me. As a pescatarian with a fibre diet stuff passes through me pretty quick, and I am just not keen on scat mixing with sex. So simply water douche in different ways. Why is it so difficult to produce iso-osmolar and based enemas and rectal microbicides? Simon
My first time bottoming was standing, deeply bent-over outdoors. I was taken by surprise (we were both naked with erections), but no thrusting, just a gradual, eventual complete insertion with continuous forward pressure for a long time. I finally orgasmed and then so did he. He had done some planning (and pre-lubing), but didn't inform me. I realized then why he had been watching my squatting BM earlier with obvious interest. My second time was with a polite, married fellow who had seen me naked many times and wanted to have "intercourse" with me. I think he assumed I was experienced. We connected on his living room carpet for several hours of careful, cautious movement, and then met three more times that week. Later, living in different states, we would meet half-way many times to continue our connections. He was the first one to photograph my anus to help ease the pain of separation.
I personally improved the fecal issue with a change to a lower-fiber diet: animal-based with some white rice and fruit. Before, with large, soft stools, "messy" was the applicable term. Now, with small, firm, infrequent stools, I hardly even need toilet paper or an anus for pooping. If not for the other "exercise", it might just atrophy, dry up, and fall off. Whenever you change your diet, there's a transition period while your internal biome (colonic bacteria) changes. But there are ways to speed this up. One occasional partner liked my new dietary results and volunteered his rimming services to help shorten his own transition. As you might guess, I was only too happy to contribute to his self-improvement effort.
Ok I'll try to describe it...............I met the guy at a bar after several beers he asked me the big question "ever been with a guy" no was the answer but I'm willing. Twenty minutes later I'm at his place. I I headed to a near by sofa but then he said get on the floor take your cloths off which I did right away and in seconds I'm all fours. on my knees and my elbows on the floor. My ass then is facing the ceiling he gets behind me naked of course then he slides his cock in me slowly. I felt no pain what's so ever just his hard cock as it slid in my ass slowly once completely in me he leaves it in me for a while with out moving it at all. My cock is hard as a rock by then with his right hand he begins to jack me off. Oh did it feel good real good then i cum big time by then he begins to pump me again .that felt much better but then I feel I'm going to shit so I tell him to stop and he did but not for long as he begins to fuck me again then he cums and I shit a bit... it's a complete mess but it feels so good I tell him not to stop again............ and he doesn't. He fucks for a while longer needless to say it's a complete mess but the pleasure is worth it...................... I know it sounds gross but some times pleasure is grows.
I was with two guys and when the first penetrated me he stretched me so wide and quick, and then fucked me so deep that when he pulled out there was a little bit of a mess. I apologized feeling embarrassed. But, his partner wiped me and said it was nothing considering the tree trunk i was just fucked with, lol. Then he took his turn fucking me with his 7 inch thick cock . And all was well!
I was bottoming in the back seat of a vehicle--lap sitting, actually--when a hygiene problem became obvious. Gravity probably made things worse in this position, but when we realized what was happening, we were able to awkwardly slide out without contaminating the seats and carpet. After I finished squatting in the bushes, wiping-off and passing a quick inspection, we again took up where we had left off--but now sitting in the open doorway. Even then, he unsurprisingly soon needed to do some more wiping, but without physical disengagement. Finally, we just sat quietly and listened to the birdcalls, the effects of which seemed to be heightened by our respective states of arousal. Really, a broadly enjoyable experience: sex-in-nature. Sometimes, my more cautious tops begin by inserting dildos. This can and does expose hygiene problems prior to actual penile penetration, when corrective action is most desirable.
