Okay, I really hope there's not a previous thread on this subject that I overlooked, but am alone in my extreme disliking of the idea of having a babysitter or a daycare caring for my children when I have some of my own? Is it bad or ridiculous paranoia to fear the situations that could happen? I've already mentioned in a couple of threads about my situation with the abusive babysitter, but the biggest thing about that was my mom got good reviews from other mothers. It's impossible to schedule a viewing of a daycare and know you'll get plain honesty because if criminal activity is going on, of course they're going to cease when a visitor comes. I also really hate the idea of any person raising my kids but me and my husband. I know the saying "it takes a community to raise a child," but I always feel so horribly for children who grow up with nannies...I mean, if you don't want to raise your own child, adoption's a wonderful alternative. I feel quite hypocritical, though, because I plan on sending our kids to public school. I really want to practice psychology and I'd like to start working when they go off to school. I feel like my brain is just a twisty map of thoughts and contradictions. Ack, working mamas, how do you do it? I was lucky enough that my mom stayed at home with me until I was about 3, and she worked at the school I went to for two years, and then she became a stay-at-home mom after that. But financial situations have been a horrible strain for us and I don't want my kids to worry like my brother and I have had to. I really have no idea where this is going...but basically is it realistic to take a few years off when I'm a new mommy and then work, while maintaining a good family life? I just want to raise my own children. Does any of this make sense? I'm sorry if it doesn't, I have a tendency to rant. If I need to clear anything up or summarize better, just ask, lol.