Am I just being jealous?

Well I would have to ask two questions:

1) Was he really staring at this girl, or has she just built it up that way her mind?

2) If he was staring at her, why? I know I could have a lot of reasons for looking at someone other than wanting to fuck them.

 

Couldve. he kept looking back. Either thinking "what is she doing with him?" or "what is he doing with her?' or something else but i dont want to upset her.

but IF he was really captivated by her, he wouldve done something that night or soon. According to the OP, he didnt that we know of

We may not know yet really.

 

My impression is that she's overreacting to something that wasn't that big of a deal.

 

I was using my girlfriend, zfinity's, computer, when I stumbled across this post. She did tell me she sought advice from an online forum, which initially made me upset. Why is it so hard for you to trust me when I tell you things, but you can easily go to strangers? Things like this don't make sense to me. As for the whole staring thing....

I still have not been able to convince zfinity that I was not staring. From the perspective that I had, I couldn't see this other bitch, she was kind of behind my roommate. But yes, I did occasionally look at her. Not for any kind of sexual purpose. Just the kind of looking to acknowledge that another human being is present. Most of my attention was focused on my roommates, who are the people I really care about. This girl that is causing the problem has no respect from me. She is a booty call. She literally gets a call from my roommate, and then comes over, hangs out for a couple hours, gets fucked, and then goes home. I'm kind of losing a lot of respect these days for the roommate responsible for inviting this bitch. Not to mention, zfinity is a million times better looking than the makeup caked troll that is in question. zfinity also failed to mention in her original post that she was not even sitting at the table the entire time, she was in the kitchen making hot buttered rum for all of us, and when she was sitting with us, she set up her chair a couple feet behind me, so I would have to turn to look at her. I was not ignoring my woman. She was just being a little anti social that day.

Thats just the surface, however. I really love her, but she has a hard time trusting me because of the men she has been in relationships with in the past. She assumes we are all the same. While I will admit that there are many similarities between all men, (something you could say about woman as well), I know I have a different perspective on life compared to a lot of the men I encounter. its true that many men want to be single womanizers...because they think woman are horribly stupid and make all of their decisions without an ounce of logic, purely with emotion. Personally, I grew up with sisters, a mom, and a grandmother...all woman. I know how they want to be treated by men. I know how I would want other men to treat them. I apply those same values to my life, and treat zfinity that way. With loyalty and love. I do not give any of my loving, sexual, emotional, or any other kind of attention away freely to other woman. The kind of man I am being accused of being is what my father was. A man who was never there for me my entire life. I hate him, and I want to be the complete opposite. I also want a family. That is something I know I cannot have if I am oogling at other woman. I have many reasons to not oogle or stare. According to zfinity, I have only one reason to stare: Because I am a man. Its more frustrating for me, at least from my perspective, being with a woman who doesn't trust me and acknowledge my loyalty, than it is for her having to deal with the idea that I am disloyal. Lucky for zfinity, she is with a good and very patient man who loves her, and would wait through the end of time for her to work out whatever is going on inside of her brain that causes her mistrust. I just love her. Thats all. Other woman don't mean a thing to me.

 

Who gives a shit really, isn't it who he comes home to everynight that counts?

P.S dude you're a snoopy SOB eh?

 

Bravo Mr.Thehomiecdub

 

Guys are deusch bags!....

 

$30 a hair cut? And he's complaining? my ex cut her hair every two months for $130. anyhow, I think he was just staring at her, nothing is series for real.

 

to OP: I can understand what you mean. It can be difficult when someone you care about is looking at someone else (seemingly lustfully). It can be hurtful, and even more so when the guy just shrugs it off as if it was nothing. Of course, it seems that nothing happened, so that's good.

To the boyfriend, the ladies like getting attention, so if you do have to look at another girl (even out of disrespect) always give your girl a longer look. It'll show her you're thinking of her, even if another girl's around.

 

All men are like that. Such dick heads.

 

Was it really worth digging this up just for a stereotypically misandrist generalisation?

 

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We are all attracted to novelty, there are times when we all are not wholly attentive to each other because we have emerging interests through out the day.

 

From my perspective, you are overreacting. It's understandable that him looking at another girl, especially one all done up, can cause a bit of jealousy within you, but it's evident within your initial post that you are thinking about this a little too much. It's also evident, by your boyfriend posting his point of view (obviously making a hipforums account especially just to justify himself to you and us onlookers), that the entire situation has already been blown out of proportion. Take a few deep breaths. You'll probably laugh at how silly this is in a week or two, realistically.

 

Next time you're with your BF and you see another hot guy, keep staring. Also make comments about how good looking he is. See how the BF likes it. I find that guys are always making insensitive comments without thinking about our feelings. They should know how it feels.

 

If the guy down the street wins the lottery, does that make you poorer?
You should know that your emotional body is tied to nature of the commentary going on in your head.