Am I hurting this girl? Thoughts?

Alright.. I'm gonna write down the story.
So the whole thing started with me being on xtc trying to talk with a black dude at my workplace and then I spotted this girl who was looking at me (works there too)

A few weeks later I had a speed overdose and went psychotic for about a month..
I had a delusion that everyone at the workplace thinks Im gay because this black dude who I talked with on xtc started a gossip because he thought I was trying to fuck him (I had big pupils and a smile).. So I did what everyone would do... I asked the girl for a drink.

I am an expert at reading body language and I have known that she likes me and thought that I just quickly hook up with this one so the gossip (that might have been existing only in my head since no one actually told me about it) would go away...

So... I never talked with her before (only asked her name) and just walked up to her and asked her if she would get something to drink with me after work and maybe have a chat....
and she said :No!

alright.. cool I thought. I guess a no is a No. I'm not gonna bother her again..
But as it turns out she actually didn't mean to say no. (facepalm)
She thought I will go back and ask her again and again ( the three times rule) and then she will say yes... but I didn't. I never talked with her again.

Anyways the story does not end here.. I saw her nearly every day for months... and day after day she started to get more and more confused.. Why am I not asking her again?

I was busy going after other girls so I didn't give a damn and just ignored her. and she kept looking at me staring into my face confused. Why am I not asking her again?

She looked confused and unhappy. every time I would enter the place she would turn her head down and look like she was about to cry. And I kept ignoring her.

She got over this stage and started to hold her head up again, I heard her talking a few days ago about a certain someone (me ) who acts like a brain dead zombie and she just cant talk with him (never really tried tho)....
She knew I heard this and expected me to say something. And I just kept ignoring her.

Today when I walked past her I saw and heard her "smelling" me. You know.. when someone passes next to you and you take a deep breath through the nose to inhale the sweet smell.

I really need to talk with this girl. I know she is lonely and depressed and has no friends and I'm just making her situation worse. But its a very awkward situation. I'm not sure how to handle it. Should I say I'm sorry?
I mean.. she said no..I can ready her mind through body language but you never know what they say..
Tell me what you think!

 

i think that you need to stop doing so many drugs. i'd bet a large amount of money that this has been completely constructed in your mind.

 

I think you should walk past her and smell her..
then ask if she wants to go get coffee during lunch break

 

i dont understand the second sentence.. the money completely constructed in my mind?

this thread is not about that.I am drugs. Like Dali..

but this one is about a girl.

The question is : should I keep ignoring her or should I talk with her and say I'm sorry for asking you for a drink.... and sorry for showing attraction while I was not really attracted?

 

you should go in front of her desk and do a dance and then walk away, then see what happens

 

This is an internet forum. Make a tl;dr.

 

it was very interesting, you missed out

 

I hope he makes a tl;dr, so I don't have to miss out.

 

all is good. not on meth you mofos..no love for the real freak culture here i see..
you are all wankers ...
for the body language class!! I read some books written by the fbi.. + lots of desmond morris and allan pease....

 

I think you should take the black guy out for a drink.. buy him a white russian..

 

First of all, why do you give a fuck if people think you're gay? Your sexual preference is none of their business, so stop acting like their opinion matters, because it doesn't.

Second of all, if you like this girl, then you should ask her out. You shouldn't ask her out just because you feel sorry for her though, because that won't end well and will destroy her self-esteem, which, based on what you've said, is already in short supply.

 

let's get this straight:

you cannot read her mind through body language

 

Alright...first of all (disclaimer- sometimes things I post have already been brought up. I almost never read more than the original post before replying)...
first of all- you have to see "black dude"- do you live in that much of a non-diverse place that you have to mention race? Actually, no, not even that....that's just odd to me because even when living in a place that is 99% white, it is still odd as the world has shrunk no matter who your neighbors...
neways
Second you are in the opiate forum just the other day (posting on speed and admitting it!), telling people that opiates and benzoes are both so terrible that they are the devil and you can release endorphins by exercise....and I told you there you are talking to people, probably much better educated on opiates than you are, like they are stupid and it's not cool to talk down to people. And here you are mentioning a month long speed binge w hallucinations... (going "psychotic")....so, so far I want to say that though I think you mean well by your advice... you appear to need to lay off the drugs. You are not only being hypocritical but displaying delusions of grandeur.

OMG..wow. YEA. Just finally finished your whole post. You are nuts. You are sure she was waiting for you to ask three times. She was smelling you. She is so depressed over you. She has no friends.

Yea...and you are Jesus too and can walk on water.
Dude, she was probably happy as all get out that the crazy, psychotic meth addict stopped bugging her!

Peace n love.

 

Of course he's sure. Afterall, he's a self-proclaimed "expert at reading body language". :rofl:

 

Can you make money teaching internet classes on body language reading? Hmm, something to think of... both to the OP and to myself as well- I'm actually currently not broke but I could always use a new hustle.

 

I can't help but imagine him all fucked up on drugs, just constantly awkwardly looking at this chick and freaking her the fuck out.

 

Sounds like she's anti-drug and that's why she called you a brain-dead zombie, not because she wanted to talk to you. She probably smelled the reefer on you and didn't like it and was trying to make it apparent to you that she didn't like it. It's nothing to sweat, that's how some folks are. None of us were there to tell you what's going on with her but I'm thinking you're reading too much into this. It's easy to do when a girl doesn't explicitly say 'eww fuck off', I get that, every guy has been there once despite what these folks are saying about "delusions of grandeur". if it bothers you that much thouhg just ask her.

I do see you bumping the psychedelic bump often bro, maybe a little too often. Clearing your head for a while I think will do you some good. It's (sort of) a fact that people on MDMA can't properly distinguish body language. If quitting HF helps you lay off for a while then good on ya. Try and find some new hobbies other than drugs and women. When they're all ya got well.. you're gonna end up broke and broken at some point.

 

:rofl:







sunshine child... I said "delusions of grandeur" because first of all, it sounds like it. but also because in the context- if you are binging on meth or speed for a month straight, that and paranoia can both happen. I think he is just tweaking a lil too hard...

 

haha That's entirely possible. Probable even.

 

if a person has to ask others to justify and support their own thoughtlessness, they are probably hurting themselves along with the world we all have to live in. but mostly themselves.