am I an awful gf?

You both work, but he lives with family? Who makes more money? If he can actualy provide for all expenses on his income, he may have a point, but chances are he needs you to make money as well and just hasn't figured that out yet. If that's the case, then you need to spend dome time explaining that the culture is different because it needs to be.

My sister can rehang a door when she needs to. She can also be a housewife. She can also work full time. If she is working full time and still taking primary responsibility for the kids, she does not have TIME to rehang the door, so da boy better find time or the door stays broken.

I like doing laundry, but won't bother with proper cooking even for myself. He can deal with a nice sandwich or make his own food, but I can wash his clothing for work without griping. However, if he can't manage to put the laundry in the hamper, it's not my problem. I'm not his mother. That's just where I stand, and I need a guy who can take me as I am. If he expects a domestic goddess, he needs a difrent girl.

But if I don't make what I will and won't do clear early in a relationship, I'm being a bad girlfriend by letting false expectations linger. If he really can't handle my personal rules, it's only fair that he knows what those are and has a chance to decide that for himself.

 

Respect is important component in any relationship, and that caveman...."You woman, and I expect this...."attitude...would never work with me.
I do things, because I want to do them or not....

Good luck to you.