Am I A NUDIST OR EXHIBITIONIST

We aren’t purists either. I think there are far fewer purists out there now. I’m not even going to bother to figure that one out. But, it’s very sexual for us.

Maybe she didn’t like it before she actually did it. It sounds like she has grown to like it and is turned on enough to get wet.

Perhaps it’s just a defense mechanism for her. Something that would allow her an out, if she felt things were getting out of hand. Maybe even something to ease her own conscience. Who hasn’t done something they thought was wrong, but felt good doing it? I don’t see it as necessarily lying to herself, but maybe a form of self-defense or protection.

 

I don't know Patrick's wife; and I don't want to make too many assumptions about "where she's at." And Patrick knows her best.
But it "appears" Patrick's wife has some difficulty reconciling her personal values with her "physical experience" while socially nude. And I don't know whether Patrick's personal approach to nudism (no judgement here) has in fact exacerbated her "hang-ups" (women can be pretty good at figuring out "ulterior motives" lol!)

Yeah. I'm going to generalize here a bit; but I bet if a random selection of nudist women were asked how they felt initially about social nudity, the responses would be some combination of "excited" and "nervous." The "nervous" part; I think we all get. It's the fear of being judged/objectified/sexualized or even harassed. The "excited" part is a bit more complex. Because if the "excitement" is correlated with social nudity, and the woman experiencing it happens to have been raised religious/conservative; the feeling of having committed a "sin", or having "crossed a line", is going to create a conflict within her. She's oftentimes going to feel that the feeling is "wrong" and be in denial of her "physical experience" being socially nude. She just doesn't want to face it.

There's no secret formula here. It's only though self-reflection and honesty that they can get past that conundrum. My ex-wife, after doing some self-reflection and discussing this with other nudist women, came to the realization that she actually really enjoyed being seen naked. And that the nudist setting provided a safe place that made her conservative upbringing "unnecessary baggage." In her case though, she ran with it and embraced being fully naked and exposed around other nudists - admittedly enjoying the attention.
My (current) wife has not gone that far; but still, she has come a long way. She does not shy away from close naked social interactions, even sometimes admitting random "states of arousal"; especially when totally relaxed and open while sunbathing, and sometimes even while socializing nude. And she does not see a conundrum there because she has normalized social nudity in her mind. She also grew up conservative.

Anyway, that my moment of being an armchair psychoanalyst lol!!

 

I’m sure you’re right. I’m thinking of times we did some social nudity and she was desparate to fuck ASAP upon getting back to our home/hotel room. When I suggested in those instances that showing her social nudity was erotic, she denied it. Her reasons were varied. “No, it was just a sexy atmosphere to be on the beach.” (Huh…..but not erotic?!?)
Or my fav….”It was exciting to wear a dress to the beach with nothing under it.” (So it was daring for her to skip bra and panties and that daring act was erotic? But showing tits and pussy to dozens of people, conversing with them, making some comments about dicks to me….that was just a run of the mill day????)

she was raised to be very conservative and judgmental. On one level she thinks women who intentionally show their nude bodies to men are sluts. On a different level, she gets turned on by doing the unthinkable and showing her nude body. Her wet pussy and initiating sex proves it. During foreplay, if she’s having trouble getting in the mood, I’ll play with her kitty and talk about one of our nude adventures. It almost always does the trick. On one of these times, I reminded her of a guy at a nude beach who was naked but whose wife tried to keep the goods hidden. This guy kept visiting our area and getting an eyeful of my conservative wife who did not feign modesty like his wife. After the last visit he was sporting a hard on. As we reviewed those events later during foreplay months later, my wife said “I need you to fuck me…NOW!!”

so yeah , just impossible for her to reconcile these two sides of her