Aggressive Femmes

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by Sw33tnP3tit3, Oct 1, 2015.

  1. Sw33tnP3tit3

    Sw33tnP3tit3 New Member

    Are there any fellow "Aggressive Femmes" out there? If so, inquiring minds would like to know:

    What type of women do you typically date?
    Do you prefer a stud/stem or femme partner if a preference at all?
    What's the typical dynamic of your relationship? Meaning, What are you and your partner's roles, so to speak?
    What are your issues in the bedroom?

    Me myself, I find it very difficult to find a perfect match being an aggressive femme. I find myself always missing key aspects from each partner and/or relationship. So I'm very curious to hear other's opinions and viewpoints on this topic. This is my first post so please be gentle ladies *bats eyelashes all bashful like*.
     
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  2. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Not really sure what constitutes an "aggressive femme". I really think that it depends on the personality of the woman rather than what her label is. Some butches like other butches, some femmes only date other femmes. If you are referring to a woman who likes to occasionally take charge in bed, then I suppose I might fall under that category. I don't have a whole lot of experience dating women, and I don't really have a type that I know of. But the woman I'm dating is somewhat of a soft butch if I had to label it. She's usually the dominant one but we switch roles all the time. But in bed, we always please each other. It's just the manner in which we do it that varies.
     
  3. Metal Groomp

    Metal Groomp Member

    What's an 'aggressive femme'?
     
  4. Sw33tnP3tit3

    Sw33tnP3tit3 New Member

    Agressive fems usually take over in a lot of scenarios in everyday life. We dress and act totally feminine. We're very dominant, but can be submissive if our lover wants us to. Typically attracted to feminine women, and will usually take on the dominant role in sex. This, in the lesbian dating world, can be very confusing to others and makes dating a bit complicated. Things get tricky when you're attracted to a femme just as "needy" and spoiled as yourself, or when you come across a stud matching your dominancy. Compromising on both ends is very necessary.
     
  5. Sw33tnP3tit3

    Sw33tnP3tit3 New Member

    Agressive femmes usually take over in a lot of scenarios in everyday life. We dress and act totally feminine. We're very dominant, but can be submissive if our lover wants us to. Typically attracted to feminine women, and will usually take on the dominant role in sex. This, in the lesbian dating world, can be very confusing to others and makes dating a bit complicated. Things get tricky when you're attracted to a femme just as "needy" and spoiled as yourself, or when you come across a stud matching your dominancy. Compromising on both ends is very necessary.
     
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  6. Noserider

    Noserider Goofy-Footed Member

    I'm not sure I qualify as an aggressive fem, but I sure like my stems!!! [​IMG]

    As far as our dynamic goes, I'm not sure I understand exactly, but, then again, you only have four posts, the most recent of which is almost two years old, so this is pointless.

    But I'm going to make this forum work or die trying.
     
  7. IAmMaxieHearMeRoar

    IAmMaxieHearMeRoar Maxie Lee Courtland-Colton

    I'm the one who likes being dominated.
     
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  8. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    I'm also submissive in the relationship, but, I'm also the one with the mouth and the tongue that spits acid and fire!
     
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  9. Noserider

    Noserider Goofy-Footed Member

    Kinda how I am too.
     
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  10. vina

    vina Member

    Aggressive femme, I don't know anything about that.
     
  11. Kia

    Kia New Member

    Well I never labeled myself before but I have been told that I am an aggressive femme and with me being honest with myself I do have dominant tendencies but with the right balance partner I am put back into my natural soft feminine state which is submissive I’ve dated soft studs and the problem that I’ve had in one relationship was that I overly dominated her and even though she’s told me that she was the dominant one in her relationships that wasn’t so with me and it made me lose respect for the relationship because that wasn’t what I signed up for go figure I currently have friend who is a soft stud an I see where it’s times where I dominate her naturally but it’s about balance I let her take charge an I’m feminine most times but at times can’t hide my aggressiveness i also was told by her I’m a stud Sex drive I don’t know if this is a good thing or bad thing‍♀️ Im mostly attracted to soft studs I find femmes attractive but won’t date them or deal with them it’s complicated
     
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  12. Noserider

    Noserider Goofy-Footed Member

    Woo hoo!

    New lesbian! There should be enough of us to revive this forum at this point. At any rate, welcome Kia.

    That's the car I drive :)
     
  13. KathyL

    KathyL Member

    Hi, Kia, welcome! I am fairly submissive, myself.
     
  14. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    I like my butt spanked.
     
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  15. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    Verbally aggressive femme is pretty hot, never underestimate the power of words! :D I identify as submissive but only to one person now, whereas I find myself being quite "dominant" I guess with other people, but I don't try that with my wife. :sweatsmile: I am bound by oaths to her. You don't detract an oath.
     
    Last edited: Oct 21, 2018

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