Ageing And Attraction To Youth

[SIZE=medium]Ageing and Attraction to Youth[/SIZE]


[SIZE=small]By Shale Stone[/SIZE]
[SIZE=13.5pt]January 2004[/SIZE]

[SIZE=10pt]Published: NUDE IQ, ( IMEN Quarterly) Winter 2003 pg. 26[/SIZE]
[SIZE=10pt]This is an edited version of the original[/SIZE]

[SIZE=10pt]Catherine Zeta-Jones and Sean Connery [/SIZE]

[SIZE=10pt]Entrapment[/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]Having recently watched the 1999 movie Entrapment, where the main characters, Mac (Sean Connery, then 69) and Gin (Catherine Zeta-Jones, then 30), hint at a romantic attraction, it brought home my own realities of relating to people much younger than myself. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]In that movie, Gin seems infatuated with Mac, nearly 40 years her senior. Mac is clearly turned on by the beautiful young woman but portrayed his realization that she has so much life ahead of her while he, like myself, has more history than future. In a poll of readers of Film magazine, the scene where Connery bedded Zeta-Jones was voted by readers to be the second worst love scene, due to this age disparity. (The worst was Sharon Stone and Joe Pesci in the 1995 movie Casino, due to ... well you can imagine).[/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]Obviously, to some even the thought of such an age disparity between lovers, borders on the obscene, but that is not supported by the norm of celebrities' affairs. It is noteworthy that in real life the beautiful Zeta-Jones married Michael Douglas who is my age and 25 years older than her. Her portrayal in the movie of attraction to Sean Connery's older character could have come quite naturally to her. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]There is a more recent movie, "The Human Stain," in October 2003, where Anthony Hopkins (age 65) is having a romantic affair with Nicole Kidman (age 36). The age disparity of the characters is even greater, with Hopkins playing a 71-year-old college professor and Kidman playing a 34-year-old janitor. Some reviewers, like Rene Rodriguez of The Miami Herald claim that "the sight of Anthony Hopkins snuggling in bed and enjoying hot, torrid sex..." with Kidman derails the whole movie. This attitude brought home my own observations of how we older men internalize the fact that we are getting older. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=10pt]Nicole Kidman & Anthony Hopkins[/SIZE]

[SIZE=10pt]The Human Stain[/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]Here is the reality that I have observed as an ageing man. Unless there is a mirror immediately in front of you, you forget your age when you see a beautiful young person. Forget the gray hair, wrinkles and sags and only see the youth in front of you and the recollection of yourself at that age. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]Our culture worships youth and this is particularly evident with gay men, although I must admit that I am still open to finding a partner my age, with a common history to share during our diminishing future. Sean Connery, in my opinion, is still one of the most beautiful men on the planet and I could see getting it on with him if he were so inclined. But, I also get quite turned on by the sight and feel of a well-sculpted young body. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]Being so attracted to young men, I know in reality they would not necessarily be attracted to me. Rather than make a public fool of myself by chasing after young men, or risk arrest by offering to rent young men who seem open to that, I am relegated to lone-sex fantasies of how it used to be. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]However, I am always open to windfalls that come my way and at two times have I recently had the pleasure of meeting young men who are into older men.[/SIZE]



[SIZE=13.5pt]Carlos was such a delight to find. Actually, he came on to me at the nude beach. He likes older guys and I was number three and the oldest of his love interests. Although he was 30, his small stature gave the impression of being much younger. His body was still youthfully taut and his smooth skin was such a pleasure to touch. His physicality drove me wild, and the fact that he sincerely loved my attentions added to the feeling of sensuality.[/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]There is another young man, Raul, in his mid twenties whom I have known for years. He is bi, married to a woman closer to my age than to his. Raul is very sexually uninhibited, and makes passionate love to his wife, but often when I visit, he gets equally passionate with me.[/SIZE]



[SIZE=13.5pt]While embracing and deep kissing this young man, a decade younger than my daughter, I forget the age gap. I forget the wrinkles in my own skin while licking the smooth tautness of his. I don't see my gray beard or balding head, just the black stubble on his face and the thick hair that I run my fingers thru as we kiss. [/SIZE]



[SIZE=13.5pt]In quieter moments Raul has shown me some of the intimate fotos of other gray haired bears he's cavorted with (as well as some young muscular guys). I know Raul's history, that he has been sexually active since a very early age, before the age of legal consent actually. He does not consider it to have harmed him. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=13.5pt]I asked Raul why he likes us older guys and he said it's because we are more caring, and sensitive. We take an interest in his feelings more than a lot of the younger men. I think he must know that we are actually more appreciative of the opportunity to connect with a young man, to experience again thru sight and touch, those moments of our own youth that we see slipping away. [/SIZE]

 

I'm attracted to much younger woman

 

In the first pic with Carlos you remind me of how Pierce Brosnan might look at your age.

 

Last time I thought about hooking up 10 to 15 yr younger wm I was quite ambivalent. Body shape really nicely and perfect - but mind? Hmmmm.... reminding me about my own probs and ideas I've had 15 yrs ago and how I solved them - thinking about if I wanna redo them - which was a clear NO.

Just curious if this could ever work out...

 

The trouble with guys is that a Sean Connery only really comes along in 1 in every million guys, with at the same time half a million of those thinking they are a Sean Connery, With the differences between that 1 and that half million not all , well the differences not all that great, and often not solely physical,,,,,a swagger, an accent, a certain pose.

Think of all the actors that have been and gone. Sean Connery, and Harrison Ford the only ones in that category unto themselves. Connery the only Bond that was convincing as a guy that could get any womans underthingies off

And No I'm not having a go at you Shale, I am no Connery either. Just saying, many guys think they are a Connery, but a big age difference, and people will just think its about money

And even if they are, still dont get that longevity, anyone remember Wentworth Miller?, great eyes, but he just seemed to disappear off the face of the planet

The real life Connerys, its the smallest difference that seperates them from the rest, usually the eyes....and its all up to what happens in the pants of all women ( and some men ) they meet, nothing they can do, they just have it, or they dont

 

While some will think bad of me for hitting on these younger men, ranging from 20, 30 and even 40 years younger than me, you should know that they all came on to me. Yes, there are young men who seek out older lovers. I don't understand it either.

I wouldn't particularly want to make out with a guy pushing 70, but these guys did and seemed very appreciative. Hey, it works for me, since I do enjoy making love to young, supple, smooth-skin, thick-haired young men. (Young women would be nice too, but none have yet propositioned me.)





Then there is my young prince, Michel who is only 17 years younger than me, but did fly me to Italy to spend a week at his villa, his condo in the Alps and condo in Milano.

 

Actually, I should understand the attraction to an older lover since I had such an affair in my youth. Even tho the age spread was 2 decades, Margaret was still in her early 40s when I was in my early 20s. In fact she was older than my mother. It was a mutual attraction. I don't recall the term "cougar" being used back then but that is what Margaret was and I was young and into making out with an attractive older woman. (Now she would be an attractive younger woman to me, but I still see her as older in this image because this is the Mrs. R. that I knew)




[SIZE=large]Margaret and I met at work in Marrero and became lovers. I was the security guard and she was a switchboard operator. She was 19 years older than me and it was an exciting, taboo relationship. Once, while lying in bed after making love, she was telling me how it was in London during the bombings of WW II and I realized she had a lifetime of history before me. The propriety of age difference was when she would drive to my place in her new Olds Cutlass, but I would drive it when we went out. She would slip me money under the table to pay for the meals in restaurants and one inexperienced bar tender assumed that she was my mother and I enjoyed the way she quickly responded "No, we're lovers." We saw each other off-and-on for several years and she took the name "Mrs. R" from the movie The Graduate. [/SIZE]