Age, Sex and Porn

I recently responded to a post about prostate simulation, a somewhat clinical term for anal play. I’m hoping to start a conversation about age and sex. I’m 75 and my wife will soon be 73. We have a very active sex life that began 56 years ago after our third date. I was a horny 19 year old who had been looking at skin magazines for quite a while when I was lucky to meet a very horny 16 year old girl. In the very early days, it was missionary and handjobs. I was very oral early on, making every effort to go down on her whenever I could. It wasn’t long before she realized that oral sex was good for me, too. The first time I came in her mouth she swallowed it with extraordinary satisfaction and a big smile. We were on our way!!


The hippy-dippy 70’s was quite a decade for us. The advent of the VCR made porn so easily acceptable. Marijuana became an adjunct to our feel-good experiences. Sex, drugs, and rock n’ roll! Our first VCR was a camera and player combination so we were making our own porn which heightened our own escapades. (I wish I had some of those tapes now!)


I could go on and on with details, both biographical and sexual, of the last 56 years but, I fear, I would lose your attention. My message is this: if you’re in a committed loving relationship that has a strong sexual component, as you age and become “too comfortable” and jaded, you can be in danger of losing the heat and passion that you once had. Once the kids are gone, it’s all too easy to become complacent and bored. Sex can become less frequent and less exciting. This is where porn comes in. If, because of age and disinterest in sex, you stop watching people having sex and doing sexual things. It is very important to make every effort to keep your libido alive and well!


I have two ages: my chronologic age which is 75, and my mental age, which I feel is somewhere back in my 30’s, back in the CSN, James Taylor, Janis Joplin decade. I choose to think in my 30’s. I don’t look in the mirror and see “75.” Feeling young and having sex go hand-in-hand. Sure, maybe sex now has to have a “blue-pill” edge to it but who cares? I started using a cockring years ago and it helps me with a long-lasting, throbbing cock. I like anal stimulation because it feels good. There’s no stigma connected to it. I’m not gay. I just want to feel good. My wife would echo everything I’ve said. CBD oil on her clit has taken her to new heights. Her multiple orgasms now are better than ever before, actually, more intense than she’s ever had.


Watching other people doing sexual things is inspirational and educational and a reminder that age is just a number!! Find a genre that appeals to both of you and enjoy life!!!!!!!!!

 

Age is just a number. I'm older but feel younger and still get it up and cum a lot.

 

As I age it's a struggle between my body and my mind. My mind thinks like a 20 year old sexually. I find now many things turn me on that didn't years past. I'm more open minded, more wanting to explore things. My body though (on account of some meds and health issues that we all seem to aquire as, we age) doesn't always respond like I would like. So with a few little tweeks like the blue pill and sometimes watching porn it helps.
My wife on the other hand, went totally into retirement pretty much in regards to sex. Her interest has gone from a hell of a hot time tonight attitude when we were younger to...didnt we do it at Christmas? Sheesh! Doesn't watch porn anymore. She will occasionally give me a hand. Even though we are nudists... She dont practice it like she once did. But many reasons has been intense health issues.

 

I agree - age is just a number. Keep the libido alive and kicking!!! It's great to be a bit older and wiser, which can lead to new and different ways to pleasure each other. And who wants to just sit around and collect dust?? Who wants going out to grab a bite to eat be the biggest "whoopie" in your life?? IMO - stay close and connected …………. physically/sexually (provided no medical issues to prevent), emotionally, & mentally.

Eat the right healthy foods, go for walks, swim, do non-sexual things together for change of pace/scenery, and then come together sexually to keep the "spark" and deep connection alive and flourishing!!! Is there a better feeling of closeness than when you both orgasm holding each other???

 

We're in the middle of the fairway and player 3 makes a porn comment. Player 2 says "I'm 76. It don't work no more." Player 3 responds, "That ain't good." Topic drops. I'm left thinking what a loss of joy not being able to have sex anymore. Mid sixties and I get erections several times each day. I watch porn as much as I can which is at least once a day for an hour or so. All kinds of scenarios with women involved do it for me. Old and mature, young and spunky, Caucasian, Asian, Africa or black, it doesn't matter her race.

No more intimacy with the spouse as medical issues took that away from her. She knows my libido is still going and if I don't tell, she doesn't mind. I find plenty of women with a no strings attitude and we have a good time when we can. Masturbation to porn fills the gaps which right now is looming large. I'm ready for this distancing thing to be over. ASAP. But I am taking no chances so I stay with my toys and hand for now. But I'll be so glad come the day I can cum in pussy again.

 

Brutal situation Barry. I don't have a clue as to how the ladies view the importance of sex - too many mixed messages …………..or NO messages. But for me, sex always made / makes my day better. I'm in a happier mood, things don't bother me as much, and things are just better all around. So I get what you're saying.

Watching some porn always helps me get / stay in the mood. It's just an enhancement, like a good wine with dinner - it gets me ready to be with my wife for some fun. It also gives us ideas for new things to try, new MENTAL fantasies to use, etc. And to me - the GOOD porn paints sex as FUN, EROTIC, & EXCITING - not a painful chore as sex can sadly become for couples. It's a visual reminder that sex is supposed to be a positive between two people. (I'm not referring to the violent type of porn !)

I wish more women would become makers of lady-friendly porn so more ladies could enjoy videos that are more romantic & erotic - not some of the abusive stuff out there lately. Include some flirtation, teasing, seduction, romance, talk, - and then lead to some REALLY HOT sexual playtimes. I'll bet the makers of such lady-friendly adult videos would get paid subscriptions from lots of ladies, and by way of association - men subscribers too if their ladies liked the movies. It would be like a paperback romance novel - but visually acted out - not just words on a page.

 

I’m pleased to see that I’ve opened up a discussion


I despise the label “senior.” I stopped my daily afternoon cocktails about 2 years ago and I’ve lost 40 pounds. I’m now a svelte 170, and still have dark brown (undyed) hair. I live in a gated community in FL where many of my friends, acquaintances and neighbors are in my age bracket. Usually, when men talk about sex, there’s a lot of BS and very little honesty. However, my wife, who plays golf regularly, is apt to hear her golf buddies talking about their lack of sex. Many could care less. My wife has shared very little with the other women other than to say she has no problems in the bedroom.


It must be said that a lot of the men, and the women, too, have paid little or no attention to the need to look and to act desirable. Because we’re so sexually active, my wife feels that many of her friends are missing out. She’s wanted to tell her friends about how the CBD oil has had such a dramatic effect on her. (We had a discussion the other night, not during sex, when my wife told me that if I wasn’t in the mood she could grandly take care of herself without a problem. She alluded to her ability, now, to have multiple orgasms. She thought the last time we played she had more than 20 orgasms!! I’m not kidding.)


I’ve still got a “bucket list” or should I say “Fuck-it List?” I’d like the wife to get either a clit or labia piercing. I wouldn’t mind a swinginh or hotwife situation or even a bisexual mmf threesome. Whether I would ultimately go through with it, would be an at-the-moment decision. Of course, that’s the porn influence. It certainly looks interesting when I’m watching it and we both find it very titillating. My wife says she’s all in! She finds a lot of the aspects of BDSM excite her.


I consider myself very lucky to be where we’re at. I know that I’m not alone in my own feelings of sexuality and that I’m sure that there are other couples like us out there.

 

Believe it or not other couples who have an active sex life beyond retirement age are not that common. Men continue, for the most part, until later in their life. Women percentages drop steadily beyond menopause for various reasons. Only half of women in their fifties continue having intercourse and by the age of 70 only 27 percent of women are. I've read studies where the percentage is as low as 22% being sexually active with a median age of 64. I could quote study after study but the numbers are pretty much the same. 65% of men beyond the age of 64 are sexually active according to several studies. But men don't live as long as women. So even though men stay sexually active longer they have a shorter life span.

 

Sad, very sad! The wife and I just finished playing. Today's additive was a riding crop. Saw it in porn. She expressed an interest. She was smiling ear-to-ear. Afterwards, she commented on how lucky we were to do what we do when so many others don't or can't. It's been 56 years of continued sexual interaction.

When a relationship, or marriage, begins, and sex is not a regular, if not frequent, occurence, then it's easy to become complacent, especially if the man, or the woman for that matter, uses masturbation for gratification. The actual physical interaction becomes a little less desirable after a while. It may be over a period of years. In some cases, it might lead to infidelity if one or the other craves the physicality. Jerking off is not being sexually active, unfortunately. Hanging from the chandelier in crotchless panties while being flogged is being sexually active!!! It doesn't have to be exactly that, but just touching regularly keeps the intimacy going. Showing care on a regular basis can keep the fires burning. Trying to be better than ever may not always succeed, but at least it shows your tryng.

 

Get a younger guy there to help both!

 

Preach it Brother OH !!! Complacency and apathy KILL a romance. They can kill a relationship altogether. Doing nothing = disaster in a relationship.

 

My wife and I are in our 60's and still sexually active. I think our bucket list is complete, including her having sex with others in our younger days, but we still love each other and enjoy our intense sex sessions. It will end some day, but for now, bringing her to two or three orgasms a couple of times a month is a great thrill.

 

Texas long horn..............

 

Thanks for reading my post.

 

Age is just a number sure... but I wonder how many men there are over 60 and how many women there are over 60 posting in this forum, in the sex part.

 

There are quite a few men over 60 posting here. Several are well into their 70's. I'm not sure about the women though.

 

Yes, it would be interesting to know how many women over 60 post in here. It seems to be a male dominated age group of dirty old men

 

Why not.....your about our age!

 

Why does there have to be an age attached to a sexual topic?? I once got some advice from a gent who was up in years, and he said the "urge" doesn't go away. Many guys over 40, shall we say, have much more experience than a 20-year-old does. And ------- we're more comfortable in our own skins, not afraid to try new things, plus ------ we know how to approach, talk with, and romance the ladies. 20-somethings are too nervous, awkward, and spooky.

 

Oh I wasn't cutting older guys or younger guys up....I was just saying how it is at least my way of thinking!.Hell sex at any age is good for every one unless you get a heart attack while having sex! Then you go to the promise land!