Age difference

No it isnt like that. Firstly, he is not 'lusting' after me. We just chat and talk about stuff like what we did that day. Nothing 'disgusting' or 'rude' besides for what I already pointed out. I actually went after him, asking if we could just talk as friends because he got the wrong impression when I said I wanted to "chat". Secondly, we are not dating! He lives about 9574793952810km away - it would be quite hard to date, living so far away.

I don't know why I made this thread...It's probably going to just upset me eventually with so many people being so negative. Many people have said this on other threads, but who are you to say what is wrong and what is right? Even if we were dating, it would be none of your business. Now I'm being stupid because I'm getting annoyed at people after I asked their opinion. Sorry. I will be more open to your advice from now on. Keep the comments coming. =P

 

yeah dont ask if you dont wanna hear what people are gonna say...

as for my opinion, I cant see myself ever doing that. I dont really understand what youre saying though. first youre saying that youre not in a relationship or anything, but by the way of your first post, it sounds like you had a relationship and that you wanted our opinion on a 30 year age gap....if youre not in a relationship, then of course its okay, I mean, it would just be like talking to someone whos 51, which isnt so weird. but if its something more of you two being together, then I dunno. I mean, like I said, I would never do that, but I dont give a shit if someone else does. if you enjoy it.

my first (and only bf so far) was 5 years older than me, and even taht was hard to handle.

 

we're all very cautious about young people getting into relationships. it's hard enough when you're fully grown, even harder when you're so very young. but i know you're not going to listen to any sort of advice. i'd say not to pursue it just now, make very sure he's not perving just for the sake of perving. but you'll do whatever you like.

 

I don't see any problem with it. Even if your corrospondence or chatting was flirtatious I don't see any harm coming from that providing you are careful about staying anonymous. That is, don't give out details that could allow him to find where you live. If you're asked for something like your full name or last name then just politely reply with something like, "I'm just not comfortable giving out that information." He should understand but don't let anyone pressure you into telling something you're not comfortable about revealing.

 

I mean you probably don't need your guard up 'cause it's only on the internet.

 

*Sigh* Okay. Let me just get some things straight. We are not dating. We just chat. Sometimes he will slip in something a bit flirty, which I do not mind at all. I will not give him my address or full name. I actually sent him one of my school reports and changed my address for safety reasons. That are all.

 

then yeah I think its okay. Its fine being friends with older people...

 

I wonder why people think that it is so wrong to talk sexually to someone older...I dont want to start the whole "people only think it's wrong because society thinks so", but I'm just curious. I rarely talk sexually to this to this guy, but does it really matter if I do? I know people are worried about sexual predators or whatever, but if I'm sure that this guy isn't a pervert freak, it should be fine, shouldnt it?

 

because thats what i thought and it turned out rather badly in the end. thankfully no rape but some serious emotional damage that im only now finally starting to get over, and it was over 5 years ago that i thought that about someone

 

Oh okay..I guess some pretty screwed up things can happen. I will be careful, do not worry. I don't really think there is anything much left to talk about on this topic unless someone wants to talk about something. Anyone got any ideas of what we can talk about without straying too far off topic?

 

i am 16 and i lik a guy who is 24. should i tell him i lik him

 

Age is just a number, that's all, its the level of maturaty that defines whether or not two people should be toghter.

 

Yeah I think so. I'm not trying to hoot my own horn, but this person says that I do behave/talk more maturely than most guys my age..

 

Chicken-Hawk!

 

What? Are you on crack?

 

No im not on crack, its a perma-fry. That is just what naturaly comes to mind.

 

Honestly, I don't think age matters. For sex, or for romance. If the two of you get along well enough, and everything is consensual, then there should be no reason for anyone to judge (unless they're assholes. :/).

I myself have been in a relationship with a woman that was 14 years my Senior. It was fun, and though we kept it underwraps, we weren't judged by our loved ones and our friends.

I honestly think that if you're happy and in a healthy relationship, sexual or romantic, then more power to you. n_n

 

i dont think age differences matter at all.. unless its like illegal age difference haha...

all the good guys i find are like 20-25 and im only 17...so it doesnt work out

 

Well...this thread is pretty old. Things didnt really work out with the dude I liked so I kinda moved on Oh well...

 

would you like to close this?
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