afraid of sex

I think you are right. I do all what I can.

many thanks.

 

Kinda late, but I'm moving this to Love and Sex. And after that I'm going to smack myself in the head. :&

 

Well, you could become a monk...:book2: ...then you wouldn't have to worry about all this any more.........:angel:


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good job thanks ma8...

 

never ever be a monk...
I'm made lover with sex. sex is my dream of life. sex is everything to me...
sex is like water cannot live without it. I'm feeling sick without it.
that how I look to sex.


thanks for your advice. but never work with me...sorry.

 

Stranger - rent a copy of the movie "Love, Actually", and see realistic stories of persons like you who are afraid of taking the first step of opening themselves up to someone of the opposite sex to love. One problem guys like you have is that you feel vulnerable when you show to a woman your true feelings, and your true feelings are so passionate that you feel like you will burst. But just calm down and do it - there is nothing better in life than two people discovering each other and their growing love for each other.

And once you have set up that first date, make a list of things to talk about, tailored to what you know her interests are. That will relax both of you. I know someone who told me that they thought they would run out of things to say to their partner after a little while. Take it from me (happily married for many years until my wife died a few years ago), you never run out of things to talk about with your life partner.

If you still have problems connecting with a woman, see if you can find a sex surrogate, a woman who will talk to you about your sexual hangups and help you open up. These people are not prostitutes, but professionals who are trained to deal with people's sexual problems. Their therapy may or may not involve having sex with you. The most important thing is that you learn to talk with women about intimate sexual matters and open up your own deep feelings.

 

thanks very much I downloaded the movie I really loved it....

very hard for me to mention sex with any girl. I think I cann't

I'm always doing my best...

regards...

 

Maybe you ought to stop focusing so much on sex, and instead focus on just getting to know a girl as a person, eventually falling in love (maybe)-I think you're putting the cart before the horse by thinking about sex all the time-if you fall in love, things will take their natural course.

Be a girl's friend-talk to her like you would anyone else. Girls aren't from another planet-they're people just like you. Just relax and quit worrying about sex, and just focus on getting to know girls and being their friends-the sex will come in its own good time.

 

you are absolutely right. I always think about sex all the time...and think girls as angles who very difficult to get.

I think it just need time to get over with my problem. I got a friend who lives in London. He told me he would full all his flat with girls if I went to vist him...
He showed me some of his girls photos..gosh they are really stunningly beautiful..Couldn't stop thinking about them...and really looking forward to visit him.

thanks charise

 

Stranger - You don't have to mention sex with a girl. If she wants it too, it will happen without any asking. Women are not that different than men in their desire for opposite sex companionship...and sex. The only difference is that they can get pregnant and you can't. Just relax, meet girls, and if the two of you hit it off, sex will happen naturally if you both want it. But make sure you have a condom or two with you when it happens.

 

Thanks very much for the advices. I will make sure to keep at lest one condom in my walllet just in case. But first I have to get rid of my current problem.

regards

 

oh dear...read all their advices they might help you as well.

thanks

 

Why don't you try talking to a beautiful girl just like you would talk to a guy? Take a girl to a sports event, or something you are comfortable with, and talk to her about it. You are placing females on too high a pedestal to reach them. They are people just like you...they just have different equipment between their legs.

 

ok I'll do my best...

I'm really grateful ma8...thanks

 

by the way I found you on google (;