Can I ask you some thing that’s a big deal to me ? Can a wife/mother who’s 48 love her hubby but have a desire to experience another man just once Bcas she’s only ever slept with her hubby all of her life ??
Yes it called a fantasy but yes it like a lot of other things if u try one brand of pizza u would want to try another one because u want to one if it different
I'm curious........is this your wife's idea, or did you suggest it? Do you/does she have someone in mind? Are you talking MFMs or your wife going alone? You say just once, but what if she really likes sex with the other guy? How do you feel about it?
I wonder why she waited until she was 48 to think about that. Could there be something else in her life that made her think about this. I wouldn't wait much longer.
Jay: You sound like you are intrigued by the idea, so go for it. You should think about ground rules that you want, but keep that list as short as possible. From what I have read those rules are always broken. BTW how many sex partners have you had? Does your wife have a specific person in mind, or is it a general desire for someone different from you? Early on in our marriage my wife complained that I was the only person with whom she has had sex and she was going to go through her whole life having had sex with only one man. After thinking about it for a few days I said that if its bothering her that much she should go have sex with someone else. She blew up at me, "How can you suggest that I should have sex with another man?" On reflection, I believe she had a specific person in mind. Go ahead and try it with an understanding that if it goes south, then all will be forgiven and it wont happen again.
She can certainly have that desire. It may not be wise to follow through. Fortunately, I was not my wife's first, and she experienced a variety other than me.
That’s another case for saying there is no one-size-fits-all in life. Some men and women are quite content with having less experiences and stay with the same partner forever and not try new adventures with anyone else. Some feel like they are missing out on something and that nagging thought will never go away. All I can say is whether it fits you or not, it’s normal even though it’s a surprise. What you both do with that is your choices. It may be only a desire to explore; without desire to leave the relationship. It works for some couples and even brings them closer, again not with everyone; some break up.
Definitely. My wife didn’t try it until late thirties. We discussed it a lot. I was very much turned on about it. We are still sharing with other guys 7 years later. We both enjoy!
I completely understand how your wife feels. I too have only had full penetration sex with my wife & would love to experience it with another woman. Especially since she's told me that her doctor says that her vagina is abnormally shaped & she has almost no sex drive anymore. I love her & don't want out of our relationship, but really would love to explore.
No doubt there are people who have a curiosity to experience sex with someone other than the person they love dearly. It's human nature to want to explore the unknown to them. Jay's wife asked the question because she is curious what it would be like. It's not that she is 48, a mother, married, or even dis-satisfied with Jay. She's just curious and interested to try a different body on for size so to speak. That may be as far as she is willing to go. It may not. It's no different than wanting to visit a different land and experience a different culture. Or taste some food from a different cuisine than what you are accustomed to. I suggest that she be allowed to satisfy her curiosity in her own way be it from just wondering and inquiring to going as far as having intercourse with another man. Same with Fireball. He has a dilemma facing him. One partner, his wife, is all he has experienced. He has become curious since she has medical issues and sex has been taken away from him. He wants to know what he may be missing or what sex is like with other women. He doesn't have any desire to break the relationship with his wife. He just wants to know what else is out there. I suggest he discuss it with his wife and hopefully come to an understanding whereby he can explore as he wishes. It's a tough subject to broach as emotions will escalate and insecurities be revealed. But it's worth discussing even if it only goes as far as that. If you don't you will never know.
Well put, mandelay. Sure it's entirely normal for a lady that age to wonder if she's still attractive. She's done her family duties well, it might be time to see if she still 'has it' as a woman. All women feel the need to be somewhat 'attractive' to men, that's why they spend so much time with make-up, etc. It's her time to see.
Yes - my wife said she would be disappointed to never have any experience outside of me for the rest of her life, and I realized I felt the same thing... We're deeply in love and fully intend to stay together forever in our family unit etc, but have agreed that a little excitement of the flirting and lead up to sex and exploration with new people would enrich our lives. We only live once, and we both have had modest sexual experiences, so let's broaden our taste of life a little. Just a way of looking at it, so long as everyone is in touch with how they are feeling!
