My best friend and I fell in love a year and a half ago. We both want to be together more than anything, but she is still in a marriage and their is a child involved. And her husband does not want the split. We know it will be a long process, with a divorce and both of us coming out for the first time together, but we are ready to start. Any advice on the best or easiest way to go about this would be appreciated.
Don't come out until after the custody is settled. It will get used against her. Don't move in right away. It takes time to acclimate to being divorced. There's a lot that needs to get processed. Also, with a kidlet involved, the kid has to get her needs met. Above all, make sure this is absolutely what the married woman wants. It will not be easy, it wouldn't be easy in the Bay Area! And as you say, a kid is involved.
