Well drinking long term affects all parts of the brain, a slow disintergration you dont notice on a day to day or year to year level Harder to concentrate, remember things, increasingly angry and frustrated becuase of it. And no medico is going to be able to seperate all the factors and tell you what problems were caused by which factors and by how much. Is it the alcohol, the antidepressants , serotonin, oxytocin, your environment, your income stream etc etc And some everybody else will say dumb shit like just believe in yourself or just think positive and that will somehow magically repair all those damaged brain cell. Or tell you to go talk to someone, which they just say for the most part becuase they dont know what else to say What happens if you do end up living longer than most of those telling you to go talk to someone?
^yeah, if you drink on a daily basis that's probably 90% of your problem. Like you said, you haven't shared everything so I can't say for sure, but I do know alcoholics and understand alcoholism and its almost always 90% of their problems. Especially the loneliness, partly because of the tendency to push people away so you can drink, partly because of self destructive tendencies, partly because after the age of 30 it can even be hard to find a drinking buddy, much less a real friend. And like vanilla touched upon, the damage you're doing to your brain and body is going to compound any kind of depression or mental disorder. sorry if I'm way off base here, just going by what vanilla said and what I've seen you mention in some posts.
Im really not a big fan of talking therapy. Perhaps counselling, but never liked the idea of psychology. It annoys the crap out of me. I know a lot about possible causes for mental health problems and you're right, alcohol will not help and all factors of life interlink and it can often be difficult to distinguish one cause from another. The worst thing for me is when people tell me to just "be happy" or to just "believe in myself and it'll all change" - that doesn't help. I don't want to hear that, Perhaps it is that they don't know what else to say, but then say nothing and just have a cup of tea or a beer with me rather than spouting some old bollocks. I do take to heart what people say about me and my faith - because they are both part of me and are both equally as important. I will not change who i am based on what people say, but it does bloody hurt. And along with other stuff, it causes me to feel like this.
I wouldn't say I'm a alcoholic (I know thats what alcoholics would say..) but I know I'm not. i don't drink everyday. Its not like I can't function without drinking first thing. I know the problems alcohol can cause. i have alcoholics in my family. I do push people away, but not for the purposes of drink. Looks like i have a few months to find drinking buddies and real friends then...
Alcohol does numb the pain....I have used it before for that very reason. I also understand how lame it sounds when you are hurting and someone tells ya get over it, pull yourself out of it, just let it go. I mean, really? Like if it was that easy don't ya think I'd have done that? As far as counseling? To me the best counselor just lets you talk. they may lead a bit here and there, but they listen. Having someone listen can be a powerful remedy. At some point, you will run across someone that you push, push, push but just cannot push them away. Talk to those angels girly :daisy:
Thats curious, what kind of things about your faith people say that would bother you? We talking denomination or otherwise?
used to be denomination stuff. I guess a lot of it links in to sexuality stuff etc. people say things without knowing anything with the purpose to hurt others. that's what pisses me of. the stupid comments about religion don't bother me.
