i'm 41 years of age and female. the problem is I was diagnosed schizophrenic at age 18 and at school was withdrawn so no friends. the thing is I haven't actually ever had sex. I have kissed some guys but at age 41 never had sexual intercourse. when I ever meet someone to be attracted to I am extra shy as I feel it would be embarrassing to admin never had sex and also maybe I would be no good at it.
You need a BF that's willing to teach you. Having schizophrenia is not a good reason. You should have/could have improved your social skills, and you still can even now. If your shrink ain't willing to help, then to hell with him/her/it/whatever.
Difficult for me to imagine a 41-year-old virgin who wouldn't be "good at it." Tell your partner you want lots of foreplay and bring some "personal lubricant," just in case anxiety causes a little dry spell. I wouldn't expect the earth to move the first few times, but schizophrenic or not, few women I've ever known have ever not eventually figured it out. True story: In high school, I once had a professed lesbian tell me (after we made love, and her a guy-virgin), "Women are like a really good hamburger, but men are like steak." Truthfully, I don't think she was ever really a lesbian, I think she was just a bi-curious girl who'd never actually had sex (yet) with a guy. Afterwards, we drank bootlegged wine by candlelight and she played "Clouds" on an acoustic guitar. It was pretty 1960's. Years later, I ran into her at the Old Quarter Bar on Congress Street in Houston, and she drunkenly shouted to the crowd, "Hey, everybody! This is the guy that popped my cherry!" The singer-songwriter on stage did not appreciate it one bit. The girl was definitely kind of unpredictable.
