hey iv been seeing a nice guy and we have some great sex. he's been pushing to stop using a condom and to get me to swallow I know we're both clean should I let him stop using a condom?
Dude, since you are asking the question, you must be having your doubts about his suggestion. Nope. Make it a clear and simple rule that you only go safe. No exceptions. Once you start making exceptions for one nice guy, a number of other nice guys will show up, and you'll be tempted again to make more exceptions. You know only too well where this leads to. On a large scale of things, condoms are a small inconvenience. The consequences of going bare are going to be a very major inconvenience. KD
^ This, and I'd like to add that anyone who's pushing you to do something you're uncomfortable with is probably not the nicest guy. It's easy to fall into traps in love where you'll compromise and wind up doing things you didn't really want to do, but there's a big difference between "cleaning the oven because he's a neat freak" and "not wearing protection". If you WANT to do those things, without his opinions swaying yours in any way, then that's your decision to make, but I would advice against it. If you don't want to, put your foot down hard, I'd say.
