so me and this guy have been talking for a lone while and he's told me he's never had a decent blow job. me and him are at the point that we're about to bang ( we got there once but he's house mate walked in, wasn't impressed). But I really want to impress him with a breath taking blow job! anyone got any tips?
Use your hand, not too fast, not too slow, make sure there is enough saliva, use your tongue, have him hold your head, go deep and enjoy doing it. The more you enjoy it and get into the more he will enjoy it. Personally, I love giving blow jobs. He loves that I love it. Makes it more fun for both of us.
Puh. Like I'd give away all my fantastic secrets. But I will note that every man is different in what he likes and doesn't like, so you have to find that out for yourself.
I can tell you what my husband loves: licking and sucking of balls, licking and sucking of his frenulum, taking him deep in my mouth while applying tongue pressure/caress and suction (fucking the mouth, but instead of the penis moving, it's the mouth that's going up and down). He also loves when I lick from balls to glans and back, as well as nibbling on the crown of his glans. If I touch with my hands, he loves semi-circular motion without too much pressure, up and down, a little like spiraling. If it's only up and down motion, he doesn't like it much. When I suck him with the mouth slightly open producing vibrations, the tongue kind of fluttering on his shaft, he loves it. He doesn't like a lot of saliva (he thinks it's gross) and he likes to cum when I'm doing things to his frenulum with my tongue, while sucking his cock and playing with his balls with my hands. I think most men like when you make it last and let them feel how wet your pussy is only because you love sucking them so much. Many men also appreciate it when you look at them while sucking, at least once in a while. Interrupting the job to let the guy know how you're enjoying yourself sucking his cock is also a hit, but keep mouth close to cock while you speak, so your words "blow" air on it. There is a lot to massaging their egos while you suck. It's the body/mind experience thing.
Ruby has the basics of it, but I agree with Quiet's statement. Some men like their balls played with, some don't. Some like having their perineum tickled/massaged, some don't. Some like a lot of fancy tricks, some just want it sucked without all the bells and whistles. I would have started by asking him what was so underwhelming while it was already in discussion, then go off that. Part of the fun of having sex with someone you care about, is taking the time to get to know each other's likes and dislikes, and getting to be an expert at pleasuring that specific person. I see you're only 18, so at your age it may seem awkward to discuss it with your boyfriend, but you'll eventually learn that opening up and discussing it with him can take your sex life to an unbelievable level.
As others have posted, BJ’s are so subjective. Some of the things I’ve seen others post here wouldn’t do a thing for me. The fact that he mentions he’s never had a “Decent” BJ tells me he either has really high expectations, expects all woman to suck like porn stars, or his likes / dislikes have just never been met. Hopefully it’s more the third in which case I’d leave you with these few bits of advice: I know you want surprise him and blow his mind as well as his willy, and maybe you’ll get lucky, but since BJ’s are such a subjective thing if you could somehow bring it up or just ask him outright what he likes and doesn’t like in a BJ or what’s been missing in the past, hopefully he’ll give you some good information. Such as: messy / clean, deep / shallow, noisy / quiet, fast / slow, hands / no hands, changeups / no changeups, ball attention / no ball attention… The list goes on and on. If it’s a comfortable enough topic you can literally have him give you directions as you blow him too. Go with your gut though, if you think it would ruin the mood then do whatever you can to gracefully find out what he likes and doesn't I would think most guys would agree on this… This is going to sound corny but if you “worship” his dick while giving a BJ it’s going to make it that much more enjoyable for him. Let’s face it, guys are egotistical and want to believe we are God’s gift to woman regardless if we have a big dick or not. If you enjoy or at least act like you are enjoying blowing him and treating his dick like a meat popsicle after not eating for a week it’s going to mean that much more to him. Seriously I know it sounds lame, but you treating his dick like it’s a living breathing thing on its own like you are trying to make love to it with your mouth, that is at least half the win right there. Finally the finish, let’s face it, an awesome BJ includes making him cum. Again this is somewhat subjective but most guys out there are either going to want to cum in your mouth which is my first choice, you swallowing is a huge plus if you can do it. Or it might be on your face (which I have mixed feelings about myself as one could argue it’s degrading), or on your tits or somewhere on your body. Also after he’s finished, sucking him for a minute or so longer is also a big bonus to most and just further shows how much you wanted to please him. If the cum grosses you out, well that’s your choice how to make him cum. I think it’s safe to say if you act like you are trying to please him, listens to what he says he likes (and doesn’t like) and give him a great finish you’ll rock his world. However, just be prepared if you succeed, he’s going to want it often.
My guy says he wants no hands, just mouth. Wants me to lick the underside a few times. And of course concentrating just on the head makes them disappointed. But I don't always let him cum in my mouth. It's only when I'm in a real good mood that I let him do that, but when I do, it drives him crazy! Plus doing it only once in a while makes them appreciate it that much more!
As others have said everyone likes different things and it would be great if your communication was good enough to find out just what he likes! Good suggestions from others here so far. Appearing like you are really into it being a good one. Couple things I really like are when my lady is going down on me she is looking into my eyes well she is doing her thing and when she opens up her mouth and grabs my cock and slaps it on her tongue and rubs it on her lips. Also when she makes the ummm sound well she is doing it like it is a tasty treat.
