Accepting Our Bisexuality

Hello,

I'm learning how to accept my bisexuality and I thought I'd give this a go to see if there are other like minded people who would like to discuss the things that are typically on our minds when accepting our bisexuality.

I'm not really sure how to start this though...

Personally, I haven't had a "coming out party or parade" I've just mentioned that "I'm attracted to people regardless of gender" in natural conversation and it seems to have worked for me.

I can't help but feel some anxiety when doing so, as I expect to have to justify my identify... Does anyone else feel this way?

 

I have not told anyone i know offline
I have a few freinds who know and an aunt who is bi
usually, i test people to see if i should tell them
i live in a small very christian town most people who are bi are very secretive cause of it

 

Hi sunnyriver,

Thanks for your reply.

I first mentioned it when I was going for counselling (for a lot of other issues).

It feels like something to feel really anxious about doesn't it? I feel people don't understand it and so we will forever feel the need to justify our sexuality if we are open about it.

I guess, at the end of the day, what you think of yourself is far more important than what anyone else thinks.

Do you think talking to your aunt will help you?

 

One of the good things about being bisexual is that it doubles your chances of getting a date for Saturday nights. I looooooooooooooooooove being bi. Thanks for starting this discussion. <Allison>

 

With your views I think you are actually pan sexual.

 

Hi Allison12 and xXKittyxCrusaderXx,

How do you feel about dating a bisexual guy, as in sleeping with him, forming a relationship and loving in love?

Allison you make a really good point! haha

 

Personally I would love to have a bisexual guy. I wouldn't see how his sexuality would cause an issue. It could be fun down the road at least threesomes would be more interesting If he were into that of coarse. Because personally gender does not matter to me I love a person for them not the naughty bits they have that is just a bonus

 

So in love/lust with you

 

That's really hot Kitty.

It's really nice for us men to hear that too.

At the moment, I feel like it's something that I would be rejected for, yet I have so many other good qualities that go with it.

My mindset has changed so much about acceptance and sexuality and now here I am.

It's really good to hear you're views. x

 

Thanks I'm glad I could help

 

the way I see it is that if anybody rejects you couse of your sexuality, then that person didn't deserve you in the first place, butt that's just me ofcourse I do know that plenty men and women will reject someone becouse of theire sexuality, and honestly I pitty those narrow minded people.

 

Yeah I'm completely on par with what you're saying I just find it difficult being verbal about it, which obviously contradicts what I've just said, haha.

The really sad thing is is that I always get told I have alot going for me, and I can see that I have, it's just ashame I haven't fully dealt with accepting this yet.

This forum and people's feedback is really useful.

What's your sexuality, if you don't mind me asking?

 

Well I hope one day we can all accept each other for who we are. None need to change themselves to please anyone else. Its the human condition that needs to change. Gives Steve a hug

 

my sexuality is pansexual if I am to put a label on it

 

Cool

 

Haha, you're right, thanks!

 

I like that. Pretty much the most times I have gone down on men is in a MFM with the wife watching.

 

I've been bi-sexual since the age of 13. The first time with another girl was 'experimentation', but it was really nice experimentation. I'm not sure if it is OK to say I lean more to men as I don't ever think of this as an issue. I love sex with both men and women, though the ratio is probably 90% men to 10% women. I never wake up thinking, damn I need a woman. When it happens it just happens. I often go to gay clubs, not to find a woman, but to not be hit on by men all the time, in what is, a night clubbing with friends. At the end of last year I started working as an escort, so get enough men in my life on a daily basis, but this isn't the reason I go to gay clubs. I have always done this. Saying that, since starting as an escort I have had more sexual contact with women (outside of work).

On one occasion I went home with a bi-sexual guy I met at the gay club and had straight sex with him. The world is odd sometimes in what it throws at us.

And if anyone gets all weird with me over my bi-sexuality, well they can disappear out of my life never to return. I live, and always have lived, outside of the world where people pigeon hole each other. We all are what we are.

 

To be truly classed as bisexual, all your family and friends would have to know. EVERYONE

This is just a la la online persona fairytale

In real life

If you are a guy and brave enough ( or dumb enough) to go around telling EVERYONE you are bi, the vast majority of girls will just see you as a guy thats going to cheat on his girl with guys, thus will severely limit the amount of va jay jay you are going to get, or any real chance of a ltr with a girl...and pretty much till the end of your life with all people and their friends you were silly enough to admit it to

If you are a girl, well ive only ever met ones that said they were bi; and were either in college just trying to get attention, mostly lesbian anyway, or recently divorced and cant get a date with a man. Anything in between college years to recently divorced, they all have to cater to the sensitive male ego. Not going to land a husband if they tell the guy they like doing chics as well


Do it in real life, I dare you, tell EVERYONE you are bi, date a girl, then date a guy, each time bring them home to meet the parents, all your family, your workmates, their wives and kids

You dont, and never will, because you already know what will happen, you'd lose all your friends and family, and you yourself would cut some other guy out of the loop that tried to do the same thing

 

You really are a dick. Your view of the world around you is nothing short of disdainful. I truly feel sorry for you.