Abusive boyfriend with baby, dont know what to do HELP!

Get your daughter back and get both of you the hell away from this man. You should have done that a long time ago. Now you must do it. Get her, do all it takes. Your own daughter is in danger because you put her there; she was made casually, and then her safety wasn't put first. I'm sorry you've been through this, but you had plenty of evidence that he was a danger even before she was born. Then you left her with a violent, manipulative and unmedicated mentally ill man...

Correct this. Fight the fight and forget about being too scared or whatever else. Get your family and friends as backup and fight for your daughter's safety. Be strong now. If you're not, you might regret it forever. You've screwed up by leaving her there...now a court will ask "if he was so violent, why did you leave your infant daughter with him?" If you'd walked and taken her, he wouldn't have had a leg to stand on.

But if you don't act to give her a better life with her mother in it and without violence you are likely to create a messed up, confused and sad woman, so you must fight.

 

sorry about my first quote, I didnt know how to respond to that. His family has a lot of influence with the police and the courts and it has already been implied that it would be extremely easy to plant drugs in my car.

I am really at a disadvantage here, except the fact that I am a woman and the courts are more likely to take my side.

 

you cannot bring up someones mental health state in court, I have tried, the videos I have of him are inadmissible, and he has money from his family on his side.

 

LOL, this made me laugh, I should have tried to cut it down a bit. I just feel like I have a lot to say. When I decided to do this it just came pouring out.

 

If it was reversed and I were a man, would it make more sense?

 

And if I were a man instead of a woman, would the advice remain the same?

 

Very long.... I skimmed over some.

You've got to work fast to end that while your kid's young.

DON'T go back anywhere near him. Write down everything you know about any incident with him (including your time in jail because of his false report) and make sure you have ALL the legal documentation of everything you can get your hands on. Work to get yourself totally stable and in a situation where you can NOT end up depending on him again, and so that you can show the court you're totally stable, financially and emotionally, and then go about getting your kid back.

If you need to save for a lawyer do it, you want to make sure you have a legal slam dunk before going for her.

And make better choices in the future. You can't afford to be gullible or manipulated when you have a kid to look out for. You can't let her grow up thinking that's normal or okay.

 

What has that got to do with anything?

I know MINE would.

 

yeah I'm not sure what this has to do with anything either. When a kid is involved you have to put the kid first. It doesn't matter what gender you are. It doesn't matter how much money anyone has or how much power they might carry in a small town or how many bullshit excuses they can come up with regarding their mental instability. Male or female, the most important responsibility of a parent is to always ensure they are putting their child's welfare first and foremost.