Abortion or Adoption?

neither.. ide keep it.

 

Okay guys, this is kinda hard for me, but I might as well come right out with it since I saw this thread because it has got me thinking. Earlier this year after Danni and I broke up I dated a girl for a >very< short period of time. For the most part, I was just trying to distract myself from what was truly on my mind and the pain I was going through (which I can now successfully say does not work.) Anyway, we spent most of our time in bed, and I made some decisions that I would never in my right mind make on a normal day. I don't know how to explain it, I just totally lost touch for awhile I guess. I became the very type of person that I usually fell pity for.

Anyway, clearly we were not serious about each other, and our relationship did not last long. But after I broke it off (which was around the time I finally came back to my senses) she called me and told me that she was pregnant.

Now first, I should say that she mentioned to me when we first started seeing each other, that she believed she might be pregnant, but was not sure. Normally this would have been a huge warning sign to me. She had tossed back and forth about the idea of getting an abortion and asked me my opinion. I will tell you all what I told her. I personally don't agree with abortion, I do believe you are killing a life in it's earliest phases, and I could never live with myself if I had made a decision like that. But at the same time, I am pro choice. Despite my own feelings, I believe each individual should be allowed to make their own call. This is a touchy area I know.

Well, she finally decided against the abortion, which although would have taken a load off my shoulders at the time, I have to admit I'm glad she made the choice she did.

She is due pretty soon, I believe. I have not spoken to her in quite awhile. I still do not actually know for a fact that it is mine, but I have a very strong feeling that it is. I have had alot of sleepless nights over this lately, and I haven't talked with anyone about it before now except my mother. Without running the risk of sounding selfish, in the beginning I was worried about the child support. I still am a bit as I'm not exactly wealthy to begin with. But if the child is mine I will definitely pay everything I can, I don't ever want to find myself in the same group as the so-called "deadbeat dads." I am not like that, and I don't plan to run away from responsibility.

Obviously our relationship with each other is strained, if not entirely nonexistant. But I want to do what's best for the child. Unfortunately, in this case I feel that the best situation for the child would be adoption, but I am pretty sure she will not agree. I just want to know that he or she is growing up in a warm, loving family, and to be well provided for.

I am still so confused because I have also considered trying to file for custody myself, but I am still up in the air over it. I know that I can make an excellent father, I have always been great with children, and I love babies especially. And to put this nicely, she is just not the best choice in my opinion for a mother, but I truly hope she proves me wrong. I don't want to judge her, because I don't know how things will play out in reality, I can only make an educated guess.

Anyway, I am still trying to figure out what to do in any given situation here, and if anyone wants to throw in their opinion, it is more than welcome. I really want everyone involved to be happy, and even though this was not planned, I still care about the child's wellbeing. I just wonder if I can live with the child being out there without me in it's life.... I wish things didn't have to be so complicated, but that is life after all.

 

I think the first thing to do should be to find out if the baby is yours and then you can proceed to think more clearly about the whole situation.

 

Good advice. Anything else that i might add would be stupid and pointless at the moment.
Good luck.

 

it would be hard for me to make an abortion with the though im taking someone`s life. But i would do it if i have to,if the rest of MY life depends from it.

 

mandatory, unbiased, accross the board lowering of all human firtility.

there's no damd shortage of humans.

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So true. The world's overpopulated.
I'd go for abortion. Pregnancy is very complicated, and there are many risks on the way... what if the child comes out unhealthy? Then fter going through all the trouble of pregnancy, while not even wanting it, you need to go through all sorts of troubles with papers...

 

My body can't handle a pregnancy, so I would miscarry anyway. However, to all of you that would put it up for adoption, I'd adopt your babies! Kevin and I are talking about options if I'm still sick in a few years when we're ready to have a family and we decided that we would adopt.

I would have to abort if I found out I was pregnant right now. It sucks and I hate having to do that, but it would cause a lot of problems in my body. I have no choice than to be pro choice.

 

I keep my guns clean for the day they legalize really late term abortions. I have a long list of names....