Five years ago when I was fourteen I was raped. Walking home from school through the park a man grabbed me from behind & pressed a knife against my neck. He took me into the woods & tied me up & brutally raped me. Now I am nineteen five years on Has any one else been raped? If you were raped how does it affect your sex life now? For me I role play rape which helps me come to terms with what happned to me How about anyone else?
one of my ex's had been raped and it really pulled hard on her. Once she trusted me she too would role play the rape with me and get me to be rough and she told me it helped her. At first it kind of freaked me out but since it was helping her I was all good with it. She needed counselling for this and you should sit down and talk to someone too....if you "play" with your fantasy with the wrong person it could really go bad really fast.
Not sure what happened to me could be defined as rape. But definitely at least sexual abuse by someone I trusted. I've learned a lot since then, but still affected by it most definitely.
It saddens me that so many females are raped, abused, molested and violated. I cannot understand the need for any form of violence in what should be a very gentle activity. Violence is a huge turnoff and I couldn't even consider getting a hard-on if violence is involved. Even if I am just fucking I prefer the act to be a tactile, gentle, loving experience. I recently had an experience where I was with a young girl, where she was trying on some swimming gear. I got quite turned on and gently palmed her breasts and played with her nipples. She lent into me and my hands wandered all over her body, I kissed her and and we embraced. I slipped my hand down her shorts and slipped a finger into a very wet pussy, and started to massage her labia and clit. After a few minutes she started resisting and got quite agitated, and pushed me away, so I immediately stopped, and withdrew from her. She calmed down a bit and we chatted about it. She then became abusive because I didn't take her and force her to have sex with me. Took me completely by surprise and I walked into the next room, and left her alone. On reflection, she must have some internal turmoil about the way sex should happen. She has only had sex with 2 men, the first one was a once off and the second one was in a relationship. She won't talk about the first one, so I assume there must have been some form of violation involved. Still working on the seduction, but I'm unsure of the reaction next time.
It is definitely an experience that can leave mental scars and affect behaviour. Best to take it slow and build trust with her. Then I think sex can be very satisfying for both of you.
That saddens me. I am also surprised that roleplaying a rape scene actually helps . I thought it would be the opposite going off other peoples opinions in the past on other forums .
