A serious question.

My gardener doesn't have a vagina, nor is he a baby.

 

I'm not having sex until I am in love. At that point, I will be on BirthControl and I will use a condom everytime. I'm not making the same mistakes pretty much everyone else in my school has made.
I want to make my own mistakes, not theirs.

 

You don't seem insane to me and virgins are generally not whores either :cheers2:

 

Aaahhh! It took me forever to get that joke! Hahahaha.

 

But what if I have sex with him? What if i have sex with him while we aren't dating nor in love and we are just two friends having sex in high school? What would I be then? Because I wouldn't be Ryann.

 

Wait. I only read this far and a few of the comments at the end.

Weren't you asking citizens of RT a short while ago if you should do sleep with him or not?

And I mean it was pretty clear that 99% of people said definitely no. So, I'm wondering what would've happened if they said yes...

 

I've lost friends due to fooling around with them. It does change things even if they are saying it won't.

Right now he is thinking with his dick, not his head.

Also, he wants you but he doesn't want to date? Sorry, that's called "having your cake and eating it, too." It's a jerk move.

In all honesty, if I were 16 again, I would probably not stop, because I'd be hoping he would change his mind. But my advice as an older woman with experience, is to stop.

 

you said you are a virgin though. so...what exactly are you doing, and why?

 

You would still be yourself. To hell with labels.

 

qft

 

You should fuck him.

 

lol, you're gettin good rep for that naed

 

unless i'm thinking of another person, i remember you posting about being grossed out that your sister had sex on your bed or something a long while ago.


and i don't really know or care what you do, but if you do break it off first you should retaliate.

 

:iagree:

It sounds like a low-risk way to learn some techniques and have a lot of fun with someone you trust. The more I think about it, the better it sounds. Would you rather risk your first time being with someone you might end up hating?

 

hahaha you entertain me with some of your posts...alot!

 

You choose who ryann is and isn't.

 

Nah. Go for it tiger.

 

Alot of people are saying to fuck him, but I don't think I want to. I want to be in love and have the guy love me in the same romantic way as i love him.
Yes, i love nikc, and nick loves me, but as friends and I don't want just that kind of love going on when I have sex.
I don't want to have sex to be great in bed or some shit like that. I want to have sex as an expression of love and being able to give myself to that guy and it mean something other than lust. I want it to be because I trust the guy and love him and want something as a future with that person, not just one night stands or booty calls or whatever you call them.

Are any of you following this?

 

You'll probably date alot of people before you find someone you're deeply in love with.
And, no offense, but you're a kid, and probably confuse love with romantic pining in your mind.

It's your call what you do with this guy and not. Fooling around with friends is what high schools about. You're not doing anything wrong. Whatever, I don't care.

Have fun out their tiger. :biggrin:

 

Yes. and you sound like a sex obsessed virgin
Don't get me wrong, sex is freaking awesome.
It is not however a life shattering /changing event that you should worry about- or focus on 24/7 . Having it or not is not the basis of a relationship. Debating having it or not is not the basis of your existence(well , beyond your existence on this board that does seem a bit of that).
In-and- out is all, and it really is that simple.

Sex won't make you different. It won't change your hair color, make everything beautiful, make someone love you,make someone hate you,make you wear whorey clothes, need to give it away for every dick you see,give you a new car ,or bigger tits, ...
...well, not usually.

Fuck him, get it out of your system.
or don't and stop thinking about it at all.

I still say fuck him