A Real Tough Decision..What Would You Do??

I don't think I could carry it to term without feeling for it, but also, those underling feelings of "this is the child I didn't want to make" would make me regret it....

I'd have to have the morning after pill...

 

I would abort the baby as early as possible. I would rather have a child made out of committed love than something created by a rapist monster.

 

totally depends on my situation. At 15, or even 25, I'd have chosen to have the abortion. I do not believe it's ever best for anyone to bring an unwanted child into the world. At 30, after I was married and my life more stable, and myself more capable of raising a kid, I dunno... can't say. Being raped is bad enough, without a constant reminder, without perpetuating half of the rapists genes... I just don't know what I'd have done. Now, at 37, if I were to magically get pregnant by any means, I'd keep the baby and see the pregnancy as a sign from the Divine.

 

Adoption.

 

Keep the baby and raise him/her regardless. I could never abort and it's not the child's fault. Out of one shitty thing comes a wonderful new life - imo.

 

""'m sorry but abortion is the easy way out. "

No...Not in all cases is it the "easy way out". Abortion is a serious decision that is usually not taken lightly by any woman. There might be regret and remourse for deciding the end the potential for life.....but FORCED gestation for someone who has been violated would be much more damaging. Every woman has the right to choice. For those who CHOOSE to raise that child & become mothers...wonderful. But for those who choose abortion...which is so clearly with in their rights to do so....are no less wonderful and certinially not selfish or evil or (insert negative anti-choice word here).


"It's not the baby's fault. I think you people are weak minded in this situation. Life happens and this is just like an unplanned pregnancy between two people who consent to sex. "

It doesent matter if it is the baby's fault or not. The baby is not a viable human person. The mothers rights to anatomy over her own body have already been violated....her needs are more important than the desires of those who wish to legislate away her choices. No...Rape is not like concentual sex. How could you even say such a thing? To force a raped woman to carry around the result of her assult is a violation of human rights and is psycolocially damaging. Forced gestation is not in the best intrest of the mother or the baby and could lead to an unsafe abortion or self harm. Just because a person does not agree with your stance on abortion does not make them weak minded.


"It would be hard to keep the baby and look him/her in the eyes, but why deprive someone else the opportunity to have a sweet healthy baby?"

BECAUSE WOMEN....ESPECIALLY RAPED WOMEN ARE NOT BROODERS OR INCUBATERS FOR THE INFERTILE!!!!!!!. NO WOMAN IS OBLIGATED TO BIRTH A CHILD FOR THE BENIFIT OF ANOTHER.

Adoption & Abortion are 2 diffrent issues. Adoption is a parenting issue....abortion is a medical/gestation issue. If a person decides they do not wish to gestate a pregnancy and endure the risks of pregnancy and childbirth....then the "option" of adoption is moot.

"Like I said, it's not the baby's fault and I couldn't bring myself to end his or her life. "

You see thats your decision thats whats so great about the freedom of choice.

"That happened naturally...."
I don't exactly see what you mean by "that happened naturally"....If you consider the violent abuse and violation of a woman's personal anatomy "natural" you need some serious therapy. There is no place for forced sex or forced gestation in a civilized society.

 

i would abort it right away because my emotional state is more important. I would go crazy if I had to carry the rapist's baby.

 

I would terminate the pregnancy as soon as possible. Pregnancy freaks me out as it is, knowing that I had some evil mans seed growing inside of me would put me over the edge. Under normal circumstances I would only get an abortion if I or the baby were in harms way, in this circumstance I would not be able to deal with the fact that the child of a man who violated me was growing inside of me. It would end up being the baby or both of us because I would end up going insane and killing myself if I carried it.

And I would just like to say to all the people who keep saying that it's not the babys fault... ok, yeah it's not, but it isn't the womans fault either. The baby didn't ask to be made but the woman sure as hell didn't ask to be raped either!

Also, rape victims don't need anything but memories of that event to serve as a reminder of it every day and every night for the rest of their lives.

 

how could you ever look at the baby.. it would grown to be a likeness of the man who raped you... forcefully thrust his penis inside you and ejaculated while you were totally unwilling.. a victim of crime? thats what it is. i could not fucking go through with it.. abortion, 100%.

"regarding abortion, no single rule applies to everyone. we murder all the time- plants and animals that we eat or walk on; suppose a mountain falls and we all die. who killed us? God? the life force is constantly being murdered. the last authority is our own conscience. if the mother refuses entrance to a soul, the soul will find another place to go. the impact, the troublesome aspect, may not be as great as we think" - this is from a book called seeds of light by swami sivananda radha. it makes perfect sense to me as it correlates with my beliefs..

 

i would not have the child.
my best friend of nearly 17 years was raped a few years ago, had the baby and gave it up for adoption.. i could never do that.

 

Jesus Christ how hard is it to swallow a pill the same day . Similar to a full grown person drowning in a pool with 1/2 foot of deep water.

 

apparently you don't understand the emotional shit that is thrown on you once you are raped. I was raped when i was 13. I could not think straight for months, which led me into a hardcore depression that lasted for a couple of years. I cried straight for those 72 hours afterwards, so I wouldn't have been able to think, "hey I may be preggo, so I should take this pill." plus, plan b didn't exsist back then. every woman has their own story, so please refrain from judging others.

 

Thats what mothers@ fathers or relatives are for or you dont have any or any with any brains. even a savy doctor could had say = here child take this pill and call me in the morning. Im really starting to wonder if they teach any comon sense in school or home this days.

 

A doctor can't just tell you to take the morning after pill as though it were advil. Whether or not you're given Plan B depends entirely upon whether or not you ask for it in the first place... And continuing with or terminating an unexpected pregnancy is, for many people, a very difficult decision to make.

Nobody other than yourself deserves to make such an important, life-changing decision as this.

 

Plan B, in one form or an other, has been available since the BC pill was developed in the late 1950s. It has always been known, and used, that the Pill, taken in a certian way, could prevent ovulation and implantation. When I was about 10 years old (this would have made it 1972) my father had to be taken the the ER. There was a young girl in there (this was before HIPPA, so everyone heard her screams and the entire wating room knew what had happened) who had been drinking at a party and been raped by the brother of the girl who had the party. (The girl was about 13 or 14, the man was in his 20s and home on leave from the Military.) I clearly remember the doctor,out in the hall, where I was, waiting for my father, telling the parents, "We will give her a large dose of birth control pills over a few days, and it'll bring on a period. Then she won't have to worry about a pregnancy, and the additional trauma that would bring." That was over THIRTY YEARS AGO.

Plan B is now available in every ER in the country, every rape crisis center, every Planned Parenthood, and soon, every pharmacy will have it OTC in October 2006. I KNOW rape is horrible, and messes with your head, but many many young womyn do manage to procure and take Plan B (or a combo BC pill in the right way) in order to prevent a pregnancy. This has been around for nearly 50 years.

A freind of mine was also raped when we were in High School (this was in the 70s) and she didn't want to go to the ER, but we brought her to PP and they gave her a pack of BC pills, and she took them according to the directions of the nurse at PP and she got her period, and it was one less thing for her to worrry about.

 

I would keep the baby or giving it up for adoption.. I would never ever want to kill someone, and even more someone whos life has not even had a chance. It would be hard but I would still keep it

 

Jenny, it's not a person until you give birth.

 

Most rapes go unreported. In fact I'd say most rapes aren't even mentioned to family or friends.

 

and many were not rape she just said yeah baby i want get f.....k then if they get busted then they resort to the rape lie . old but quite efective .

 

I'd like to think that people wouldn't be so disgusting that they would lie about such a thing.... but you are correct, people are dispicable and do lie about it I guess.... But that doesn't change the fact that many rapes go un-reported, which means that many rape victims go without medical or mental help for their trauma.