A random compliment by a man in a relationship, why?

I'm wondering why a man in a serious relationship would go completely out of his way to send a very flattering compliment to someone who basically never talks to him.

Do people in serious relationships do this often?

Now this man sent a compliment to me on fb and I really haven't talked to him much in past few years, but I did tell him at some point a few years ago that if he should end his relationship, to get in touch with me.

It was a little more than that, but that was the gist of it. But I would think if that was the case, he would've said more than, "you're so beautiful". It's an odd comment right?

I'm not sure I want to respond to this or what to say.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

I wouldn't say typing up a message on facebook is going completely out of your way. And I think a comment like "You're so beautiful" is sweet. Now if he would have said, "You're so beautiful, let's fuck sometime" then that would be inappropriate. I have people sincerely tell me I'm beautiful and appreciate the comment, they don't seem to be hitting on me.

 

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Hotwater

 

he just wants to hit it

 

I said that two years ago.

Also, it seems like it's going out of his way for me. Nothing I write goes on this newsfeed because I don't use fb like that, I only use private groups. I recently took all my pictures and personal information off my profile too. I even deleted almost all of the posts on my wall.

For me to send a message to him or someone like him that I've barely talked to in the past year and receive no hint that the person still exists (although I do cyber stalk his page every few months or so), it seems like quite the effort.

 

Could Just Be The Cyber Equivelant Of "Drunk Dialing" Perhaps....??



Cheers Glen.

 

Ahhh yes...good point. Thanks.

 

You're just beautiful, now deal with it!

 

You're so beautiful,,, does it always mean a person wants sex with you?

I have been told that by a woman a time or two and it was said because I care about others and do good onto others as much as I can.

My mom is a bit pushy but she is so beautiful because what she does is out of love for her family and friends.

Do ya think maybe he said it due to things you said on your face book that he really appreciated? You could always try to come back with something like, "all my friends say that because they know I care,,, thank you"

 

Why not simply not respond to it or respond with a simple thank you.

It is a nice compliment but it does not have to mean anything unless you give it a meaning.

 

I find that women tend to search for hidden meaning in compliments from everybody. Sometimes it's just a compliment . I wouldn't assume more until he gives you reason to do so.

 

A man in a relationship is still a man. & this:

 

It might be inappropriate but more than likely it is harmless. Or maybe he is getting itchy feet in his marriage. I would either ignore it or say a simple thank you but definitely don't say more than that as he may be looking for encouragement.

There is a married guy I work with who tells me how pretty I am everytime he sees me and it weirds me out but supposedly he's happily married. I think some men are just flirtatious people and continue to do it harmlessly after marriage.

 

I don't really intend on responding. There's nothing on my facebook page to indicate anything about me whatsoever, he's not married and I don't see anything wrong with harmless flirting in a relationship, to a certain point, but it's just odd because we haven't communicated with each other in a very long time and also there's some social things that I don't really understand.

I definitely don't understand random compliments from people you're not even in communication with. I don't really like compliments either, so that might have something to do with it...I find that compliments are almost always suspicious. Unless they're specific from someone who knows me well, it tends to make me feel very uncomfortable.

But sure, I'm sure I'm trying to find some meaning here because I've been purposely isolating myself from people and I've been getting some unexpected attention from a few "old friends" since I started isolating. It gives me something to write about and since I'm on contract to crank something out, it helps to have things like this come up every now and then.

 

Reminds me of a joke I heard.....

"They said hello to me, and I had to wonder what they wanted and meant by that..."

 

BF always says "I love you" after he shoots a nasty comment/joke my way when he thinks I missed it,,,, oh right, he does love me but he uses that as a cover too, hahaha dirty sonaBitch,,,

 

Yeah, I'm definitely that kind of person. If you ask me how I'm doing, I don't say "fine" or "good", I tell the truth. That throws people off, I don't really care, I do things the way I prefer to do them.

If someone says hi to me and it seems inconvenient to me or we've already been in the same place for a period of time, it seems odd to me. Why greet each other, when we've already greeted each other, just non-verbally?

I actually don't mind greeting strangers in public, that's comforting to me.

 

Covering up the shit, eh?^
and hopes you do not smell it....lol

 

Thinking that was for my message above,, ya he's a stinker alright, haha.