A racey Saturday ~

Well, what are you waiting for baby???

 

I don't get it. I honestly don't get it. What is the deal? I don't want to bad mouth the guy because I don't know him, but why do you suppose he isn't interested in making you happy? (Your husband)...

Do you have a normal relationship outside of the intimacy problem? Are you room mates? What could possibly keep him off of you 24-7? Seriously, I can't imagine. I am sort of in the opposite side of the same situation. I BARELY ever get to spend time with my wife. The reason is that she is going to school for her masters, working full time, and is interning as part of her schooling on top of that. She's a busy woman. I realized that for four years I won't see much of her and it sucks. But, when we do have time together we make the most of it. I can't imagine her being so cold to me.

Honestly, if I had one of YOU available to me and as willing as you are to spend time together, I'd be in heaven.

I don't see how a guy could take a woman like you for granted. It's really sad. You have such beauty in your eyes. How can he look at you and realize what he has without melting?

Please explain this to me. You deserve someone that recognizes the amazing person you are. Do you think he'd be open to counseling? Or have you given up hope?

I could go on for hours, but I won't do that here.

Sorry, I had to ramble for at least a little while.

 

you could at least divorce yer hubby before you sneak off with men behind his back.....sex or no sex...everyone deserves honesty, no?

 

But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
William Butler Yeats

 

Well you would think so right? But we have 3 children. If we divorced then for one, he would have to pay alot of child support and he wouldn't be able to have enough money to live. I would have to go to work and put 3 kids in childcare which would cost more then what I would bring home in a month. Not to mention the devastaing emotional side effects on the kids.
Divorce isn't as easy or practical when you have a family. And I hardly think that a saturday afternoon kiss is grounds for divorce. So I think your comment there was a bit "unresearched"
I do hope that my husband and I get on better terms ...he is a great guy he is just very lazy in our marriage. And I have talked untill Im blue in the face, yet every night he is alseep on the couch by 7:30 and "too tiered" or "not in the mood" for sex. I have tried kissing him before and I am pushed away."Im trying to watch this show!"

He knows that our lives would not be managable through divorce at least not while our kids are as young as they are.

 

That's so sad.

I can't understand why he wouldn't at least attempt to make things better if you have voiced your concerns to him. Maybe he knows you wouldn't leave because of the financial implications and thus he doesn't feel there's any reason to change. It sucks that you have to exchange your emotional and physical happiness for financial security.

It's not right, but I do understand your reasoning for staying with him. It just isn't right. I barely know you yet I hate that you are so disrespected.

Sorry if I have stuck my nose where it shouldn't be, but I can get really wound up by situations like this. I wish there was a way to make him realize what he has.

 

Thanks Hacker, not everyone understands.... but when the few who do can imagine what its like, I don't feel so alone.


Thankyou

 

Sorry to beat a dead horse here, but it is snowing here... heavily snowing, but so calm... I almost feel guilty for what I am surrounded with. I had been kind of down on things lately with my wife because it seems she never lands. She is always on the go. But she does still find ways to show me she cares and hasn't forgotten about me. We had a great weekend of Christmas shopping and putting up Christmas decor. This whole house reeks of Christmas and love. I am very fortunate. And then I look into your eyes and wish you could feel this too. You're such a good hearted person. I wish there was a way I could help you. How can it not feel like you are just coasting through life? You are in the very prime of your life, and you feel stuck. It just isn't right.

I am not trying to annoy you, but have you ever sat him down with no distractions and just talked to him about what you expect and need from him to be happy? I know you said you did, but I can NOT believe that any man who gave a damn about you wouldn't compromise, do whatever it took to make you happy. You are not being unreasonable. You are asking for him to treat you like someone he cares about. What is at the root of his behavior? There's got to be something there. Did he change after your first child came? Or did it happen later? Is it possible that he sees you as a mother and not a wife?

It's weird but I have been thinking a lot about your situation lately. Sorry... I have to work at fighting my own problems and leaving other people alone.

Just know that for some reason, I feel some connection to you (maybe it was the dream?) and I care. Please know that you are worthy of being happy is every way. I just hate seeing beautiful people being treated as anything less.

<steps off soapbox>

 

Wot's to research? you are married and you started this thread bragging about how nice it was to kiss another man....

Did you tell your husband?

Financially inconvenient to divorce? heh, you are like some throw back to the middle ages!

mebbe i'm wrong.....wouldn't be the first time...but if yer can't be honest with your husband and kids (and cheating will affect them one way or another eventually) yer ain't worth a bucket of shit...

 

Thankyou for telling me Im worth a bucket of shit.

It was hard to understand what you were typing because of the spelling. And I hardly consider a kiss cheating.

Anyways, I think its hard for you to understand without being in the situation. I am human, and when Im rejected time and time again for years by my husband, I reached out to get human contact. I have done everything I can do to get attention from my husband.... Ive even tried kissing him and he puts his arm out and pushes me away.

Bragging? Maybe I did if thats what you consider bragging, mostly I was on cloud nine because I felt contact with a another human that I haven't felt in years.

I try not to judge others in situations Im not in or fully understand. I still have alot of learning to do as a person and I hope to continue to grow. But I am aware that there are situations that others go through and I may not fully understand them, but I try to be understanding and considerate.

 

You don't? How did your husband react when you told him then?

 

Is your husband serving in the military? Three years without getting a kiss from him...Has he been overseas all this time?

-- Skeeter

 

Hahaha...nope, just asleep on the couch!

 

And just look at her!!! She's even MORE beautiful on the inside too... I can't say I have ever been more baffled about this whole situation...

I think he's gay.:&

 

just in case you missed it yellowbellyhippy

or is me speallling alll worngg and yer dont' understand the question/

 

Like Im gonna answere any of your questions

 

Was this the reunion.com guy that kissed on Saturday?
DW

 

LOL NO! I blocked his email address!

 

Good, cuz I was wondering that too. =)

 

awww

*heartbroken*