A Question for Bisexuals

i go threw stages, i'm in a girl stage right now, i'm a girl too

 

I'm not a bisexual but I studied homosexuality and have some bisexual friends, so I think I can answer some questions here. I think bi's go to straight phases at first but later, they discover that they also like the other sex.



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liza
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It's not very often that I find myself attracted to a man. It takes a certain sort of something that I just can't describe. I might add I'm in a long-term relationship with a guy, something I hadn't seen coming.

Women usually do it for me.

 

^^ i know exactly what you mean. theres just a certain lil something a guy has to have for me to be 100% attracted to him

i like chicks.

 

I find girls bodies and spirits much more attractive, but i find it hard to have a real relationship w them. I can have relationships w guys but cant get girls out of my head sexually. Very confusing! Nice to know lots of people are confused with me

 

Yea, I think that's the way a lot of us feel... The guy I'm currently "dating" claims deep inside I'm really a lesbian and won't admit it (jokingly) because I told him the same thing... hell I really don't understand it myself... but physically (unless he's getting down to the deed) I'm not all that attracted to men... but I don't want a relationship with a woman... maybe it's just what society has played in our heads (we should marry the oppisite sex) even though our minds wonder we have that wall....

 

I ended a 21-year relationship with a man about a year ago. Two months after the break-up, I met a woman to whom I'm now engaged to be married. Now 54, I came of age during the heyday of the original "flower children" -- and fell madly in love with the long-haired, love-beaded hippies, both male and female.

Today, 40 years after the Summer of Love, I'm still erotically attracted on my DC side almost exclusively to long-haired neo-hippie guys (Only now, they're likely to sport dreadlocks). But finding one of my generation who fits that description in this day and age who's openly gay or bi is like pulling teeth without novocaine. And I still feel uncomfortable with the thought of forming a relationship with such a guy who's young enough to be my son.

If I wasn't bi, I'd be terribly lonely. By the way, my fiancee knows that I'm bi -- and is bi-curious herself -- so the monogamy-versus-polyamory issue isn't a factor. But I've got a gut feeling that my former boyfriend of 21 years will be my last.

-- Skeeter

 

I am bi, I love guys sexually but I cant have a real relationship with them, unless it's the occasional f*uck now and then. Girls I can do both, flings and a real relationship. I actually prefer girls but guys are okay once in a while. But no one does it better than a chick who knows what you like. They just no how to please a girl, something to do with the fact that we both have vaginas i think lmao

have a good one bi brothers and sisters!

 

i also love the fact that girls and girls and guys and guys can get married here! woo canada!

 

I thought that right went out when Harper came in.

 

hey emo kid, wow can you not use chat-speak,

thanks haha, no offense or anything its just hard to read and understand.

also it really depends on the individual person. I consider myself more lezbian than bi, but because of the occasional sexual attraction i am some-what bi. it's really the person. nobody is 100% bi or gay or straight. there is always that small non-sexual attraction that balances people out. every experience changes a person sexually, physically and mentally and it also depends if you meet someone so special that you just fall for them.

i know a lot of lezbians and gays who just fell head over heels for people of the oposite sex. its all about living life from person to person not label to label.

 

Honestly, I'm not sure I would ever have an experience with a girl/date a girl... I am/have been attracted to/liked girls, but overall I've always had a better connection with guys. Even as friends.

And when I'm attached, my sexuality doesn't concern me that much. To me, if you're with someone that you truly care about and want to be with, it doesn't matter what orientation you are... all that matters is the person you're with, and not what sex they are, or whatever else.

I've got a looooovely boyfriend right now, and just as I wouldn't scope out other guys dating him, I also wouldn't snoop for women either.

My theory doesn't involve sexuality as much as it does love... love is love, and I love who I love, and the sex of the person, or other people doesn't concern me. And when I am in love, I don't go looking for love in anyone else, regardless of sex, or whatever.

I think categorizing sexuality is overrated. Fall in love, and love every second of it, who cares what the sex of the person is.

 

i go through those "gay" phases every once ina while, sure. the main reason why is because it usually happens afetr a guy treats me like sh*t. hm. yeah.

BUT i tend to like girls a LOT more anyways, so it doesnt phase me.

 

im sort of weird cos i can imagine myself in a relationship with a woman more than with a man, yet i am more physically attracted to men, i dunno maybe i am just gay, id rather be bi =D more option! hehe
Sam

 

sca2007 i feel da same way

 

i am probably about 70% lesbian and 30% straight, but i always seem go for very very feminine qualities in people, male or female.

woman are just... beautiful. it must be said. everything about a woman is gorgeous. i pretty much just fall in love with women who are as femme as you like and really flaunt their femininity.
although, saying that i hate make up and think we all look 100% better without..

with men it's different. they need to have a certain something. the last guy i crushed on was Australian and had the most AMAZING dreadlocks. he works in my school so i saw him every day and built up this massive attraction to him. but saying that, i think i was more in love with his dreadlocks than anything else.
but generally in men, i cannot stand ultra-masculine personalities. i go for Femme guys!

 

hey,
i feel that i have gay and straight moments,
sometime i feel that i just dont care bout being straight and would rather be with men, but at the other times i think why the fcuk do i wna be gay?

 

I definitely go through phases, sometimes I'm totally into women, other times I just get totally obsessed with cock. Right now I'm in a cock phase

 

Everything is beautiful...particularly when tripping.

 

See the thread "Lonely for "my unique special real" Bi-Family"

I am a Bi-natured man who attracted to and has the ability to "love after the inward person" BOTH (not "either") a special Man AND (not "or") a special Woman. This is because I "experience thier souls differently" and am drawn to what each has to offer (physically AND spiritually) in a "relationship".

You see, with me, ironically, as one gender-bonding need is fulfilled it only enhances my need for the other.

When I am sexually active....

[NOTE: as I lead a celebate life-style, bisexality is a BORN "orientation" of "being" but can be also be (and often is for most self-claimed bi's) a "selected for now" life-style]

....Having good sex/intimacy with a male only makes me unstoppably passionate for a special female. And when I am in a good sex/intimacy relationship with a fantastic woman, I am even more passionate for my special boeeeeeee, my best man!

It is NOT as complex as it seems to the Monoganized society: Think: the movie BrokeBack Mountain "WITHOUT" the deception--drama that was inevitable because the two "bi" men were both hetero-MISSmarried(mated).

Now just meditate for a moment. If they had BOTH been a MAN about their dual "needs" AND dated and fallin in love with Bi-natured wives (women)...they would not have come to the "despair" they had to live "ALL THIER LIVES". There would be NO NEED to abandon the marriage and children for the commitment of the same-gender relationship they had.

But they, like us, live in a "single"-mate taught morality society that brought about a life of deception, hiding, desparation for same-sex intimacy.

I WON'T live my "one life to live" that way --- I would rather live a celebate life-style because other Bi folks (ironically) CAN'T or WON"T see that we bi-persons need to be "active" in educating the society (that instills morality to our Bi children) by word AND deed on the value of dual monogamy when we are attracted to both genders.