A Question for Bisexuals

Yes, I go through the phases. I only go through lesbian phases though when I'm seriously upset at the male gender. And I don't get that anymore. Too old for it. So now, I just switch from straight to bisexual. Sometimes I don't like girls, other times I do.

 

I'd have to say that I'm attracted to both consistently but there are times when I'm wanting either straight or gay sex. So from an attraction standpoint it's consistent but my sexual interest flip flops...and now that I think about it I guess it's about a 50/50 split. I never encounter times when I'm anti either way but stay consistently bi. Have I confused anyone yet? lol.

 

I have more of an emotional connection with men, slightly more lustful one with women

think that puts me about halfway, overall.

 

what are u saying sir?

 

What do you think that says!?

 

are you....?

 

Yup, it's been mentioned a few times on the boards! You can't seriously be surprised, surely?

 

I didn't know that, you didn't tell me

 

I don't talk too much about my proclivity, never felt it defined me. In person it's a little more obvious, i'll admit that

but yeah, I guess i'm a little greedy

 

that explains something now....

 

What exactly?

 

no dont get me wrong! I'm just making a better since of you

 

That's a good thing, I hope

 

it is!

 

Good

 

holy shit! how things have changed. its amazing to come back to this forum so many years later and see how i have changed so much!

 

I look at females more but occassionally a guy will catch my eye. My wife looks at women as much as I do but will sometimes check out guys but it is rare because she is not sexually attracted to guys as much. She would rather check me out. Me, I don't go out looking to check anyone out, I used to work at an exotic dance bar and had enough of having to watch them to make sure they were not doing stupid stuff. We usually go out to hae fun and don't care to check out other people except I like to sit in the furthest corner when I am sitting and watch the room.

 

I like everyone but it depends on the people I meet. If there is magic.

 

That's the thing about being a bisexual. You don't go through gay or straight fazes, it's dependent on who you're interested in at the time. So you like both men and women, you meet a guy who you really like. You're preoccupied with your interest with him. It isn't a straight faze. It's just part of being a bisexual. Or you meet a girl that you really like, same thing happens, you're not going through a gay faze you're a bisexual. The interest for both sides is always there, you'll acknowledge the fact that a female is stunning, or that a male is striking but there aren't fazes. I think if there are fazes it's more or less 'confusion'. I find there are alot of bisexual stereotypes; that we're confused, horny all the time and just take what we can get, or out for attention. The fact of the matter is, though there are people who do these things and are that way it doesn't mean we are all this way. Just like not all gay men are good at decorating apartments or cordinating their shirts with their shoes. Or all black men are good at basketball, or all lesbians are butch. Personally, I don't go through fazes. I like men and I like women for different reasons. Sometimes I yearn for certain things from the certain sex depending on how i'm feeling. Like a male to keep me safe and warm, or a female to relate to and cuddle.

 

Nina86 and wild-flowers...well said by both of you. I cannt think of a better way to explain it....