One thing that really ticks me off is when people mutter insults under their breath. It usually only happens to me with one person, my older sister. If I walk into a room with a few others, just to get something, and she might question me on something that I do. I know obviously she would have the upper hand if we're discussing me as opposed to her, so rather than defending myself, I'd just say something like "that's for me to know and you to find out". But then when I inevitably need to leave, I'll hear a little nasty comment muttered as I've exited the door. If I walk back to defend myself, I'll have just taken the bait, and will have shown that I care too much. But on the other hand, everybody knows that I've heard muttered insult, and that it can't but annoy me. What's the best way to handle this whether you can or can't anticipate it??
Usually when you call people out for this type of shit, they back right off, unless they have good reason for their insults and can back them up.
Can't say I recall experiencing that. But if I did, I'd probably insult them back, depending on the context and the person involved. Don't go back and call her out - just say 'bitch' or whatever as you walk away. Even pronounce it in a kind of dismissive way.
I would probably say "what was that? I didnt quite hear you" What really annoys me is when someone has no problem talking shit about you until they realize you see or hear what they have to say then they dont have the balls to stand behind what they say. If you're going to talk shit about someone dont be a pussy about it. Don't back peddle once you are put on the spot. Those people are soooo annoying.
pretty much there are generally two options: one is to be less offensive, if and when this is actually possible, the other is to just accept that some people will choose to be offended anyway. such, as they say, is life.
Just tell her she's being cowardly (she is) and if she had the courage of her conviction she's say it right out. But, have you intimidated her and caused the muttering, failing to accept responsibility for your obvious repressed sexual desire? Sorry, that last part is just a test.
