A needed break....

So my son is at his grandparents house for the night and I find myself high, Sitting in awe of nothing 'on'.

I wanted to do this or that, But once the silence hit, Ive lost motivation in wanting to go or do anything other than 'sit peacefully'.

I don't like to be away from him and its honestly the second, Maybe third time and he is almost 4.
But for those who have/had kids, Is this what you look forward to? I get out a lot and go riding all the time, But never leave him or will be back.

I hope this is not the 'time to look forward to' time, No kids, Quiet house or people should have told the truth, Bastards:sunny:

 

I don't have kids and every time I'm around one I want to leave and be alone.

 

^^^ That...

 

I was that person too when I didn't have one.
I still cant stand the bullshit you have to tolerate. I haven't had that problem with my son yet in a 'public setting' and I think he knows how I will react to him if he does.

With his mom, He does and says what he wants and wont listen to her. I don't say anything bad either about her, He will only mind me and his uncle.

 

I like kids, if I said I didn't it would come off sounding super anti-social but some kids just don't know to give courtesy to other pedestrians when they ridin' their scooter or w/e,...are you gonna hit me? I guess they're too young to know that you gotta watch out for other people. Same thing with with little kids on the bus that wanna crawl all over me, I'm not your daddy and I don't really wanna play ya know? Usuallly thses kids are like 7 or 8 and their parents are nowhere in sight, and I'm not tryin to substitute as a parent.

 

I haven't really been away from my son very much at all, but he's still really young. He's stayed with his grandma a few hours a couple of times so my boyfriend and I could go on a date or grab a beer with friends, but I had anxiety the whole time. I think it would feel weird to be at home without him. I'm so used to him being here.

I don't really like other kids though lol. Just mine. I liked my nephew when he was young, but that is about it

 

I like kids, but even my nephew is a totally different situation than some random kid. I can see how people don't like kids until they have their own.

When I have kids, they are going to be well behaved in public. It's ridiculous when some kid is causing a scene and the parents can't control them or do nothing to even try to control them.

 

This ^^^



I still believe in smacking then with in reason, But he turns and laughs. I live in BFE and no friends and need to get him into 'the system'.

Hes though and a different name than most and will back it up I dread along with other 10 fold curses. But even 'views' I have are not taught or emphasized in his learning but hes Lucifer that laughs, Calls you names that I have done very harmful things to others who did less to me. Hes getting out of hand.

Starting at the juice boxes packed with sugar and he wont eat anything but crap food. Its a nice night so far or bitter sweet, Id feel better with him around.

 

If he is 4 then you can change his eating habits. It is the right time to do it. Stop having the junk that you do not want him to eat in the house. He will maybe not be impressed but if and when he is hungry or thirsty he will eat and drink.

The first time I was away from my two when they were little was stressful for me. I knew they were safe with my mom but that did not stop me from fretting and missing them.

Parenthood is great!

 

Its a very active dependent time for kids and they drain us. So much fun is to come . Parents have to rejuvenate but it has been the most rewarding thing i've ever done.

 

I like well-behaved kids. I can't stand little brats whose parents let them run loose and terrorize stores, but I have sympathy for them because I know it's not exactly their fault that their parents failed to teach them boundaries and manners. I'm still very very uncomfortable around strangers' kids. I get along just fine with friends' kids and so far with my niece but she's just almost 7 months old.

I sort of want kids, but sort of don't. I'm not in a financial state to responsibly bring one into the world, so for now any babies would be total whoopsies. I'd roll with it and learn to adapt and figure out my way but for now I don't have any plans.

 

Well, my son's two and a half and he's never been away overnight..
My mom tried, saying a few months back she wanted him over night but I kinda... avoided that topic because I'm not digging that idea yet.
I mean...he goes to sleep between 8 and 9 pm... don't I get a break from him every night anyways? Any would I need to send him off hours earlier?

 

Good.

 

That's good to hear his habits can be altered without notice, Hopefully. Im glad I have him even though this or that would have gone differently in my life.

Yep, You have to teach them everything and thank gawd for clonazepam lol. It gets to a point of 'whats this or that' i go crazy. But he will learn that, Hopefully soon.

My son would just sit and stare at you or watch what you are, Play with anything possible or ? until you give up. Hes on a bad schedule and i know its my fault. He will make 2am easy 5am if he had a long nap.

Im the first to admit, I have no idea and only do and sometimes treat him like 'a friend' in terms that i think he already knows what to do. Or things others would question i feel is fine because i grew up 'that way'.
Oh well, Hes back now and had fun the whole time. I spent the time sleeping for the most part lol.

 

Are you saying your kid goes to bed at 2 am? I'm confused.

and you treat him like a "friend" because he already knows what to do. I treat my son like a friend too but I know I also gotta be a parent because kids their ages are like wild animals... (for real!) and you gotta train them.

 

My son goes to bed when he drops. Hes wired and you can run him at the farm all day and then some and he will be , Up? We are cutting sugar boxes out and water, Tea etc is drank than high sugar drinks.
But yep, He goes to bed late and gets up early and takes a nap sometimes.


No, I treat him like a 'friend' that already knows what to do, When in fact he don't. I would think at his age, Plenty of time to pick up the 'basics' but he chooses to be lazy IMO. Might be me, But he wont un do his pants and cant dress himself.
But has never wet his pants nor bed at all. Will listen to me if I raise my voice, But ignores his mom and certain people.
I just want to say somtimes, Like on bad santa, ARE YOU FUCKING WITH ME????
He just got out of the bath and is not tired at all. No sugar from us, Candy, Drinks etc.

 

getting him into a bedtime routine would probably help a lot with that. If a kid does the same thing every night before bed then those things will eventually start signaling to his brain that it is time to sleep. Like, just as an example, giving him a bath, letting him play quietly in his room or whatever room he sleeps in for a few minutes, reading him a story, and not letting him get out of bed once he's in it.

My brother always let my nephew run pretty wild. He never had a bedtime and he used to stay up until 3 or 4 am drinking dr pepper lol. Once he started playing sports in 8th grade he started regulating himself. He started drinking water instead of soft drinks and he started going to bed at like 10 to be up for practice. He's pretty much the perfect kid now and never really had any discipline from his dad.

 

Yeah, cut out the sugar...or most of it including in juice. My son gets juice twice a day BUT his juice is three quarters water and one quarter juice.

and see.. yours is still up and mine has been sleeping since 8 pm and ive been sitting here with blessed quiet. (mine wouldn't nap today for some reason though, usually he's good with napping.)

 

I'd go crazy if mine was up at 3 am running around here hahaha
no no no.
Bed times are good.

 

I agree. My 10 month old still wakes up a lot during the night but we have him going to bed around the same time every night finally and I feel so much saner for it.