A great way to increase intimacy and make sex even better!

Hi all ...

A couple of years ago my wife and I discovered a way to increase our intimacy level and improve our sex lives tremendously. I'd like to tell you about it, because it's great.

Basically it started when I happened upon a web site called Devotional Sex.
Here is the web site ... Devotional Sex
The author of the site can describe it much better than I can. He says ...

Those who practice Devotional Sex gain pleasure from an enhanced sexual and sensual life, with erotic energy becoming a constant positive dynamic within their relationship.
Devotional Sex builds and maintains passion and desire, enhances the pleasures of sexual activity, significantly increases the amount of sexual activity, and most women enjoy many more orgasms.
But when asked which is the biggest benefit, the most popular answer - from both men and women - is the increased intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship.

The basic concept of Devotional sex is that the man ejaculates far less during their sexual encounters than usual. This keeps his sexual energy high, he can spend much more time giving pleasure to his wife or girlfriend, she benefits from far greater sexual pleasure and more attention, and he gets a lot more sex! Talk about a win win! Granted, it does take practice and a fair amount of discipline to fight millennia of internal programming for the guy to get past the concept of cumming every time he has sex, but believe me, the rewards are worth it! The feelings of greater passion and intimacy start immediately, and they don't diminish over time. It just gets better!

Let me make one thing clear right now....This is NOT a fendom (female dominance) concept at all. There is no dominance, humiliation, or submission involved. Both partners do only what they are comfortable with. Everything associated with Devotional sex is done through love, respect, and passion.
Also, there is no money involved at all here. I'm not trying to 'sell' anything, and Devotional Sex is 100% free...forever. The author of the web site is not trying to sell anything. He's just passing on information. I'm just a very satisfied DevS'er .... as is my wife. We were happily married before we discovered this, but Devotional sex took everything to a much better level. Before, we would have sex once every week or two. Now, we're having some form of intimate sexual activity many times a week....sometimes 2 or 3 times a day when time permits! Also, for the record, we aren't kids with raging hormones. I'm 61 and my wife is ....
Please at least visit the web site and have a look. I believe you'll be as impressed as I was!

 

I read your description and believe that you aren't selling anything, because this isn't your first and only posting on the site. There is definitely something to be said for a man focusing on something other than his own orgasm/ejaculation.

However, it depends on the relationship dynamic, communication, and what she wants. Some women are pleasers by nature and don't have a good sexual experience unless their partners have an orgasm each time, or orgasm first each time. I'm glad this worked for you, but it won't improve things for everyone.

Sure, in general, no woman wants a guy who want's sex frequntly, but who is also a two-pump chump who immediately rolls over and goes to sleep. I had good results beginning in my teen years to focus on giving pleasure and on sexual contact that did not lead to my own orgasm/ejaculation. However, if the ratio of hers to mine is 20:1, it's more of a long-term recipe for frustration than harmony, for me anyway.

The general message of seeking intimacy, not release, is a very positive one. I accept it in that spirit.

 

There is a tantric element to DevS, but from what I've read tantra seems to be more involved and intense. The fellow who 'developed' DevS says he started with some of the concepts of tantra and expanded from there.
In your post you mentioned younger men's need to ejaculate more often. DevS has that covered in that he recommends that younger men/couples keep their 'seasons' fairly short...3 or 4 days. A season in DevS is the time between ejaculations. For older men it can obviously be longer...a week, two weeks, longer...whatever works for both partners. That just means that his sexual energy stays at the higher levels longer. That translates into more fun for both partners, and many more orgasms for her!
Like I said before, the web site explains it far better than I can.

 

This is a problem that my husband has and it's been hard to overcome!

 

I'm reading about this now, and I'm liking what I'm reading! This sounds good for Tom and myself!

 

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I totally understand that it wouldn't be for everyone. For the man's part it definitely takes practice and perseverance. For the first little while when we started it would start playing havoc with my plumbing after a couple days. There comes a point when you 'have to' cum because its just too uncomfortable. That's OK. However, believe it or not, your body does get used to it and it gets better. Generally speaking I can last two weeks without it becoming a problem. After that it gets to the point where there's just no holding it back. That's OK too....its all part of the experience and fun.
For my wife's part, she's like your wife in that she loves to please me and make me happy. Like most guys in the second half of of their lives, after regular sex I loose interest for a couple...sometimes several days. With DevS I don't loose the interest because I haven't cum for several days. Therefore my body is pretty much always receptive to her attentions. The other side of the coin of course is that I'm always ready to please her as well. Its a win win for both of us. We both get much more sex and enjoy it much more. Believe me, eventually you get used to not cumming every time and you start to love the feeling of heightened desire.

 

Excellent! Be sure to register on the forum there as well. The people are friendly and ready to help you along the way.

 

How do I register?

 

Watch porn together

 

Mmmm I'm All In!

 

My newest FWB doesn't mind me watching porn but she has trouble finding porn that holds her interest. She'll go from shot to shot and watch a little and she kind of gets turned on but not like my other FWB who will seek out a category that she's interested in at the moment and we watch a few together as she gets squirmy. Everyone is different I guess. The one who doesn't really watch much manages to send me links every once in a while of something she likes...usually erotic massages....so it's not like she hates it.

 

I agree with the method of prolonging sexual pleasure without ending in climax every time. We both are in early and late 60's. We started experimenting with frequent sexual intimacy, a couple of years ago. We deliberately do not climax during this activity. We engage in such intimacy at least 3 or 4 times a week. It keeps both of us sexually charged through out the whole of the following day. Only on weekends we go for a full climax sex.
I am sure you are enjoying the same enhanced pleasure. I am curious to know some of your techniques.

 

"The basic concept of Devotional sex is that the man ejaculates far less during their sexual encounters than usual. This keeps his sexual energy high, he can spend much more time giving pleasure to his wife or girlfriend, she benefits from far greater sexual pleasure and more attention, and he gets a lot more sex! Talk about a win win! Granted, it does take practice and a fair amount of discipline to fight millennia of internal programming for the guy to get past the concept of cumming every time he has sex, but believe me, the rewards are worth it! The feelings of greater passion and intimacy start immediately, and they don't diminish over time. It just gets better!"

well as a gay man I suppose this is much what I practice; being a vittom inlike to give maximum pleasure to my partner, which in turn...turns me on, the hornier hecgets ...the more I get

In sex it is the 'journey' that matters for me ....can have an orgasm almost any time but the journey up to and close to orgasm is what matters and the enjoyment of my top that does it for me.

Simon