28 Year Old Virgin

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by coldmoon, Jul 30, 2016.

  1. coldmoon

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    So I recently turned 28 and I've never had sex before. Lets start off with some basics here; Im a guy, I had girlfriends in the past but that was mostly highschool. Its not a religious thing. I never went to college and I don't socialize much so opertunities have been few and far between. In the past this it didn't bother me so much because I figured it would happen sooner or later but now when i think about it it worries me a bit. Like how do you bring that up in conversation with a woman and how much would that actually bother a woman. Im really scared of doing something like getting a prostitute. I don't even know what im looking for here whether it be information on what to do or maybe just someone to finally talk to about this it really is quite imbarassing.
     
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  2. morrow

    morrow Visitor

    Be proud, if you were a girl you would be!
    Get yourself a subscription to a good dating site
    Have your self some fun!
    Watch some porn, and don't be worried, you just haven't met the right one yet!
    Believe me, 28 is not so bad.

    Good luck with the dating site ;)
     
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  3. Bud D

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    I thought 23 was bad. Lower your standards would be my guess. The first one your going to learn so much about yourself and other people. Try to not get attached the first time.
     
  4. StellarCoon

    StellarCoon Dr. Professor

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    You may want to lower your standards, but much more important than that is putting yourself out there. If you want to find someone worth your time you HAVE to put yourself in a position where you can interact with many people.

    Examples: clubs/social gatherings/dating sites
     
  5. wheattie_70

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    I wouldn't worry about even bringing it up if you meet someone. I mean, unless they ask - which I doubt they would - don't even worry about it. I can understand it would make you conscientious, but don't dwell on it.
     
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  6. coldmoon

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    One of the things that i keep thinking and worrying about is wouldnt the woman be able to tell that its my first time. I wouldnt want to have something good going with someone only to have it ruined by something like that. Sometimes i just wish i could get it over and done with.
     
  7. wheattie_70

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    well, if you have something good going and you really like her - then you could perhaps say something like "I've never done this before" right as you are getting ready to do it. No way she is going to stop and not do it because of that. That way, you haven't lied or hidden it from her in case you are worried about that for something long term. And if you watch enough porn, you pretty much should know what to do so I doubt a girl will know you haven't done it before if you don't want to tell them. You might not be the best, but i'm sure a lot of guys aren't that good who have done it several times.
     
  8. I'minmyunderwear

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    pretty likely. which is a good argument for getting it done with someone who doesn't really matter.
     
  9. coldmoon

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    I dont even know how to go about just getting it over with other then picking up a drunk chick at a bar and id at least like the woman that my first time with was sober.
     
  10. GLENGLEN

    GLENGLEN Banned

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    Being A Virgin Is Nothing To Be Ashamed Of.....I'm Many Years Older Than You And Still A Virgin...

    Be Patient Grasshopper The Right Partner Will Appear When You Least Expect It...... :daisy:



    Cheers Glen.
     
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  11. pensfan13

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    Bring her home go to bed but don't have sex until the morning when she sleeps it off
    :)
     
  12. undefeated

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    who cares man - look at this way most girlfriends cheat on their boyfriends and give them std's anyway. and u dont have to worry about that. the way I see it if u atleast if you WANT to have sex with girls then its all good. if no girls have wanted to have sex with you - then its not your fault for having a v-chip. basically what im saying is if u had opportunities and turned them down - then yea its on you- if no girl has given you the opportunity then dont be so hard on yourself and if u look younger than you are then thats a plus. if your 28 and look 21- y not say your a 21yo virgin-- not as bad right :)
     
  13. NickieNypho

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    Look man im sorry but thats one of the saddest stories ive ever read.
     
  14. lowestorderbelow

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    You start of by pleasing others, so the success rate will be higher.. find a person bit inferior to you..be confident ..ask her out ..not bad for a first time experience..don't lower your standards to a really low level though

    she will say yes ....
    as you grow things will get more bustier and better than you

    If you are not a playboy and a one club man, i advice you to get married to someone equal..
     
  15. tumbling.dice

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    Create a profile on Plenty Of Fish, for example, put up some good pictures of yourself and say you're looking for a friend with benefits kind of thing (kind of a "girlfriend-light".) Don't be real picky over looks but be patient and cautious, you don't want a crazy person. [​IMG]
     
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  16. redheadmiss94

    redheadmiss94 Banned

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    Yeah i would suggest some online dating. or if you just wanna bust a nut just walk around at 3 in the morning and ask any girl. you'll get a yes
     
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