27 Male - Can hardly orgasm at all regardless. I've run out of things to try

I have self-diagnosed myself with having delayed ejaculation. Which has the effect of basically making it impossible for me to reach orgasm in sex. Masturbation i can easily do it (both with and without porn) but as soon as i'm with someone. I never happens

I get very close and then just nothing. Blowjobs and Handjobs feel great for me so i know it isn't a nerve damage thing and it's very light in terms of grip, it's not death grip-style. Yet penetrative sex tbh is just a bore for me, even if my gf is being 'rough' it still doesn't work. I'm quite sure she won't go any rougher for fear of hurting me

I'm a switch so i can be both sub and dom. I had a pregnancy scare my very first time i had sex and because i hate kids and right don't want them, i don't want to risk pregnancy. Despite her being on the pill and me using a condom. I'm horrified of bringing these things up with my girlfriend; due to the fact my parents fought a lot when i was a kid (Verbal confrontations, nothing physical) i REALLY don't like confrontation and have very severe anxiety when a hard subject comes up regardless of who i'm speaking to

Other than counselling i have no idea what to do

 

It's anxiety man. Relax and don't think about it, the more you stress about it, the harder it is to cum. If you can do it while on your own, you don't have a physical problem. I'd say go easy on the masturbation and stay away from the porn for a bit and everything will correct itself. If you're a young guy who hasn't had a lot of partners, the feeling of vaginal will be very different from what you're used to. The tempo of the movement will also be totally different to what you're used to. It'll be soft gentle movements as opposed to hard vigorous tugging. Once you have weened yourself away from the porn and masturbation + stop stressing about not being able to cum, everything will 'cum' naturally. Pun intended.

 

Tomsta has been on the forum for over 6 years with few posts. This thread pretty much fell on deaf ears for 5 months.

Tomsta, if you check back in sometime and haven't found a solution you need to talk with a therapist that deals with childhood issues. Mentally you are blocking yourself from ejaculating into her pussy in order to avoid having children possibly due to issues ingrained into you mentally from your own childhood. Get yourself into some counselling.