27 and not had sex

Hi all

I'm new here, I'm Autistic and I recently turned 27 and I've not had a proper relationship and I've not had sex, I struggle to find partners and lately been thinking about having sex for the first time in my life but I feel I don't get attention cause on Autistic and overweight, anyone else had the same issue? Never really spoken with a woman about sex but is that cause I have no confidence?

 

That’s a difficult one- some important aspect of life is passing you by. I would urge you to address this issue with a therapist.

Beyond, take care of yourself. Lose some weight. Cultivate a hobby, maybe something that is not intensely social. Local botanical society, perhaps?

In my youth, I bedded a number of men, not because I found them particularly attractive, but I knew they wanted me. I didn’t want a long relationship, but a few nights together was fine. I did not regret it, although some of them had trouble accepting the transient nature of the relationship.

Finally, if you can afford it, don’t rule out an escort service. Yes, it’s commercial sex, but good escorting involves more than just getting it on.

 

I keep thinking about it but don't feel it's morally correct

 

And I would say that so long as everyone is adult and accepts the limits of the arrangement, it is not immoral. Brahms is among my favorite composers ... he was addicted to prostitutes. It’s a good man’s failing.

 

I just struggle on cause I have no option

 

i think you are being far too fatalistic. You can take the reigns of your life.

 

Just don't want to regret anything

 

That’s not a healthy approach to life. You need to take some risks in life. I’m not suggesting throwing caution to the winds, but being hurt is part of life. You’re 27. Carpe Diem!

 

I don't understand carpe diem

 

Latin for “Seize the Moment”!

 

Unfortunately I won't the moment

 

**won't get the moment**

 

Again, I urge you to consult a therapist. And likely you are searching for love. Well you may never find that- I would say I very nearly did not, and did not love my husband when I married him. That came later, but at the time I was seeking stability and wanted children ... but wanted them to have a father.

But just someone to be with, to sleep with, or even just have sex with, that’s rather easier. You are missing too much in life ... don’t let the ideal interfere with the good enough!

Ok, I need to leave now. Keep in touch.

 

Therapist won't get me a relationship lol ok chat soon

 

No, but I think one could help you get out of the rut you are in now, and help you in the direction you would like to go. What do you have to lose by trying?

It is a little difficult for me to relate to your situation. When I was your age, and younger, I perhaps had the opposite problem to yours. Ok, bye for real this time.

 

Ok

 

I met my wife in a gym (nautilus type machines, free weights, etc). This might solve two problems. You don't have to talk to work out. There will always be better looking, taller and the like. Just be friendly. Keep a positive attitude. People tend to gravitate to good listeners.

 

Something else. One of my favorite inspirational movies was one named "Rudy". About a guy who was "5 ft nothing and a 100 and nothing with bearly a bit of athletic ability but ended up on the football team for Notre Dame. A true story.

I think most everyone has some fault, physical, mental, or psychological.

There is no shame in asking a girl out and getting shot down.

 

I agree with what everyone here has said- I was a late bloomer aswell (20-21) somewhere around there.
(Quote from 40 year old virgin “your putting the pussy on a pedastool”) love that movie. It’s ridiculous, but that’s what it was for me- finally I had a girl ask me if I was going to have sex with her or not (she was dead serious) how I lost mine. But after that it became easy. That is why everyone is recommending (myself included) an escort. Because once you have it , you realize it is not what your head had it out to be- it’s great, don’t get me wrong. But I understand the pressure your putting on yourself. It’s really ok to talk sex with women. Let them know you want them.

I had a friend who would ask almost every girl he saw out- his rationality was “ out of every 10 I ask, 1 says yes” haha he was nuts, but truthfull. You deserve what you want, they are not doing you a favor by saying yes- get up and go after it! You’ll get shot down some, but it’s apart of building character and your approach.

Good luck man!

 

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