1000 Facebook "Friends" Ignore Woman's Suicide

So you throwing falsehoods at me, saying everything bad that's happened to me in my life, the way Ive been treated is all my own fault, isnt attacking me? Yet me defending myself is attacking you? Its not my fault if you cant handle the truth. I know it probably makes you feel somehow superior to try and paint it like everything bad thats happened to me is my own making and fault, when you know squat about my life. By throwing falsehoods at me, you were attacking me. I cant see what else you'd call it.

I interpreted it the only possible way it could have been interpreted. You dont know about my life, so stop pretending like you do.

 

Actually that's very true. I personally have felt relief when most would have mourned.

 

I'm not really sure what the relevance of facebook is here. Everybody knows having 1000 facebook friends doesn't say anything about your personal life and real friends right? Too be honest I can't blame those facebook-'friends' for not responding either. Her actual real life friends that noticed her suicide note on facebook? Perhaps, but I don't know them or their relation with the victim so I don't judge them either.

 

Okay.

My offers still stand.

 

I know you are in effect defending your right to be a victim. Your suffering is not special.

 

Okay, did anyone else find this funny?

 

No, I was simply stating that all the horrible things Ive had to deal with in my life havent been of my own making and my own fault. I was accused of an untruth, and I defended myself, simple as that.

 

Now so yes.

 

I actually predicted that someone was going to say this as soon as I posted that. lol

 

I thought it was great comic relief.

 

Stating facts is not painting myself as a victim. Thats the interpretation you chose to apply to what I said.

 

It wasnt intended to be so, but I did see the funny side after Id posted it, because I knew someone was going to say what you just did.

 

So if they are not of your own making then you are the victim of horrible events. I am telling the truth, you are defending your right to be a victim.

The thing that is untrue is that you are a victim of anything. You have the power to transcend your past through understanding this dynamic.

 

No, I am not.

If you actually knew what happened to me in my early years, I have no doubts you would not have said what you just did. Even if I was able to transcend my past, that still wouldnt alter the that fact that what happened to me was cruel, inhumane, and shouldnt have happened. Facts are facts regardless. I could be strong, and no longer be a victim, but that doesnt mean I wasnt one in the first place. By that logic nobody who has had horrific things happen to them are victims.

 

I don't want to compare scars with you, they just aren't that becoming, but there is no depravity that I am not accustomed to. Like I say, your suffering is not special.

This is the attraction of guilt, to glean sympathy, secondary benefit.

 

I never said it was. That's you misinterpreting me again, and putting words into my mouth. I have suffered, but just me stating that fact isnt me saying its special or unique. You took what I said completely out of context, and applied your own assumptions on it. Im also assuming me stating earlier that I know there are people even worse off than me went right over your head.

What have I got to be guilty about? As for "gleaning sympathy", again, thats pure assumption and misinterpretation on your part. Trying to make people understand, isnt looking for sympathy, unless you choose to look at it like that which you clearly did.

 

What you were doesn't matter, it doesn't exist. What you are does. The moment you no longer consider yourself a victim you aren't one.

 

Like I said earlier, Id need to be a very strong person to be able to reach that point, and Im not a strong person, and never have been. I dont believe that makes me a bad person, just a very weak willed one. Not everyone has the same level of strength required to surmount great hardship.

 

You made the claim of special circumstance when you said if I had know what happened to you I wouldn't have said what I said. I did not misinterpret
anything.

That may be your assumption but your meaning does not escape me, it is just another way of saying that people may be excused for extenuating circumstances, special conditions.

You are assigning guilt by making the accusation, "horrible things happened to me". Because horrible things happened to you you are deserving of comfort or special consideration. I am not accusing you of any thing. I am describing conditions we find ourselves in and how we get there. The predominance of mental agony is produced by the quality of our narrative of events. By his words a man is justified.

I tell you simply, you can unravel a painful past, if that is what you desire, by understanding this dynamic. It appears to me you would rather remain the "abused."

 

What you have been doesn't matter, it doesn't exist. The moment you tell yourself that you're strong and strong enough to overcome, you become that.

As long as you tell yourself that you're weak willed, you'll always be that.