what does love at first sight feel like???

Honestly this has only happened once maybe twice in my life. Looking back nothing became of it because of my own inactions and insecurities. The experience forced me to look at myself and make changes for the better.

 

im not even sure about that. i have had some very real, very spiritual relationships that had lots of dimensions and ticked lots of boxes. They didn't last. Just left me depressed and frustrated for years. Not sure about any of it anymore. im just increasinly cynical and have no trust left. So yeah could be soul connection in so far as it does you in so much it's either grow spiritually or hang yourself. That's the only connection to soul i can derive.

 

I was replying to roamys thoughts, mike slipped in before me incase my reply is confusing

 

is'nt it great that you realize that now mike and are trying ta work through them.cos the most secure you feel yourself as a person it will make for a lot healthier possibility if it happens for you again. welldone! mike.

 

spiritual growth is always a good thing.i was lucky that i had a soul connection that did last.but i think it was because we were genuine soul friends number one.soul friends who had a romantic soul connection too.but i do think its kinda rare though when that happens.

 

Thanks, I write poetry about major events in my life. This one's about that whole experience. It'll give you a little more insight to what going on in my head.

http://www.hipforums.com/modules/Journal/viewentry.php?journalid=4143

 

thanks mike. i'll check it out.

 

The first sight thing is chemistry, instinctual attraction. "Love" is a complex spectrum of emotions and views that requires time and experience between people to grow. You may feel you love someone right away, but what you're loving is your mental version of that someone, since you really don't know anything about them yet

When I met my girlfriend, our eyes met and we spent a few seconds just checking each other out and smiling . . . I knew then this would be nice.

 

Thanks roamy, Sorry, my reply sounded pretty negative. There was so much pain. But where there is pain there is growth. Yes i couldn't agree more, the spiritual growth is a very good thing. It really is central to everything we do. im happy for you with regards to your deep spiritual friendships. That sounds like a nice, safe place.

 

My wife and I met when she responded to a personal ad I had placed in a local newspaper. We met at a coffee shop where I had met 6 or 7 other respondents to my ad. The 1st time I saw her I had a strange feeling of peace overtake me and I heard my voice say to myself silently "ok, you can stop running now".

I was not consciously attracted to her sexually, nor did I think she was beautiful in a conventional way, nor did I feel like I loved her at 1st sight but I did feel something unique and strange and wonderful and I remember that we spent several hours in that coffee shop talking and how sad I was when we parted. (I had to go to work.) We did fall in love within a few weeks and I remember the moment I knew I would marry her; I took her to meet my Grandmother and we were talking and when my Grandmother asked her if she played Pinochle and my wife said yes I knew then we were meant to be together. Pinochle was a game my family had played for generations and none of my previous girlfriends knew the game. Seems trivial but that represented a sense of domesticity and simplicity that just seemed right.

My love for her grew gradually and has continued to grow each year. When I first told her I loved her in May 1996 I had no idea that I would eventually love her infinitely more.

 

no need ta apologise for saying it as it is.thats a good thing,not a bad thing.just remember that real love will never make ya feel like hanging yourself.whether its in friendship connection or that an more.its good you were able to express it all.nine times outa a 10 its people who don't talk bout how they feel like hangin' themselves that do.once expressed it halfs it.so you'll be alright.when people have been deeply hurt it dose take from trust.but there are still a lot of people in the world that can be trusted to.yes where theres pain,there is certainly gain.all adversity can be turned to positives.ya, in the love of real friends is always a very safe place ta be.

 

You are very wise roamy. You mean you think it wasn't real love to be in a bad way after? It was all the types of love i thought i felt. guess i just felt too much. what can you find that you can channel your love to, feel safe, have 'the end' as an impossibility, be able to be yourself and feel safe? ive concluded just the friendships. especially if you meet someone you could be left devastated by as a result of 'the end' then the friendship would be best....but is that realistic? possibly not....not sure about anything any more. ive got me a bad temper and forked toungue that i feel will send me hurtling toward the end. mmm good quality friendships are very comforting to someone like me. Thanks for the advice. i loved mikes poetry, you should check it out. i can relate.

 

might have been real on your behalf but if it left ya feeling so bad maybe twas'nt on the other side.i think one of the biggest problems with romantic love is that people forget that most impotant part of any love is genuine friendship.if thats not their as a two-way street first,what would any people have to build on.a sturdy house need a strong foundation.quicksand swallows people up.you'll no real real friends whenever you meet them.my dad used ta say one genuine friend is better than 20that are'nt.he was right!i read mikes poem, its class!sand down the fork and remember tommorow the sun will come up again. it always dose,for everytime it goes down.

 

i agree with your dad too. Don't worry, im working on my tongue and moods. Hope to find a pot of gold at the end of a lovely friendship someday. Have to agree with you re the foundations of friendship. The romantic connection always dulls when you live together, you end up as friends down the track. Smarter to start out as you mean to finish.

 

For me it was a very calm and serene feeling, almost dreamlike. And it was different from the feeling of lust, it was gentler than the normal carnal lustful feelings I usually got with other crushes.

We went to a couple of dances together when I was in school and that was it, we never had sex, but we did a fair share of flirting and she initiated the whole 'relationship' and we left on good terms, but circumstance made us drift apart.

 

it is an overwhelming rush of endorphins, oxytocin, with a smash of adrenelin