What Causes A Guy To Not Be Able To Get Hard

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Lvlygrl, Jan 16, 2017.

  1. Lvlygrl

    Lvlygrl Member

    Hello everyone, I'm new here and I had a few questions about erections.

    To start, I'm a very fit girl, and I've been told I'm very gorgeous, I've gotten the "you look like JLo" many times. I'm very out going and I treat people with the same respect and compassion I want to be treated with. I was pretty popular in high school and I never stuck to just one group of friends, I did have my closet best friends but I also had a lot of friends from all different cliques and was nice to everyone.

    I'm not trying to be egotistical, please don't think that and if you do, please be gentle, I'm just trying to explain the type of person I am cause it might be the cause of why these guys couldn't perform.

    So, on 2 occasions with 2 different guys, they couldn't get hard. I dated both of them (obviously at different times in my life), and I know they both really liked me. One of them said they loved me after one week And the other said they were crushing on me since high school. With both guys, things were going great, hot and heavy but when it came time, they couldn't perform. I don't know if it was me, if maybe I wasn't their type, or if it hard to do with them???

    Please help me understand what the problem could be.
    Thanks for listening and any input
  2. John1234567

    John1234567 Member

    Thats a hard one. Everyone is different and what makes that part work depends on the person. Just seeing some tits doesn't always work. I had a few gfs that didn't do it for me but my wife does everytime
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  3. pensfan13

    pensfan13 Senior Member

    So are you saying you had sex several times with each of them but one time with each of them they couldn't get it up?
  4. Lvlygrl

    Lvlygrl Member

    I'm sorry, I forgot to mention that.
    These guys were in their early to mid twenties, each of them I dated for a few months before giving it up. Only tried once with one and twice with the other. Not much, I know, but at that time I was in my early twenties and never really been one to jump from relationship to relationship.
  5. Pressed_Rat

    Pressed_Rat Do you even lift, bruh?

    Could be anxiety, or could be they fap to porn too much. It's unlikely to be a health issue at that age.
  6. undefeated

    undefeated Member

    for me personally - thoughts of rosie o donell , hillary clitnon, and feet because there r all gross . but as for your case maybe its that your so hot your intimidating so they couldnt get it up.
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  7. John1234567

    John1234567 Member

    Was there any foreplay or any reason for the guy to be distracted. I can get a great bj from my wife but if i sm not there yet, it will feel good without getting hard. Might have nothing to do with you. Also guys are visual so if your tits were not out then that woukd be hard for some guys
  8. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear voice of sexy

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  9. rollingalong

    rollingalong young at heart Lifetime Supporter HipForums Supporter

    sometimes dudes are ready to rock and all of a sudden they get an awful smell coming from the cha cha area and voila...no boner

    now obviously I don't expect op to say ''oh it must be my disgusting vagina''....i'm just sayimg I have absolutely lied to more than one woman because of her bad hygiene.....
    imo if 2 young dudes both took a pass it could be you op

    good luck :)
  10. Lvlygrl

    Lvlygrl Member

    Hey I'minmyunderwear....I responded to your post in the forum. Sorry bout that.

    And rollingalong... I get what ur saying but I've always kept her nice and trimmed or shaved and I'd never, at that time, because it was the first couple times, would I let a guy go down on me or anything for that matter if I thought there was a smell. Trust me...if you can smell it...so can we.

    I never had a problem with any other guy after that. One of my bf's would want to go 2-3 times a night sometimes.

    And john1234567 I was wear naughty lingerie then would end up totally nude .

    Undefeated... Thank you for the nice comment. One of my guy friends said the same thing too but being a girl and always seeing better looking or sexier women out there I didn't think it was because of being hot. Shitty to think that but it is true. There are far more beautiful women out there.
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  11. undefeated

    undefeated Member

    i wouldnt worry about it- im sure your still a prize package
  12. storch

    storch Senior Member

    Yeah, there were a few girls who didn't do it for me, too. But my wife does it every time. But those other few are getting better.
  13. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

    Maybe just nerves
  14. F6C

    F6C Member

    It might be that these guys have had similar issues in the past with other girls and then it starts to build up in their own mind that they aren't going to be able to perform and then it becomes a mental issue more than physical.

    If you were in a relationship with them - did you spend the night with them?

    If so, did they ever wake up with an erection???

    If so - that takes the physical aspect out of it....

    PM if you want to chat
  15. For me its Real Housewives of Beverly Hills

    One hour of that and I need 3 viagra just to get it to pop its head back out so I can go to the toilet

    How do the hubbys of all the woman on that show not shoot themselves in the head?
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  16. F6C

    F6C Member

    Never seen it but by your description that would certainly do it ha ha
  17. On a more serious note.....

    2 occasions with 2 guys over "the course of your life"

    Out of how many?

    Dont get me wrong, not calling you a hussey if it a hundred, but if you are asking about 2 occasions out of 100. then.......
  18. John1234567

    John1234567 Member

    I thought gorilla was going to say he had way more than a hundred
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  19. Lvlygrl

    Lvlygrl Member

    No it was just the first guy I'd ever been with, the the second one I was with twice and yes I gave the second a blow job and he was hard but then when it came time he just went soft.

    Lol no no I'm not a hussy. I haven't been with very many guys. And the other guys I've never had any problems with. I've been with my husband for 16 years and things are good. I've had guys go hard on me even if we were dancing at a club or sometimes some guys would whisper naughty little things to me. I dunno.
  20. Oh, the first guy your been with, if it was his first time too, that doesn't count. Clumsy awkward virgin sex doesn't count

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