Is It Hard To Be A Man? :(

Discussion in 'Free Love' started by TheSamantha, Oct 5, 2014.

  1. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    General.
     
  2. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    Key word swingers party.
     
  3. Annwyn'Bri

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    I don't think Pressed Rat has ever heard of a swingers party, much less been to one.

    He seems to always think that if it's something he doesn't like or wouldn't do, it's something no one should do or like, or maybe he is just jealous because no one wants to do with him....
     
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  4. MochaMood

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    He seems like one of those men who marries a woman but then buys dates from prostitutes instead of fucking his wife because he sees her as too pure for recreational sex, and once he's humped the requisite 2.5 crumb-snatchers into her, as far as he's concerned she never needs to have another orgasm again. Then again, she doesn't need to demean herself by climaxing just to get pregnant, does she? Oh, wait, I must apologize for insulting his future wife by insinuating anything about her ...erm... what did hey used to call it? Reaching her crisis.
     
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  5. Vanilla Gorilla

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    Wasnt really what I said. Said 9/10 times they'll probably get dead cold starfish. But once they start doing that eventually get to that 1 in 20 thats doing that job just as much for the sex as the money. If the john makes it past the 2 minute mark, then he just gets used as a dildo for the next 40 minutes.

    I was talking about the 1% rule, once they get to that top 1% (and no not rated by looks) then all the rest of you get compared to that and on top of that they then work out in a time/money ratio it works out cheaper than anything else anyway. And if they are like that at 19 by 40, too intimidating for almost every guy, by 40 know exactly what type of guy to bother with instantly.

    That 1% at 19, dont get on with any girls, dont bother trying, so you never see them anyway, their johns dont see the other johns so they dont have any idea in a way. Girls never really get to see them.




    With Susan Sarandon, looks a bit weird cos they both have the same shaped face, so it does look like she's "dating" her son, most people will think its about that, might be a bit about that. Dumps the husband then a couple months later has a toyboy, old enough not to get too excited, young enough to not fall asleep after 20 minutes.

    Said this in the media recently:

    Which is just a bunch of crap to appease the masses, and women mostly. Its not like she'd ever come out and say, well dumped the husband cos marriage sucks and he cant get it up anymore. I dont really care if I love this guy, he knows how to fuck..............because it will be mainly women that get the knives out for her

    You dont have to be a big movie star to have a toyboy, just that you dont see the ones with boring jobs that have a toyboy, cos they are not in your social circles or splashed across magazines. But not every woman would bother.

    So then you realise, hang on a minute, if she is like this now, rewind back to when she was 19, how'd she get into the business in he first place, agents / movie producers. Married for over 20 years, 3 kids whether it was one secret guy or many to take care of business during the marriage. She knew if she ever go caught out to just go with 'oh I was young and naive they took advantage of me' if it was a casting director at 19. Or if it was during her marriage 'Oh we were just caught up in the moment, I love my husband, would never do anything to hurt him' blah blah blah....and all the masses will buy it cos, oh no females cant have sex drives, that cant be true
     
  6. VerySexual

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    Samantha, what did you do this last weekend???? Regale with another story of an endless evening.
     
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  7. MochaMood

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    That reads mostly like gibberish to me. I invite you to make your point more clearly, if you wish, though it is probably my lack of understanding, not your failure to communicate.

    I was talking about the 19 year old prostitutes that in your post are the most sexual 5%, the 1/20. I disagree that they have universal appeal. They do not. No one does.

    At 19, I was hypersexual, but at 34, I'm a much better partner, and still hypersexual. Women like me are born, not made. I have had sexual urges since I was a toddler. I experimented on both both boys and girls in my peer group. At age 11 I started giving myself orgasms, but didn't know what they were. The contractions felt so radically different to my experience of the previous 9 years that I thought I had broken my vagina. Terrified to tell anyone I broke it, I just kept masturbating relieved that it seemed to keep fixing itself even if it did keep breaking. Still, when my best friend gave me an orgasms with something that can only be described as an ingenious, makeshift double-ended dildo, I was terrified and and didn't fuck another girl until I was 19. I started fucking men when I was 15. Until I fell in love with a man who was a sexual dud 8 years ago, I had sex almost every day. 2/3 of the way into our marriage, I had been sexualmy starved for too long. I asked for and received permission to sleep around. In that period of adult experimentation, I learned so much about sex and myself. I couldn't stay married to my wonderful husband with that knowledge.

    My boyfriend constantly worries that he isn't keeping up with my considerable appetite. He says he doesn't worry, but he does say things to belie that position. I can't blame him for his concern. The only reason I left my otherwise perfect husband was his low libido, and the boring, mechanical, predictable, sex that I actually had to schedule in advance. Not that he always gave me sex at the appointed time.

    If I were given a choice to fuck myself at 19, or myself now, I'd pick now. Now, I actually have a better body, more stamina,more confidence, and more knowledge. I do whatever my dude wants, plus introduce him to acts and kinks he never tried, AND will take care of him when he is sick, sad, or worn down, and feed him when he is hungry. Teen ho'es won't do that. Or will they? I have never spoken to one, I just assume they won't take care of a john outside of the cash for ass bit.

    On the other hand, if a man is among the better looking men at a swinger venue or party, or he just has good game, or he has a really big dick, he's rarely gonna go without. At least that has been my observation.

    You know who used to try to pay me for sex when I was a kid? Married men with babies. Married men with babies never really seem to hit on me now, and the only one that did when I was in my early 20's wanted me to be a toy for him and his wife. Maybe married men with babies are a demographic with a high percentage of interest in sex with young prostitutes. I can't say it has ever been a struggle for me to meet men. I think the only thing with universal appeal is that most people want to have sex with someone they find physically attractive, mentally stimulating, who don't cost too much to be with in aggravation nor money. That doesn't always require a hooker, and often excludes teens.
     
  8. Vanilla Gorilla

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    Again, I never said that, thats just what is cemented in your head. I said 1 in 20, which represents 1 in 100 expanded to the whole population

    Exactly, you've never known any, you've never seen it. Again not any "teen hoe", that 1 in 20.

    Everything else you've said in that post puts you above average, say somewhere in he 85-95th percentile, when ranked on libido. I'm talking about that 99th percentile, who would never even bother attempting to stick with one guy for an length of time.

    Its useless in a way, as I'm trying to convince you on something you are never going to see. I'm male, and I'm trying to tell you, no, you dont know everything about all females


    this comment alone gives it away, why does he need any game, what does ability leading up to the bedroom have anything to do with his ability in the bedroom

    More for another thread, but why does that happen, not all of them, but a lot of them, once their kids get to a certain age, suddenly they have too much interest in younger ones. And its not just men. So again, what else are you missing that you never see, but has been happening around you the whole time. you were the way you were as a toddler, but at the 85th percentile, quadruple that, and you get that 99th percentile, who do you think at that age they were taking it out on
     
  9. VerySexual

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    Having "game" is the difference between getting laid and not. "Game" is what the female in nature is looking for. Having "game" is what leads to marriage and kids, or kids and marriage, or just kids...well you get the picture. Guys ask all the time what is the "right game?" That all depends on what the female is looking for.

    It works the other way also. I have dated women who didn't attract me until they engaged me in some sort of "game." It made me do a double take. Their "game" made me say, "hey, don't I know you from somewhere?" It's nice when a lady has "game" and uses it on me. Thanks girls!!!
     
  10. simplelife123

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    Each gender has their pros and cons, for guys there's just a lot of competition and if you're not an alpha or dominant male you just want get anywhere if you're just looking for sex. If you're looking for a relationship it's easier. It also depends on standards a lot of men have lowered their standards to get laid. We're I used to work in this town there was this ugly, old feral woman and all the men who weren't getting any they all went to her because for a small price she did things. Going to sex parties and orgies as a single male isn't somethng I'll ever do due to the discomfort of it all, unless it's a specified party where men are needed for a gangbang.

    I feel for the women though as they have to deal with a lot of shit from men, a lot are pigs and end up ruining experiences and they never do them again, one thing I've learnt is women are very protective of their sexuality and who they let in, some are quite open with a partner but a lot are very protective with strangers, I was told the one thing they need is to feel safe and comfortable, which is fair enough.
     
  11. buzzgunner

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    Samantha, just ignore the assholes. They're either trolling or they're just plain jealous. Personally, I envy you for the opportunity to have the kind of sex you want, as much as you want, and as often as you want. I'm sorry to say that, as a man, my sex life has never been that fulfilling. I'm not sorry that I'm a man, but I do wish that my sex life involved more variety and frequency.
     
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  12. Annwyn'Bri

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    I agree.. I got the same crap when I rejoined because they all thought I was a new member. But I'm not, I've been on this site since 2006.

    So, Samantha, don't let anyone get to you.. just block the ones that bug you. That's what I did.
     
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  13. sunfighter

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    My ignore list is growing fast. Hipforums in the last few years seems overrun by morons, psychopaths, and mental defectives and now we have no reputation system.
     
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  14. TheSamantha

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    Thanks so much for that. That's what I expected to hear. There was some sorrow, but security in manhood (which deserves respect because it takes effort) and maybe like no biggie. :)

    FWIW, I haven't fucked in like six weeks. The best dick I ever had (especially with weed) got a girlfriend and now he's too good for me because he works out and I'm some lazy fatass haha. See "Asshole Fwb".

    But I'm definitely going to the next sex party in December. I enjoyed it with the guy who runs it and this other guy. Good dick is a dime a dozen.

    Above isn't why I haven't fucked in six weeks. I've been exhausted from work for one thing and for another thing I've become spiritual (New Agey). :)
     
  15. TheSamantha

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    Wow, this is a huge turnaround. I thought I was the weirdo who was way too honest.

    On the surface if you just saw the screen name you would probably think I was showing off or using an alter ego, like I'm some socialite or seductress lol. I don't even like Sex and the City that much.

    I like to be honest and open on the Internet. That's why I always use sexual screen names. That's the most vulnerable (to abuse, envy, bullying, lecturing) part of myself so I want to be seen and received.

    I was just wondering what had become of this place. It was so hippie-like before.

    Things like this make me feel so good about being on this site. :)
     
  16. I'll Be Waiting

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    Men have crosses, women have crosses. The difference is, women get to whine about theirs!! For example I can't just out "oh, I really wish I could get laid". All a man can do is to keep persevering while having a positive attitude.
     
  17. I'll Be Waiting

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    Well it's still all about SEX
     
  18. TheSamantha

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    This section not the whole site
     
  19. I'll Be Waiting

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    The sex forums are clearly the most popular ones, and it's most likely how we all ended up stummling upon hipforums. With all the sex ads, this site is clearly about sex!
     
  20. sunfighter

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    Really? I don't think of it that way. I think HipForums is for people who are "hip" -- who know or think they know what is really going on the world.
     

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