I'm Frustrated.....

Discussion in 'The Whiners' started by Ashalicious, Apr 30, 2016.

  1. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    He has told the neighbor below us that he suffers from depression and has been diagnosed as bi polar.
     
  2. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    I am so worried that talking to him will do exactly that, and the LAST thing I would ever want to do is make him feel worse...
     
  3. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Waddayagonnado Staff Member Lifetime Supporter Super Moderator

    he probably stays inside and builds up a sweat wanking to cam porn
     
  4. Mattekat

    Mattekat Ice Queen of The North

    So I Googled social services in vancouver to see where you need to call and there doesn't seem to be much information online. The best I can come up with is to call your local police station or the 311 number (not 911) and ask for the number for social services. 311 might be the best place to start.
     
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  5. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    Here is the letter my husband wrote to the neighbor.

    Dear Ahmet,

    Until recently we have enjoyed having you as our neighbor. You have been pleasant to talk to and seem like a really nice guy. However, recently we have been worried about you because of a lack of personal hygiene. Having done some internet research on the matter, we suspect that you may be feeling very down and depressed and we are concerned for your well-being. We have considered calling social services and if we knew a way to contact your family members to tell them they should be concerned, we would.

    We are very sorry to be forced to write this, but something has to be done about the smell coming from your apartment. We assume you cannot smell it yourself because you have become used to it. However, to us and our visitors it has become extremely distasteful.

    It began as an odor in the hallway that became stronger the closer we got to your door. Sometimes there is also a lingering body odor in the elevator that smells the same as the hallway. While these odors were unpleasant, we did not wish to butt into your business so we didn’t say anything. Recently however we have begun to smell this odor in our own bedroom, which is through the wall from your bedroom.

    In the cooler months it does not smell as bad, but now that we are into the warmer months the smell has become increasingly difficult to put up with. We left you a note and you appeared to be offended when we saw you in the elevator. It is not a pleasant task to be forced to tell another adult that their personal hygiene practices are offensive, but we have no other choice.

    We respectfully request that you wash all of your clothing and bed sheets. Then please use a product like Febreeze on cloth surfaces that can’t be put into the washing machine. Common practice is to shower daily and wash one’s hair at least twice per week.

    While this is very difficult to have to write, and also difficult to have to read, it will certainly improve the way you are treated by others if you do as we request. Out of respect for your privacy and not wanting to publicly humiliate you by bringing in the landlord, this letter is meant as an effort to let you deal with this problem yourself. If we do not see you take any active measures to address this issue we will be forced to involve the landlord.

    We will be delivering this to him tonight, and give him one week to fix the problem. If the problem persists after one week, then we will be contacting social services and the landlord and making a big stink (no pun intended).
     
  6. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    The thing with calling social services, is the problem is intermittent. Some days, it doesn't smell at all. It is actually on really warm days that we notice the smell the most. Because he never opens his windows, when the sun beams through them, it heats the place up, and the smell then exudes through the wall and into the hallway.

    If we do call social services (and if the problem still persists after a week of us giving him the letter my husband wrote), they likely will take a few days before they can come for a visit, and it is possible they may come on a non-stinky day.
    Thank you for taking the time to google. 311 is great, I actually just called 311 today, to inquire about apartment buildings having mandatory wheelchair accessible entry, because I had one hell of a time getting the stroller into the apartment building this morning.
     
  7. Are you telling us that Canada isn't perfect? This is not standard internet procedure. ;)
     
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  8. The intermittent thing still makes me wonder if you have it all correct.

    If it was about bad hygiene the smell would be there all the time.

    Sure it isn't just about some kind of food he likes cooking you are unfamiliar with and stinks out the apartment off and on?
     
  9. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    I know what you mean.

    When he rides the elevator, it reeks for at least an hour after he's been in it. MAYBE it is his food, but I've never seen him bring groceries into the building in the three years he's lived next to us.

    And his clothes look dirty, his hair looks greasy, his t-shirts look like they haven't been washed in weeks.

    And if it was the food, then why does my bedroom wall just reek like BO?

    Our apartment is south facing, and when the sun shines in the windows, it gets uncomfortably hot. So to me it makes sense why we only smell him when the sun is out.
     
  10. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    I just did some research on Turkish Cuisine, and it doesn't look like anything that would cause a stench similar to that of BO........
     
  11. If he was dead, would the body smell worse?
     
  12. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    Probably.

    I don't see the point of your question, though. I am aware that there could be worse things to deal with. Bed bugs, for example, would be a much larger problem than simply having a stinky neighbor. Or if were the smell of shit exuding through the walls, instead of the smell of BO. But should we just tolerate this issue because, when put into perspective, there are far worse problems to have?

    I went to bed last night with the intention of getting fucked by my husband, but as soon as my head hit the pillow and I smelled the neighbor through the walls, I had zero sexual desire. So now this issue is having a negative effect on my sex life, and my marriage. That, to me, is reason enough to not have to simply tolerate this problem, even though, in the grand scheme of things, things could be far worse.
     
  13. Aerianne

    Aerianne Crazy Cat Lady Staff Member Super Moderator

    You don't know.

    He may be trying to cover that odor up with other odors.
     
  14. Aerianne

    Aerianne Crazy Cat Lady Staff Member Super Moderator

    Call the police, tell them who you are, ask them to do a welfare check because it smells like a dead body is in that apartment.
     
  15. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

    Lol @ still neglecting the option of not knocking at his door and ask him about the smell first but instead send a letter in which you already assume he's down and depressed. Can't see how he takes this the wrong way!
     
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  16. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    Because both my husband and I agreed we dread standing at his door amidst the stench.

    Anyway, we are going to re-write the letter and write something more short and to the point. My husband did need to write the first letter because it helped him vent and get things off of his chest, but we both agreed after reading it a few times, that it is too personal.
     
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  17. Aerianne

    Aerianne Crazy Cat Lady Staff Member Super Moderator

    Just be like, "Dude, WTF is that smell!? It's very strong!"
     
  18. Aerianne

    Aerianne Crazy Cat Lady Staff Member Super Moderator

  19. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

    Wow, the original post there had a lot of parallels to our problem. Thank you for finding that for me.

    I think a simple "Dude, what the heck is that smell coming from your apartment?" the next time we see him, might not be a bad idea. In fact, there have been MANY great ideas from people here. I guess it comes down to deciding which idea to implement.

    Fortunately, our bedroom didn't smell at all last night, and I had a fantastic sleep.
     
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  20. Aerianne

    Aerianne Crazy Cat Lady Staff Member Super Moderator

    Yeah, start off being casual like,

    "You cooking something? Sure does smell strong. In fact we get it all the time inside our apartment. Is it a cooking smell?"
     
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