I Don't Understand How To Have Casual Sex

That's what I was trying to say and it you said it so well. It takes a lot of effort to have no emotional connection and even it is easy to have no emotional connection the person tends to have a lack of emotional stability in other parts of their lives.

I still recommend complete honesty and clarity if you're going to go for casual sex...it's just better to be on the same page.

 

some very good points

 

Keep telling yourself that

 

This reminds me of a jazz anecdote: Miles complained to Coltrane his solos were too long. 'Trane goes "I can't stop." Miles says, "Try taking the sax out your mouth."

To the OP: try putting your prick inside someone.

 

oh thanks cherea. That's some really helpful advice.

 

I easily had what it took to pick up women. I never did though. I know why now, but I didn't for a long while. Now it's too late--------



And no--not gay.

 

If I was in your situation I would look for casual sex with a friend. The companionship will already be there because of the friendship and because it's a friendship it won't have the aspects of a romantic relationship. Also, proximity is in your favor because they're already there and they have made a comfortable area within your life. And you don't have to put in a lot of effort because there is an already established interaction.

You can also find casual sex here, or similar networking websites like these. You just have to be specific on what you want, because when it comes to the Internet... there are a lot of different kinds of people. Yes, that is true in person as well, but you don't encounter them or at least you don't know you're encountering them.

 

casual sex is the only kind i am capable of, and it isnt that important or a primary driving force in my life. at one point, i thought i knew what love was, it was the meaning of life ... looking back it seems just like another drug, another distraction. i believe love exists but i dont believe that one must enter into mutual pair bonding to be successful at what one wishes to pursue. a time and a place for everything, different times and places, different for every person at every time in any place.

 

no. please don't encourage the creeps.

 

What do you mean?

 

^ a lot of horny guys join this forum just so they can make a thread that says something like "hey, any ladiez liek the sexy? lets chat and hav sum fun. send me pix at i'mahornycreep@gmail.com," and then disappear forever.

those threads are annoying and i'd rather not advertise that they might ever actually work.

 

Oh, I didn't think the OP would take such a crude approach to finding casual sex on here or similar websites. Don't get me wrong, I've seen the threads you type of, but I just wasn't thinking the OP would go that route. If he takes my advice, I'm thinking he would make a thread asking if anyone, particularly females wanted to chat because he's bored and open to meeting new people. And in private he would be respectful and not just be like "Show me your tits, so I can cum on them". It's just going to be a chat between him and a girl, and if they hit it off, then maybe... you know. Doesn't have to be such a big deal, demeaning or vulgar in any way.

 

nah, not the OP. other people will read this thread though...

 

Well, I think someone who does take that approach probably wouldn't read my message in the first place because it's coming from someone without a default picture or any information on their profile. Also, my message is not the first or last message within this thread, which is primarily what most people read. Lastly, it doesn't have twitchy smileys or something of that sort to catch someone's attention. Oh, and was my message long? Because we all know people don't read long messages. Thank goodness, I use spaces because people definitely wouldn't read anything from me then.

 

After my first casual sex experience, I thought it wasn't for me. I had to test that thought out a few more times. Conclusion is the same, casual sex isn't for me. I tried it, not for me. I am worth more than just a fuck.

I would prefer to be in some type relationship.

 

And that relationship Doesn't have to involve Love Necessarily IMO
Trust , friendship, mutual respect and caring go a long way towards the feelgood that sex is meant to give


PS
I could be talking Bollox though cos I am an old fart

 

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Casual sex? I can't do it. Tried. Failed miserably. Too bad, really... Can't separate my beating heart from my throbbing pussy.

 

Even when you know you are not ready for a serious relationship - casual sex always has emotions attached - unless of course it's a one night stand and you never see each other ever again. If your going to venture after casual sex and you find someone with the same intent and your attracted to each other enough to go for it - number one rule: communicate your intentions and why these are your intentions. If the intentions change - communicate it - don't be an asshole. Some people truly are looking for discrete, uncomplicated and casual sex. But don't hook up too often and don't get into a routine - keep it random and infrequent.

 

You're right, I would probably not be so crude, but I'm not going to try to hookup with people on HF simply because there aren't too many Hipforumsers from my area (I think).

It's interesting for me to look back at this thread again, because I'm finding myself in a similar situation. I'm trying to go to school and pay for my home and food etc. with just the money I make during the summer and, for me to get the kind of grades I want in the kind of classes I take, my life needs to be so thoroughly schedules that there's not a spare minute for meeting people, and not a spare cent for spending on them either. I bet there's all sorts of girl students in the same sort of situation, but we're all running around in such a rush that we never really meet each other -- such is life in the world of cellphones and difficult university courses.

I've had one minor relationship type thing since the last time I looked at this thread, but I still don't really understand this world that TV and the internet seem to tell me exists, where people are just hooking up. I'm in university. Supposedly that's where these sorts of things happen. I'm even pretty good looking and very outgoing. I think I've got to stop thinking about sex so much.