How often is considered healthy/normal?

More foreplay might help. plenty of pussy licking

 

You need to introduce her to Bob (battery operated boyfriend).

 

Marry her. That'll put a stop to that nonsense once and for all!

 

Bob really gets around....doesn't he?

 

When it comes to sex, different people reach different satiation points.

It's pretty usual for a drop off of enthusiasm to occur in the body as the sexual relationship one has with a specific partner goes on. The excitement of it all that the body and mind experiences in newness cannot be maintained forever. We're just not wired that way.

So, what's healthy? Normal? Depends on how alluring the woman is. If, at 23, she's definitely hot, I'd expect most 32-year old males would appreciate a rate of once every 24 hours - maybe twice on the odd day. If she's not that hot, 3-4 times a week might be more realistic for satiation in the male.

Don't ask me about what females desire, though. They almost always have agendas that males are not at all privy to.

 

Healthy and normal is three times a day for men, three times a year for women.

It's like Woody Allen and Annie Hall in the movie visiting the sex therapist. Her: "Doctor I don't know what to do, he wants sex constantly, like three times a week" Him: "Doctor, I don't know what to do, she never wants sex, only like three times a week..."

 

My husband is 41 & can give it to me daily. Usually 2 time a day on the weekends. But if he can't then it's not a big deal for me

 

I was 27 in a hot relationship with a 20 year old. Loved her to bits and we lasted about 6 years.
She wanted sex a lot. I went along with it and enjoyed that roller-coaster.
And every man has a limit to his abilities.

So yeh, in the beginning we'd have sex first thing in the morning and later that day and before bed, most days. Sometimes she'd waken me about 4am and want it.
But we quickly discovered she liked oral sex and so, when we'd both cum, if she wanted more, I would go down on her and she would have more, whilst I would recover.
There were times I didn't rise to the occasion and she was ok with that because we played in other ways.
For someone so young and inexperienced when I met her, she was surprisingly accepting of the times I didn't get hard and of course, she was ok when I did other things to her.
The it reached the stage where oral and fingering was as frequent as sex and then it became that we did that more than penetrative sex.

After a while, maybe 6-8 months (I don't really recall how long it was - could have been a year), the frequency became more realistic and manageable. Twice a day perhaps.
Sometimes a few orgasms in one session and then nothing until next day.
Indeed, by that time, somedays, she'd take me out of my trousers as we kissed and hugged and then massage me because she didn't need it.

That was around the time when she felt the spark go and shortly afterwards she ended it.
But we kept meeting up and the seeing each other less often she realised it wasn't gone, it was just that she didn't need it so much.

And then she learned how to achieve success with masturbation.
She never did it when we were together and though I didn't believe her, she maintains to this day that she didn't need to do it until we split.
And she's said since that if she had masturbated as part of our relationship, instead of demanding full sex all the time, things would have turned out differently.

And she wishes they had turned out differently.

So, my suggestion, explore more ways to give her pleasure. It doesn't need to be penetrative.
That one I mentioned had stronger orgasms when receiving oral and using my fingers inside her.
In fact, when we broke up, that's what she wanted as much as sex, when we would hook up post relationship.

The issue in your posts that I think is concerning is the bit where you said

If you're not actually turned on enough to crave it with her, I wonder if it's either, she's not turning you on or you're not really that 'into her' - fancying her.

If she's not bothering to turn you on, (that would be selfish of her), it's no wonder your not gagging for it.
If she does try to turn you on and your body doesn't respond, then maybe you're just not into her sexually.

Neither suggests to me there's anything wrong with you physiologically.

hth

 

My wife and I have always been very sexually active. Our relationship started with her as my mistress and I as her lover, and there was something about that dynamic that made it especially hot. I guess it is the idea of forbidden sex.

Then we both got divorced and married each other and it was still hot for quite a long time, but in time the magic did fade. Because our relationship was so active, we wanted to keep that spark somehow. What made our relationship so active and so full of sexual tension for us was a combination of several things---there was the excitement of romance and the exploring of the body of a new partner, there was the excitement of forbidden sex, and there was an element of kink---for example, we would sometimes have sex within a short time after her husband (as she would put it) used her (We both loved it, but she was too jealous of my wife to want it the other way around) We wanted something that would keep that element alive. So after a year or two we discovered that sharing, as in an open relationship, brings up all those feelings. For most of the relationship, she was too jealous to share me, but I could live all that through her experiences. When she was with someone else, it was incredibly exciting to me, and then when she would come home, she would share everything they did as we made love. More often than not, multiple times. Sometimes I listened in, sometimes got to watch. Eventually she did give in to sharing me as well on occasion.

We have been together since 1987, and we never slowed down, that is until the last year or so on her part. We are in our 60's and she has osteoporosis. It is mild, and the doctor stresses that she get exercise, and that it really shouldn't be too life changing, but psychologically she thinks that she is too old now. I on the other hand am still as strong as a 30 or 40 year old, and would like to see us be more active.

Anyway, that may not be the answer for you. But maybe there is some other kink that can get the two of you going. Or might I suggest Tantric sex? For a short time, after our kids moved out, and before a grand kid moved in, we had a basement bedroom as our Tantric love den.

 

For us (Wife 65, Me 70) We are still sexually active 2-3 weekly. Sex has always been a priority for our personal health and mental wellbeing. It’s just very natural. We diet and walk daily.
What you put into your sex life is what “you” will get out of it at different stages of your life.

 

Alcohol is an erection killer. If you're drinking at all, you may want to stop for a while and see if that helps.

But no, there is nothing wrong with you. Your GF just seems to have a very high sex drive (which can be fun)!

 

No worries....that usually takes care of itself around 50.....

 

When I just read the OP question, my thought was whether what happened over those three days was continuous, or was it just over her her peak fertility days once every cycle. Then at the other extreme twice a week would be more than enough.
During evolution, most humans have become less affected my their menstrual cycle than other mammals. I don't have a clue how this happened.
To me wanting constant sex would suggest either a hormone imbalance, or a need for reassurance about her partners affection.
But as you mentioned, nothing is written in stone.

 

Speaking from a lot of experience, I find that most younger guys can get it up twice in rapid succession and then need a little break before a third round and most need a good nap to try a fourth time, if they can. So 10 times or more day for me typically would mean multiple guys

 

And some guys can hold off so the lady has more orgasms with a first-time hard cock
In my early 30s, with my then GF, we had a very intensely sexual relationship and when we had a real, 'everything-else-can-wait' type session, she would cum loads of times.
Even when she would say it was my turn to cum, I'd pass (at least a few times) and say that she should keep going until she was done.
There were a few times when I nearly went off but for her slowing down to let my cock calm down.

So, in an evening (with a couple of wake-ups during the night too), she could cum over 20 times. Big ones.
She actually counted them one time from when she had had 4 orgasms, which more than she'd ever had before.
And in that time-frame, I came about 3 or maybe 4 times.
It turned me on much more when I knew she was having a good time.
Apparently, I'm a 'giver'. Maybe I'm also a voyeur because I love to watch women cumming whether it's on my cock or some other way and to enjoy that I need to give and love to do it

I'm not certain that I could do so much now but, I can see no reason why not.
I cum up to 8 times a day on my own, especially if someone has turned me on (eg the day after I've enjoyed a real good sex session or cammed with a female FB) and I tend not to fall asleep after I've cum.
Of course I have drifted off when we were snuggled up together post-orgasm but, when not trying to drift off, sleep isn't on the agenda at all.

 

I think everyone is different and for a lot of different reasons. I know a girl on another forum who is in her mid thirties as is her boyfriend. He is barely interested and even when he is, it's her on her back and him on top getting it done quickly. She is never satisfied and uses the forum for inspiration and a whole lot of toys. Her drive is so high sometimes, that she has to masturbate at work in the bathroom for relief...sometimes more than once a day. She's not even sure that she would be satisfied if her boyfriend did it more often. I have another friend who doesn't have a high sex drive but her husband does and getting it 8 or 10 times a weekend isn't uncommon. She doesn't really want it but she admits to enjoying it once she starts getting it. Age, hormones, physical shape, meds,....all play a big role.

 

Almost 63. I don’t smoke drink or do drugs. Gym every day. I eat healthy but don’t deny myself. Sex with wife almost every day. Sex with fwb and fb several times per week. Hard on every morning. Cum 3-4 times per day. I’m fortunate I know but I respect my body and those I am with. I love sex and satisfying my partners