I'm on an online hookup site. A lot of the girls profiles say "come at me correct, or don't come at all." What is coming at them correct? Someone put me in the mindset. What is a GREAT introductory message? Because right now, I'm getting one response per about 20 messages sent.
That's not a terrible rate for a man. I'm a girl next door type. I'm attractive, but no one will mistake me for a model, you know? And when I was using OKCupid for meeting men, I received a minimum of ten messages a day, roughly 300/month. I responded to maybe 10 all month. Of those ten, I gave a phone number to maybe 3, and would end up meeting only one. Who was that one guy who stood out among 300 or so? He was good looking and had lots of pictures to prove it (none too provocative), had an informative, amusing, succinct profile with few or no grammatical/spelling errors, and did not send me a one-word message as an introduction. Instead, he sent a friendly greeting that indicated he read and understood my profile. I typically do NOT respond well to men using PUA techniques like negging. One exception wrote to me one sentence. "My profile is funnier than yours." It wasn't true, but his profile was witty, and he was gorgeous. The guy who gets picked to meet is guaranteed to get laid, pretty much. And the ones who got my number but then got blown off? I might decide to meet them a few weeks later, if I have room in my agenda. When I was single or in a non-monogamous relationship, I typically saw four dudes at once. If someone got a girlfriend, or moved, or we just drifted apart, I might go back online, or I might just call the dude I almost went out with last time, and see if he is still interested. But you don't wanna be wait-listed. You wanna be the guy who gets through the 300+ messages most women get. Oh yeah. And when you write to them, use spell check. I always felt like if a dude did not think I was important enough for spell check, he wasn't important enough to get into my pussy.
Come correct in full effect with all your holes in check, and before you get the butt the jim must be erect.
Would you mind helping me write an informative, amusing, succinct profile? Are we allowed to exchange contact info on here. If so, my email is farmerjohn1324@gmail.com. I won't take up too much of your time. Maybe just 10 minutes. I will tell you about myself and you can tell me how to make it into a good profile? Or we could just do it on here if you would want.
When you say a "friendly message" do you mean just "Hello. How are you today?"... that's pretty much my standard..... that doesn't exactly stick out.... going back to PUA techniques, how do I "peacock" to stand out lol... or do I just have to be genuinely attractive and intelligent?
So how exactly do I get through the 300+ messages most women get? It's not enough just to send a "friendly message." I am not particularly muscular, but I could work out more. Do you think my profile picture should be shirtless, of my face, or what do you think? To get to the top of the 300+ list, you must stand out in some way, and a "friendly message" isn't going to do that. What is the key?
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I can try to help you, but it might be easiest via google drive. Real time collaboration. I always liked profiles that had pictures of the guy out doing stuff. Pictures obviously taken by one of the many people who love spending time with him because he is so much fun and does interesting things. Selfies are okay, but not on heir own. I hate shirtless pictures. Hate. Other women like them. Who's in he majority? I couldn't tell you. But everyone and his brother has a shirtless pic, and unless you look like Michelangelo himself sculpted you, for me, it doesn't help. And even if you're a Greek God, take your shirtless picture at the beach, or on a camping trip, or something else contextual. And again, get a friend to do it. My profile mentioned a few skills I was interested in learning, restaurants I wanted to try, places I'd recently been, and a humorus fictional story about my ego creating a cleft in my skull, requiring me to wear a helmet to hold everything in. Obviously, I posted no photos in which I was wearing a helmet. Messages I found interesting asked me about my interests in a flirty way, which made it clear to me they were interested in sex and getting to know me, which is what I was looking for. Friendly does not mean asexual, and flirty does not mean crass. Find the balance, and strike it.
IOW they want you to come at them with a tazer & a net. Women love that kinky cop stuff for some strange reason....
I just realized I can simplify it for you. They want you to have good social skills, good manners, be interesting and not creepy, or not to bother them because they have a dozen more messages to open.