some married men are secretly gay?

since HS ive heard lots of guys talk about fucking there gfs(not wives)in the ass
is that because they are secretly gay & unable to avoid the standards of modern america
of men marrying women?there are tons of secret gays out there...
i know when a man is gay(and they are just fine getting along in the world)
because they tend to be more friendly to guys
me because im str8 i am friends with a few guys(not because im a hater its because i don't
get along with friends i used to know...)
but i notice alot of gay men *ignore women usually...funny...