Necking, Spooning, Defined by One's Position

Kissing. Caressing. Showing love in a sentimental manner. Close contact. Lying on your side with knees drawn up with the back of one tucked into the front of the other. Every possible skin to skin contact is attempted without the involvement of stimulation of the genitals, sodomy, or coitus.

Sounds like fun. Where do I get me some of that? But then--after my mind wanders about the many images of whom I might want the partner to be (surely not from the faces in a mug shot book)--I am left with the question that always leaves me cold. Top or bottom? These two seem to make a popular question that is asked without any shame or guilt. Would you ask a stranger what his annual earnings are? To me, the question of tops or bottoms should be relegated to the question, "Which part of the PJ set do you wear to bed?"

I think about the positioning that I enjoy when performing foreplay. Sometimes foreplay is all I crave as I seem to have an endless hunger for the contact. The only time foreplay falls short is in instances of bad breath or less than satisfactory personal hygiene. I don't care how French a man's accent might be, garlic breath is certainly going to be a big turn-off to my way of thinking. And the same holds true for sweaty pits or parts that rub together and hold in the odor of the unwashed skin.

And please, let's not discuss the cut versus uncut. There are whole movements in this country that cry about circumcision's being a body mutilation. Sorry, children, but it's part of my tribe's culture and I am perfectly A.O.K. with keeping the status quo.

But regarding the definition of who I am based on what position I take during sex... I find it to be a turn off and will generally not go any further with the conversation.