Yea, I knew that would pique you girls’ interest. So thanks for reading and reply if you feel compelled to do so. At certain point in discourse with various girls/women, I ask what they find attractive in a guy. The reply usually goes like this, “Well, I like a guy with good looks of course, sense of humor, a nice guy who is not a jerk and…” As soon as I hear this, I know she is accessing her logical brain and NOT her powerful emotive side; it really is not her fault in that I am the one who asked in the first place. Yet, she has unwittingly told me everything I need to know to strike a non-physical attraction BECAUSE these same women are the ones who, after attracting a ‘nice’ guy, get bored after the novelty flags. Ironically, the very ‘niceness’ they claimed to find attractive is that which murders their state of attraction in the end. Yet, they cannot deny an EMOTIONAL response to a guy who puts them in state, state being that frame wherein they are compelled to CHASE HIM, wondering what HE thinks of THEM, instead of the other way around—which is the way it works for most initial approaches. And guys, here is the good news, this has little or nothing to do with looks! Can you believe that? I have found we guys believe looks are paramount to women’s attraction because they are paramount TO US. This resonates with my observation of past friends who could attract 10s consistently while not really being the tallest Adonis on the block. It just seems these male attributes are found in ‘jerks’ because jerks are NOT supplicating to women’s thoughts of him. He could care less. He bestows upon himself the right of directness and ratifies it with no apologies. It seems being a ‘jerk’ is necessary AT FIRST to penetrate or tunnel under a girl’s ‘b*tch shield’, if you will; and I think you will. So yea, we might be jerks; but only for a little while, longer for hot babes in the nether-regions of 9.0-10 but, this is only necessary because 10s are getting approached AT LEAST 12 TIMES A DAY by, well, lame dudes who employ the same banal metaphors of communication that every other guy does. So, consequently, women have, possibly unconsciously, learned to dismiss the legions of uninitiated guys via an expedient, namely the ‘b*tch shield’. Accordingly, I do not think all women who initially demonstrate surly attributions really are what they appear to be. In these cases, these beautiful women really ARE more then meets the eye! So guys, when you talk to a women and she seems to b*tch you off, get in touch with that inviolable space within you, check your body language, and wield that sense of humor with the intrinsic confidence of your male being. And most importantly, have fun with the interaction insomuch as what may ostensibly be an unsalvageable social situation may eventuate an amazing relationship.
WOW...you have done insightful research into the female's mind...now that you mention it, we ARE that way...lmao
Oh I know all about the bitch shield. I love the bitch shield. Nothing quite gets me off like knocking that shit down a notch. Once I was working on a TV spec pilot shoot, and the lead actress had had this sexy costume custom-designed for her. Throughout the day I was too busy to actually watch what they were shooting, but near the end of it I got to talking to the costume designer, who turns out to be a really fantastic and intriguing woman. So the next time I saw the lead actress, she was wearing a jacket over the costume and I asked her if I could see it because I was interested in seeing Oliviera's (the designer's) work. She flipped. "What? I've been wearing this ALL DAY and you haven't seen me?!? You're joking right?" (I'd SEEN her of course but I hadn't paid her any attention) "No. I've been busy with other stuff" (she takes her jacket off, as she models it) "You really haven't seen me?" "Nope" "Are you sure?" "Yes" ah I love actresses.
