Would you consider me slutty?

I have a slut book - a little notebook where I keep a running list of all of the guys (and girls) I've hooked up with. It has their initials, the age I was when I hooked up with him/her and what we did.

I'm 19 and I first made out with someone when I was 14, so the list starts there.

I've had some kind of contact (from making out to sex) with 34 people. 28 were guys, 6 were girls.

I've had sex with 6 of the guys, oral with 12 (pretty equal give and receive, except one didn't give and one didn't receive), and fingered one of the girls I hooked up with. Is that a lot in 5 years? I only seriously dated two of the guys I had sex with. I'm exclusive with the last one.

Would you consider someone like me slutty? I'm what you'd call a closet slut I guess. I look really proper and classy and act it, but...I'm really horny.

 

Only 6 guys. No, that's pretty tame. Actually, if you remember them all means you're not slutty.

Like, I don't remember all the women I've been with. I stopped counting at 20 sexual partners. I'm probably somewhere between 30-40. I don't think I hit 50 women yet, but I'm working on it.

But I'm also much older than you. At 19, I had been with only 1 woman and made out with 2 or so.

 

No need to be a slave to labels, just do what makes you happy. Life is short.

Be safe.

 

I've also never made out with someone whose name I didn't know. I feel like that's the epitome of college but somehow I evade it.

I get tested every year and am pretty safe.

 

I'm extremely sexual, too. Like, a sex machine. Today, after having sex twice, I still found it in me to hit on this girl on my way home. Never had an std, though. Or children, which is lucky.

 

why are you asking? Is it something you care about?

 

I'd call you adventurous, not slutty

 

Do you consider yourself slutty? You do have a self proclaimed "slut book".

I personally wouldn't call you slutty, more along the lines of adventurous.

 

Hahaha I was gonna say the same thing

 

what he said

 

I only consider people slutty if they are immorally promiscuous.
As long as you didn't lead any of those guys or girls into believing it was more than sex, or convinced them to have sex without protection (when they wanted to use it), no, I would just consider you experienced.

 

Who cares? "Slut" is just a derogatory term used by people who want to control what other people do.

It's not important how many people you've had sex with, although I think it's charming that you keep a book. What is important is whether you are honest and open with your lovers. If you want to have ten lovers at the same time, or have sex with a different person every weekend, that's fine as long as you're honest and open about it with the people you're in relationship with.

 

theres nothing wrong with slutty

 

You slut.

 

What do you define as a slut?

 

A list? You gonna turn it into God after death? Have him grade it?

 

Go crazy.

 

No. Wanna hang out?

 

From experience alone, no, you're nowhere near a slut.

But you obviously try very hard, calling yourself a "closet slut" on the internet and keeping a junior high style "slut book".

 

I mean, I just wanna remember who I've hooked up with and when. Is that really so bad? I bet most people forget half the people they've kissed but I don't want to.

I don't think I'm a slut, but some of my friends do and it pisses me off.