Women: How often do you like to "get off"?

I'm married, and my wife can only get off through oral sex. This is not a big deal for me, as I thoroughly enjoy giving oral sex (and she is well aware of this).

Here is my "problem": She only likes to get off about once every OTHER month (about 6 times a year). She does not think this is unusual in any way. She says that it "takes too long" for her to orgasm, and thus does not want to do it any more often.

It takes anywhere from 12-20 minutes for her to climax (which doesn't bother me at all, as I LOVE doing it).

So, am I insane, or is the frequency of her orgasms a little low?

 

wow... it is low... well without readin your first post i was gonna answer "as much as possible", and this definitely means more than 6 times a year !!! (geez, six times a year....)


anyways, if she still has thex with u without gettin off its not such a big deal, altho u might find it unpleasant that u dont make her climax... but if everybodys happy, i guess its all good, no?

 

Let me try to explain what it's like from the female perspective. Women have hormonal fluctuations every month. Men have a steady supply of testosterone and can usually perform and have orgasm everytime they have sex. Well, it's not that way for women, I don't care what they say. The longer a woman goes without an orgasm the more intense and sensational the orgasm is when she does have one. Not having one does not necessarily mean she isn't enjoying the pleasure of being with you. She may rather let the tension build for her so it is better when she does have one. There are times when I am ready to go instantly because of where I am in the hormonal cycle. Also, there are times when I could care less about it. Even doctors don't seem to know about this, I think that people should educate themselves about the female hormones and cycles.

 

true. but still, waitin for a month without ever havin an orgasm is LONG.

and thats very true too. thats why i said it was all good in the end. as long as everybodys satisfied theres no need to worry

 

Yeah, I've only gotten off through oral with my current beau.. and it takes me at least 20 minutes as well. I'm not gonna freak out if I don't cum every time we're together (though it is frustrating when you're right at the edge for like, 5 straight minutes without ever actually cumming). But just because it takes me a while to cum doesn't mean I don't deserve to cum. Ask her why she only wants to cum every couple months - maybe there's something psychological that's preventing her from feeling she deserves to cum (I used to feel that way for a while, low self esteem and all). Try making her cum every month, then every couple weeks... set a romantic atmosphere, a time when neither of you have to do anything for hours and hours, and just go to work on her. Let her know how much you love her. And try to be understanding. Hope everything works out!

 

You got married dude, what did you expect?

 

Believe me, I DO ask EVERY time me make love if I can lick her, but more often than not (obviously), the answer is "no".

She is told very often how much I love her and think she's sexy.. etc. I am a very affectionate person, and enjoy giving random hugs and kisses all throughout the day.

The problem is not finding time (In my opinion), but that she rarely gets in the mood to where she wants to get off.

Thanks for all the responses so far!

 

6 times a year? Wow. I don't think I could go a month without "feeling good". I really do get bitchy if I don't get satisfied several times a week, if not more depending on my mood.

 

personally i'd be offended if my wife only got off 6 times a year, hormonal fluxuations or not. its not like holding off doenst make it more intense for guys as well.