Why would you stay friends with an ex?

This guy and girl meet, become friendly, get involved in a relationship together, and break up all in less than a month.
But they are friends.
What does it mean if you stay friends with an ex, no matter how short the relationship was?

 

i would say the shorter the relationship and the less you connect with the individual on a passionate, sexual level the easier it will be to become friends after. Typically, for me, I have long term relationships and due to this being friends after doesnt work out...for me..

 

I find that I can still be friends after a long term relationship but more on a long distance level...

 

Was married for 10 divorced for 7 so far we have remained friends. Just because relationships dont work dont mean friendships cant.

 

Friends= people you like a lot/can share things with/find intellectually or emotionally valuable/you care about but you don't necessarily want to fuck them.

That answers your question.

I can only imagine you would not stay friends with an ex if they had done something so terrible that these things no longer apply, they suddenly became incredibly boring, you had mistakenly attributed qualities to them during the relationship or you have emotional issues of your own so you'd rather keep things incredibly simple.

 

i'd happily set fire to my ex girlfriends head

call it a crime of passion :frown:

doesn't that say enough about an ex you can actually tolerate???

 

I'd say the only reason for remaining friends is that one of them feels sorry for the other one, so they say they are friends. This also works great in your next relationship, when your partner wonders why you are hanging out with a person of the opposite sex all the time. "Oh, we're just friends." Yep, right. Just friends.

 

I stayed friends with an ex for years and years. I believe our relationship wasn't meant to go as far as it did anyway.

Then he started dating a toothless stripper that was 10 years older than him, who left me many voicemails threatening to kill me, herself, and everyone else in a 50 mile radius, so I quit talking to him real soon after that...

Crazy people

 

Why does it have to mean something? People are my friends because I like them.

 

The attitudes of some of the people on here astound me...I'm surprised you ever get laid. If my partner ever felt like he couldn't have female friends because I might be harbouring some irrational jealousy I'd feel terrible and I'd set him straight. Are you honestly suggesting that anyone in a relationship must restrict their potential friends to 50% of the population, and any of their current friends who are of the opposite gender must be told to get lost? That's what it sounds like to me...

Having whatever friends you like is a basic right and there is no reason at all that a relationship should change that simply because of unfounded jealousy or inadequacy. You either trust your partner or you don't...you can't start imposing all these rules because you equate going for a drink with a friend with a fucking session.

Relationships are not supposed to be a prison. I trust and love my partner and want the best for him. He can have whatever friends he wants, even ones with tits and a vagina...even undeniably hot ones...because I'm not an inadequate sap.

 

I'd remain friends because I don't have anywhere else to live

 

You're right, it is a basic right. You also have the basic right to get a divorce, which over 50% of married couples do. Sad, isn't it?

I don't know if you've ever watched the movie "When Harry met Sally", but one basic truth they state in there is that a man wants to have sex with any woman who will let him. I don't expect any women to understand that.

I am a heterosexual male, happily married, and all my friends are males. I socialize with lots of women, and work with lots of women, but none of them are people I go have a Jack & Coke with just to talk and be friends. Somehow I am perfectly happy like that, and have managed to stay faithful to my wife for 21 years using that philosophy. And I get laid plenty, in case you were wondering.

 

Are you suggesting that having opposite gendered friends leads to divorce? I propose that it's far more common that petty jealousy, possessiveness, paranoia and closed-mindedness cause divorce.

I do understand that. It's called human biology. In evolutionary terms, it is advantageous for a man to pass on his genes to as many willing females as possible. I also understand that the very fact that we've rationalised this shows that our genes or our impulses do not rule us. You can make choices which are contrary to your deepest base nature, like using condoms, not pigging out on fatty food and turning down sex from gorgeous women because you value your marriage far more than a quick fuck.

Even if a man's sexual desire were uncontrollable (it never is) hiding himself away from other women is not the answer.

I'm happy for you. This really doesn't mean that other couples should do the same though. It is not only ok but perfectly normal and healthy to have friends of the opposite sex.

 

It is true that closed-mindedness causes divorce. If everyone just accepted everything, there would be no divorce. I guess the way it looks, most of the population is closed-minded.

 

hell no. why would you subject yourself to that?

or you still want to fuck them but can't anymore.

 

I don't understand why you question it...

 

QWhy would you stay friends with an ex?

A sex

 

^no it doesnt..its more that they are mature enough to realize that hating an X for no reason other than being an X id lame and loserish

 

My way, I`d still be fucking most girls from my past. I would only accumulate partners...with the exception of some bad experiences here and there, all the others would have been worth repeating today.

 

Kids ,for one reason. And fingermouse is right on the $. Respect and loving someone doesn't always have to fade away. The mother of my kids and her husband are great friends. We camp together,socialize and are still friends. As are the other women I have lived with.






















Because I am mister wonderful,of course.