Why Is It That Hard To Forget About Someone You Love?

I broke up with my ex about 3 months ago now and at this moments we r good mates but for some reason i cant get over her. I tried to get her out of my life by deleting and getting rid of everything about/of her but there is something that keeps me going bak.
My heart hurts quite alot because i guess i still love her but i cant carry on like this anymore, i love her but i dont need to go through this again...

I need to get over her and 4get abt her by any cost so please can someone help this lonely guy who is in pain rite now?

thanks

 

You know, sometimes getting over her at all costs isn't the best idea. I mean it took me two years to get over an ex of mine. It was hell missing her so much, but I wouldn't changed thoes two years for anything, I look back at them now, and they were pretty well spent years.

 

I miss my ex too, and its hard to think that there is no easy way for us to ever be together again, and these days, sometimes I wonder if I even want to.

 

If your trying to get over her, you might want to find a new roomate. Not to sound harsh, But its hard to get your mind off of her if you see her everyday when you wake up.

 

you can't forget her because you love her. Only when you make the *CHOICE* that you do not want to love her again, can you realize that you are ready to move on.

 

theres also almost degrees of moving on, i mean, my ex and i broke up 4 months ago, and its hard. I dont miss our relationship near the end (i mean, if it was great we wouldnt have broken up). He was just such a huge part of my life- my best friend and my lover for almost a year and a half- that i miss him so much. But i realized the difference- i miss us 6-18 months ago. I dont miss us after taht (the last 3 months or so). I miss him, i dont miss the relationship. I have great memories, i miss who he was and what we had. It helped me start to get over him, and now im at the point where i can talk about him, think about us, even talk to him without getting upset at all. There are times where i just sit and stare at a pic of the two of us- all my fest pics from my bday weekend have the two of us in them- and its sad. Its hard to admit that someone who was so special no longer holds such an important role in your life.


I can tell you though, we took some time apart, almost two months of barely even speaking (3 phone calls) and now were hoping that we can try to start over in forming a friendship again simply because its scary to think that wed completely lose touch. He played a major role in my life, there will always be a spot in my heart for him, but on the other hand right now a relationship wont work between us. (maybe someday, but if that happens well see. i cant spend my life waiting to/hoping to get back together with someone) And since he was such a major role in my life, since he was my best friend for such a long time- id want to have some friendhip with him.

You just have to talk yourself into/convince yourself that everythings okay, that you'll be fine, and that more or less its for the best. To get over it though its harder when youre friends with her... it will probably be easier for both of you to just take some time off, then hang out once youve both taken time to get over the hurt and pain of a breakup.

Its hard, but youve got to remember its part of life. Everyone goes through it at some point. Just be strong! (you have a forum full of people who are here for you )

 

Thanks people but the thing is that she doesnt leave with me, we met on msn n then started to meet up face 2 face n finally when we started to date, we r good friends but i need her out of my life but there is something abt her that keeps me going back to her, i dont know what to do.

 

Which two years? 4th and 5th grade? Your like 15, dude. How did you break up? Did she check the no box on the letter you sent to her in 3rd period?

 

the key to staying in love with someone is to never date them. you can love someone for years upon years that way...now falling out of love...i don't know...maybe you need to date her again to realize and remind yourself why you broke up.

 

I'll never want to get over any of my ex's, I'll love them forever and hope they will remember all the good times we've had together. I will always hold them close to my heart as loving them is and wil be always. I'll find peace in knowing they are loved and love and I'll never let go of all the happiest moments we shared together....
Love is forever, don't let it go.......

 

i don't miss my ex. eww. she was a two faced bitch.

 

my ex cheated on me there's no way would i'd take him back so i don't miss him at all

 

It took me forever to get over all of my exs. But now I am glad that those relationships ended because they really sucked but at that moment, I couldn't bring myself to leave them. Now I am glad that I did.

 

Man i know how you feel ...i was with this girl i loved for over 4 yrs and we got married ....it lasted bout a year..1/2 i still havent gotten over her yet and its been over 3 yrs ...in the past time i was with someone new but it didnt last ...i really dunno what it is bout that one girl..but anyway dude the pain might hang for awhile dont think of the bad things that ya went through think of the good times yall had it sorta helps but also kinda makes you miss her .....have you tryed to get back with her...????