Why do you go for hard to get men?/ boys?

I never understood going after a guy who I even thought may not like me. All my life it's been that I usualy like the guy who likes me back. I never could understand my countless friends who wanted that guy who didnt want them or who strung them along or whatever it was...Why waste your time ladies on men who dont like you? WHo you doubt? Who treat you like crap? Who dont call you or give you the time of day? who are terrible fathers and sometimes they abuse you? ( maybe a comination of these not even all at once.) Get what your worth and find the person who loves you for you!

 

Some people don't think they deserve a good partner.

Some people have lived with abuse all their lives and that is the only relationship that they know how to function in.

Some people fear committment, so they choose unavailable partners.

Some people are CERTAIN that everyone is going to leave them, so they push them out the door.

I'm sure others can add to the list...

I wish it wasn't so...

 

I dont know why this happens to me but i often meet men who i dont like at all but they like me, thats not my fault , sometimes im even sick of them, thats why im searching and cant be satisfied with what i have.

 

sometimes you cant actually help who you fall for, you may not want to and may feel you cant control it, especially if your hanging on subtle signs that it may be going somewhere. but you can get over it. and when the guy crosses the line and treats you like shit, in any way, it is time to move on.....and dont look back, just move

ive always been the type to fall for someone i found attractive, physically and their personality, appearance, whatever, i guess ive just always known what i like. but ive always been lucky to know when its time to let go, and been able to do it, before a real relationship even occured. i cant settle for someone im not 110% attracted to (and wont want to give my 110% too, also) or someone who doesnt completely adore me, inside and out and everywhere. i just can take it, i wont settle for less than what i give.

 

i really have never understood that either

 

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If you'd seen the guys that want me you wouldn't ask this question lol. (Teasing) I guess it has to do with likes and dislikes. Quiet as it's kept, women like to hunt just as much as a man. (It's gonna get really Indian in here in about a minute.) When we see our prey and we get that look like Warriors get the excitement is sexual. We have to pursue, capture, tame, and sometimes trap are prey for the survival of mankind. You see, men don't realize it at the time but they need us and not the one they like either.(with the tight skirt and the wow figure) They need a woman that can cook sew, and seperate underwear from other clothes. We need men to go out and catch our food or make money and complain about how much the food cost. This is the American way. (Don't try to change me 'cause I'm beautiful just as I am.)

 

Easy answer. These guys are popular because they are a challenge: typically they are the "alpha males" with plenty of alternatives from which to choose. Because they have a lot of things going for them, they are less likely to supplicate and try to win the favor of a woman. They tend to be confident and women like that.

So, it's a combination of a woman needing her ego soothed or boosted by winning over a challenge and the fact that these guys tend to be, in some fashion, cream of the crop that make them appear attractive to many.

It's hard-wired into female biology.

 

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Not even the creame of the crop, just their for the challenge lol.

 

In the past I have enjoyed the challenge of trying to win a guy over, though it rarely worked out for me. The ones that didnt' work out were assholes to begin with.

 

Elori, I can totally relate! I've had that problem all my life. For me it's like I meet these guys, who I either don't like whatsoever or I just see them as a friend, then all of a sudden a guy will come along who I'll be completely bowled over by and he'll be taken, whether he is married/engaged or just with someone. The guy I like at the moment is engaged and i just happen to work with him which is even worse and I keep getting mixed signals from him. My mind is telling me to forget about it and if there were plenty of "fish in the sea" as they say, I would, but to me personally that's bullshit. So I find myself hanging onto this guy. I just wish I could stop liking him in that way cos it's driving me mad!